Have you ever experience having disturbance in your monthly cycles with you were with an LVM/NVM?

Vmwvi · 2020-12-07T11:36:15+00:00

It's stress induced. Once the stress is gone, the disturbance is gone.

perhapsbutnottoday · 2020-12-07T13:53:44+00:00

The 2 fights that led to our break ups (breakup-makeup-breakup for good) were over him sleeping sweetly and soundly and gloating about it in the morning while I tossed and turned and only got into that weird 0500 sleep that’s typical of exhaustion. Turns out there was a framed photo of a girl under his bed. Ladies, trust your intuition, gut feeling whatever:our feminine energy does not lie. I got the feeling I was the side piece. You should have seen him wipe the frame ( I’d smashed the glass 🤷🏾‍♀️)so lovingly and say he didn’t know he still had that. Lvm come to steal, kill and destroy not just our ph balance, clear skin and calibrated menstrual cycles but even our energy at atomic levels. I hope she put a root on him and he always gets busted.

disposable20201129 · 2020-12-07T09:58:36+00:00

After I broke up with a toxic situationship, my cycle went off the rails for a few months, a super short one followed by a suuper long one.

failuretolaunchbf · 2020-12-07T11:25:04+00:00

Yes! I literally just went 2 months without a period, and now I've been bleeding for 1.5 weeks and slowly slowing down. Saw my doc, nothing's wrong. I was just so stressed.

_xyoungbellax_ · 2020-12-07T11:56:16+00:00

It was my sleep schedule, hundred percent. I'd sleep for maybe two hours because he was available only from 1am-4am (note the time, I should have noted). Because of that, I got dark circles, gastric and migraine problems flared up. I think if your body starts reacting, you should listen. It's giving you the red signal to stop the relationship altogether.

2020-12-07T14:03:09+00:00

No but my anxiety shot through the roof when I was seeing this guy a few years ago. I had lost weight and my mental health was in a terrible place. At the time, I had a difficult job which led me to date men just as an escape from reality, which is one of the worst things you can do. Thank God we only saw each other for a month or two.

VulcanSpaceSquirrel · 2020-12-07T14:06:55+00:00

That is stress for you.

My cycle gets extended or shortened depending on what I am going through.

Whenever I was with someone I was comfortable and happy with, the cycle seemed to hang on (what I like to call) The Marathon Pussy Stage. When I was with someone who stressed me out, that stage never seemed to happen. And my period cycle would be inconsistent.

BleuRaspbery · 2020-12-07T10:48:58+00:00

I have experienced this. Still waiting for it to return normal.

onceuponasea · 2020-12-07T15:20:00+00:00

I experienced anxiety through the roof, lack of motivation (I am very ambitious so this is always a sign that something is really wrong) and went into depression spells, suffered from body image issues and had a really hard time staying asleep. My period was always fine. As soon as I left him, my mind was so quiet, my body image issues vanished, and my sleep got better and better the longer I went without talking to him, my body felt like it could relax again. The body knows what’s up.

2020-12-07T15:55:03+00:00

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CoffeeBeforeAdulty · 2020-12-07T16:34:23+00:00

I already have a rather inconsistent period, but my first "partner" was the worst. 🙄 So much stress over someone so toxic and gross.

Sleep problems, memory problems, and when my period seemed later than usual (thankfully after he dumped me), I freaked. Starting the bleeding part was replaced with 3 mornings of what seemed like morning sickness. I was horrified.

He said he would help if I was really pregnant, but it just made me never want to be anywhere near him. That man? The father of a child I never wanted? Noooo. I was 18, and I cried with relief when my period finally started.

He was the type to use you for sex but get upset if/once he realized it was mutual. 🙄 In which case, you broke his heart and he "loved you soooo much". 🤮 gtfo of here, jizz blanket.

super_thinker_ · 2020-12-07T16:37:13+00:00

Yes!! Thank you for posting this! We all need to become more aware of what these LVM are doing to our health.

My period stopped for 4 months when I was stuck in an abusive relationship. The stress of being with him made me lose so much sleep and weight. I was fainting and getting sick all the time too.

On the flip side, the one HVM I've dated (things didn't work out because of some differences in lifestyle choices) made my period come like clockwork. It was like he was melting all of my stress away and putting my body into a constant state of feeling relaxed and safe.

featherflowers · 2020-12-07T16:57:07+00:00

I was diagnosed with two chronic illnesses in the final year I was with my narcissistic NVM ex fiance. He made me go on birth control because my sex drive was too high for him which obliviously really messed up all my natural cycles. Since I've left him the majority of the chronic illness symptoms have decreased or stopped entirely but it took over a year.

omfgreuben · 2020-12-07T18:41:47+00:00

My reproductive system has turned out to be my canary in the coal mine

When I was still married, there was a whole year towards the end where I just constantly lightly bled. My ovaries were basically big clusters of cysts when I got an ultrasound that same year (which I figured since they'd rupture painfully every now and then). Go figure 2 months into being single everything got back on track.

Looking back, every time I got involved with a NVM dirt bag, after a month or two I'd start cramping, spotting and bleeding out of nowhere, then have a couple of ovarian cysts burst and knock me on my ass. Oh lord and horrible cystic acne.

Now that I'm doing my own thing, my cycles are regular, ovarian cysts are far less frequent, and acne is back to the usual hormonal breakout every month

sassenachpants · 2020-12-07T23:39:27+00:00

Constant, and I mean constant candida issues. As soon as I broke up with him it stopped. Never had that before. My vagina hated him.

thenevacat · 2020-12-07T11:34:26+00:00

Yes. Because of the stress they caused. Happens too with work or school sometimes, but always the reason is stress.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-07T21:02:59+00:00

My periods were brutal throughout my marriage, they just got worse and worse every year. I was looking at a hysterectomy and doctor shopping for one who would do it (because I'm ONLY 40 and my husband may have decided he wants more babies and of course I would have to oblige, fucking misogynist doctors, but I digress.)

Anyways, got him out of my house in September, divorce finalized September 11. Worked overtime through my periods in September, October, and November. Each one easier than the last. I'm not going to pretend they're fun now but they're tolerable.

Your body knows, even if you don't consciously see it, your body is reacting to it.

Title	Have you ever experience having disturbance in your monthly cycles with you were with an LVM/NVM?
Author	Responsible_Exit_315
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Date	December 7, 2020 9:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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