FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peace

sassyheather · 2021-08-04T22:34:10+00:00

As I like to say, it’s either the best man possible, or no man at all. I don’t need any half-assed men and won’t compromise my happiness ever again. ☀️

_queeeen_ · 2021-08-05T03:01:06+00:00

I am horny, but least I am whole. 💕💕💕 My life post-FDS and with far fewer LV people around is much happier.

ComprehensiveAmoeba9 · 2021-08-04T22:09:42+00:00

I grew up in a Christian community that pressures women into marriage and kids, and a lot of girls there married young (18-23). Before finding FDS, I placed a lot of my worth and value into what men thought of me and it led me to pickme behavior. Now, I’m focusing a lot of my energy on my personal growth such as leveling up in my career and my journey to becoming a HVW. It has been so much more fulfilling, and even though I have had a few setbacks, I remember that growth is never linear and doesn’t happen overnight. I’m getting better at setting boundaries and not allowing myself to be a doormat. It has filtered out both LVW and LVM👑🙌🏻

Risoa · 2021-08-05T01:22:45+00:00

After being on FDS for almost a full year, this speaks to my soul. Life becomes so much better once you adopt this mentality.

Datonecatladyukno · 2021-08-04T21:35:32+00:00

Amen

djfrankenjuice · 2021-08-04T22:49:02+00:00

Society really has been brainwashing us for hundreds of years. Those shackles are not light or easy to throw off. Love the support I get from FDS.

JesusisKingisLord · 2021-08-05T03:21:59+00:00

Amen! I was just telling a friend today that I can genuinely say thanks to FDS I no longer enter rooms wondering “What if I meet my future husband here?!” thoughts.

catsuramen · 2021-08-05T01:40:16+00:00

So true. In my pickme days, I was dishonest with myself and try to conform to whatever my ex wants me to be. Now, I am unapologetically myself and most importantly - be honest about what I am and what I want. Luckily, I found my HVM fiance who brings joy and peace everyday.

kinkardine · 2021-08-05T07:26:29+00:00

This. I can see one of my neighbours-she is damn awesome, she works and take care of home, kids, pretty resourceful when it comes to arranging quality family time with her friends, parents and siblings, neighbours and kids, she manages all her home maintenance, arranges childcare, takes care of her step kids to ensure they have some meaningful time. Her mom was telling me how she strategically bought and sell properties to eventually own a home. So far I could not even see her hubby pitching into any of her effort, managing the kids anytime, most of the time he is not even in the scene. She does all things on her own. But every time I tell her that I decided not to enter into any relationship, she gives me the weird look and says how crazy I am to think that I can manage alone, I hold the urge to point to her that I could see her doing it all alone, it’s time she understands male companionship is not a necessity and can become a major hindrance in your life’s agenda if not careful.

yog_yog · 2021-08-05T10:49:09+00:00

THANK YOU FOR THESE KIND WORDS! Sometimes I do forget and I need someone to remind me.

feelgoodlost_ · 2021-08-05T17:19:35+00:00

Basically, have my snacks ready for this solo mission. What’s the alternative? Stress, dysfunction, mediocrity, and too much work for little in return? Peace is infinitely better. Can’t touch this. ✌️

rjweingar · 2021-08-05T03:05:10+00:00

I thought that was FLS? Isn't this Female DATING Strategy?? (Not disagreeing with the point, but maybe we need to embrace a new name)

Title	FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peace
Author	Resident-Equipment95
Upvotes	929
Comments	23
Date	August 4, 2021 9:30 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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