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[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist167 points168 points169 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is absolutely about Pickmeisha AND Bob-the-Builder “let’s build together” type. Very sad 🤡
[–][deleted] 201 points202 points203 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Holy fuck, more women need to see this shit. This is ACTUALLY how men think. If you stick around while a man is broke and "help him build," you're an idiot that he will never respect. Yet if you want a man to have his shit together, you're labeled as a "gold digger" or a shallow thot.
No matter how we choose to love men, we will be villianized for it. So this is why you focus only on maximum benefit for yourself in your relationships!!
[–][deleted] 38 points39 points40 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Correct. There is no winning. There never will be. That’s why we don’t play.
[–]themissdaydreamerFDS Disciple99 points100 points101 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
uh I've put up with all kinds of broke men because of this "being there when you had nothing" crap.
[–]cheesebuns4lyfeyoyo71 points72 points73 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I dated a guy who ended up homeless for a few months, so I brought him food and beer to his tent. Six months months after he landed a job he called me a gold digging whore for expecting a birthday present.
[–]spotsandstripes9FDS Newbie47 points48 points49 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same 😭 “pick me” logic had me pining after man children that I felt sorry for.
Later, becoming a leftist made me feel guilty about wanting to date men who were as successful as I was.
[–][deleted] 91 points92 points93 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men unfortunately treat women who do not perceive as worthy as practice tools or sex objects. that is horrible. better to be alone than be treated like that.
[–]cheesebuns4lyfeyoyo49 points50 points51 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
These are the people being talked about when they say "you teach people how to treat you". If you bend over backwards to lay down for a man like this, he will assume you are part of the furniture and think nothing of it.
[–]jalapenopancakesRuthless Strategist43 points44 points45 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I need to print this and put it up on a few of my friends mirrors. DAMN.
[–]TheWordLilliputianPickmeisha™️7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly what I’m doing with my journals that I never keep up eithblol
[–]lightningboltxFDS Newbie180 points181 points182 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
And this is why we say that men know exactly what they want. If they don't propose within 2 years, you're being played sis. They're just using you till they can fetch their wife
[–]cranetrainFDS Newbie60 points61 points62 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I wasted all my pretty years and then some on a dud like this and missed out on the life I wanted. I was such a fool. But that's made me even more determined to steer other women away from such stupid, self-destructive choices. Thank goddess for this sub.
[–]kyle2823FDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't be so harsh on your younger self for choosing the wrong person. I'm sure you have plenty of time to get over that and get the life you want. You are the queen of your own destiny, no man can keep you down.
[–]CroneRaisedMaidenFDS Newbie34 points35 points36 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don’t think I’ve ever stayed in a relationship for 2 years, maybe someday but I’m in no rush
[–]lightningboltxFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But that's your choice, which is good. If a man made you wait more than 2 years, that would have been suspect
[–]queenoficeandfire25FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think there are certain exceptions like when my bestie was getting her PhD at the same time as her boyfriend (who she met in the program) so they dated for almost 4 years first. They made sure to both be doctors before the engagement but they had discussed marriage plenty before then. But I understand that’s a big exception to the rules. Most people don’t have the excuse that they’re finishing up a dissertation in astrophysics.
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Mine unfortunately waited 3 1/2 year.
[–]lightningboltxFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Did you get married in the end?
[–]InayahDaneenFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This, they know exactly what they want and yet they brainwash women about “loyalty”.
[–]butterflymeadowzzFDS Disciple34 points35 points36 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tragic
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist31 points32 points33 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Extremely. Because you know somewhere Pickmeisha is saving all her bridal images on Pinterest with him in mind. Awful. And these men need to be held accountable.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist70 points71 points72 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's exactly right. They don't respect or appreciate pick me's. They are just fillers while these men figure out what they really want. They only truly respect the FDS way, even while they're crying about it and wishing they didn't.
[–]Blackishcat27FDS STRATEGY COACH16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's why they're so pissed about it. The battle tactics work
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the absolute truth.
[–]BlondeSkipper11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I grew up being taught a relationship has to be built from the ground up (bob the builder mentality) to ensure longevity. Little did I know it would cost me 3 years and leave me empty handed while he’s back on his feet. This post shines a perfect light on men’s logic and I wish other women were able to see this, prior to wasting time.
[–]120492ksjFDS Disciple18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m sending this to my friends who have been in 8+ years relationship with broke and jobless men.
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[–]120492ksjFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that will definitely happen but at least when the inevitable happens I can tell them “I told you so” lol
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
CAN WE PIN THIS MODS?
Bahahahaha why is the one this applies to in my life... the username they used. Oh gosh.
[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let this be a lesson ladies. You see how they think? That’s why you don’t feel sorry for them. YOU HEAR ME? Stop feeling sorry for idiots.
[–]SslimReaperrFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
low value af
[–]chungkingxbricksFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
WoW.
[–]Winter_InevitableFDS STRATEGY COACH2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have done this to dudes. The whole "You'll do for now," mentality.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is what a creature with no empathy looks like.
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