Facts.

Hateorade_

April 15, 2021

1605 upvotes

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Title	Facts.
Author	Hateorade_
Upvotes	1605
Comments	33
Date	April 15, 2021 4:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mriyiw/facts/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/facts.763422 https://theredarchive.com/post/763422

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I wrote out a list and i still feel like crap ugh. I broke up with him because he ghosted me for 10 days. We were supposed to go out for our anniversary and he had to cancel twice after saying yes bc his mom wasn’t feeling well but then when I asked him how his mom was doing, he stopped talking to me. I then got sick of this treatment so I left. Before that, he invalidated my feelings when it came to me being upset that he wouldn’t FaceTime or call me during the pandemic, he flirted behind my back and when I confronted him about it, he told me to stop speaking to the friend who told me the news. He also love bombed me very early on (we were 18 when we first started talking so idk if it was because we were young)—the “I want to spend the rest of my life with you” type stuff but during our actual relationship, he freaked when his mom asked him when he was going to propose to me. He also freaked out as if I was having a child with him when nothing literally happened lol. Even when I write out this list, I still feel like I did something wrong by breaking up with him. I still feel like I’m the reason why things got bad... yes he did introduce me to his family and they loved me but that shouldn’t be an excuse.

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Agree with @w0rmsongs- It does sound like you dodged a bullet. Maybe it’s also hurting because you were picturing a future with him, and you badly want this beautiful future you imagined. The elements were there- a boyfriend who you were dating long enough to expect it to lead somewhere, met his family, etc. But it wasn’t amazing - he wasn’t pushing things forward with you (eg he was freaking out at the suggestion of a proposal) and wasn’t treating you like you deserve (eg ghosting, invalidating your feelings). I know it’s so hard (I do this too) but try not to imagine a hypothetical future, but instead look at what the day to day reality was like. If he’s like this pre-proposal, it would only get worse once he “locks you in” with engagement/marriage/babies. Forever is a long time- I wouldn’t wish it on you to be with a guy like this for the next 60+ years of your life. Sending hugs x

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