“You are just insecure/jealous.”

“You are too sensitive.”

“You are overreacting.”

“Maybe that’s what you heard in your head, but it’s not what I said.”

“It was just a joke.”

Sound familiar?

These are some of the most common phrases used by abusers and narcissists when gaslighting their victim.

LVM and NVM, when faced with their own actions and asked to take accountability, will NEVER own up and be a responsible adult.

Instead, in true scrote fashion, they will throw mantrums, blame you for their own actions, call you too sensitive or tell you that it was “all in your head”. Their actions are never theirs and if they are they were caused by you.

If in a conflict, HVM will have absolutely no issue owning up to their mistakes, taking accountability, apologizing and not repeating the thing in the future.

Looking past red flags is never worth it. Ever. You are opening yourself to long-lasting trauma by choosing to overlook bad behaviors in a man.

If you bring up an inconvenience to him and his first instinct is to paint a different reality or version of events, gloss over the issue by responding with something else, or blame YOU, it’s time to dump him. Do not allow them to drag the conversation in circles until you forget what the issue was and drop it. These men will leave you questioning your own sanity in the long run.