I’ve recently started working virtually in a permanent position, so I’ll be looking to move soon. Dating isn’t my top priority but it’s a concern and I’d like to know what to expect, so if anyone has any insight on this it would be really appreciated. I know LVM are everywhere and HVM are unicorns, but I’ll be moving from South Florida to a smaller city (think 1M) and I’m not sure what this would mean in regards to dating. I haven’t been impressed with the quality of the men I’ve found in Miami and at this point I don’t know if this is a result of it being a big city and men being less inclined to settle down, or if this is because of all the Latin American influence, or if this is just the American standard. With less people, choices decrease, so wouldn’t it follow that if I have a hard time finding anyone worth dating in such a big city, it would be worse in a smaller one? But then I’ve also heard the opposite, that HVW in smaller ponds have better dating experiences because they stand out more. This doesn’t ring true to me, though, because if standards for women are relaxed in lower density areas, then so do men’s, and I have a really hard time picturing standards for men dropping further.

I feel a bit swallow making this post at all, so I want to make it clear that I will move because I simply don’t enjoy this city. I’m asking this sub for context because I’ve only ever lived in Miami as far as the US is concerned. I also care about COL, but if anyone has suggestions for good cities to live in, I’m open to that too, even if the suggestions aren’t based on dating. Whether it’s “worse” for dating or not, I will be moving to a lower COL area regardless. I just want to know what I’m getting into.

Edit: Someone pointed out that the way I talk about Latin America is offensive in a hidden comment. They look like a troll but I'll explain anyway. I was born and raised in Latin America myself and have no illusions about the vast majority of Latin American men and their misogyny. I have zero intention of dating any of them. In my experience, they think you'll give them breaks because you're predisposed to date/marry within your country of origin diaspora. For example, if a man has two women that are just as hot and smart but one is from a different country than his, the LVM would treat the woman from their own country much worse because they think we're used to it and will take it. Nope lol. Are all Latin American men like this? No. But I'm not an equal opportunity employer.