I wish I could invoice my abuser.

GiraffeLibrarian · 2021-03-08T03:52:54+00:00

TW rape

In most states, even when a rape occurs, it’s a crime against the state and not against her. Men really just destroy everything in their path with zero consequences.

pepperfog · 2021-03-08T03:34:06+00:00

I can relate. I think the same about my abuser.

jasmine-blossom · 2021-03-08T04:08:58+00:00

This may not apply in your case, but isn’t bringing a civil case (personal injury based lawsuit) against an abuser/rapist meant for the purpose of getting some type of reparation for the offenses committed? For anyone who’s experiencing something similar, it may be worth looking into and speaking with a sexual violence crisis center.

2021-03-08T04:20:31+00:00

There should be a tax on males to pay for all the damage their violence does. 😐

Only_Lime2520 · 2021-03-08T04:16:54+00:00

I was thinking the same thing and I think it's worth looking into. Also I would really love to hear from some of us who are lawyers or have professional expertise in this!

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2021-03-08T04:14:54+00:00

This will probably seem stupid but you could maybe get some catharsis from doing this in the same vein as "unsent letters" and just write an actual invoice for everything, and then destroy it instead of sending it obviously

Sewud · 2021-03-08T11:37:21+00:00

There should be a breakup fee, for time wasted and emotional damage. Otherwise this whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing is a rip off. You suffer socially from associating your name publicly to a man, and if it breaks off it was all for nothing. Meanwhile men get a social boost from having a girlfriend, not to mention the health benefits they get from having a girlfriend. The science is clear that men need girlfriends to be happier and healthier, whereas women don't need boyfriends.

ChickaDeeD33 · 2021-03-08T11:42:29+00:00

I'm there with you sis. What my ex has cost me in damages, hours of therapy, killing my credit by putting bills in my name and not paying them, etc., I would have all his cash for life. I'd have to split it with my sister-wife though, and considering he's broke and leeching off a new girl, I can't imagine it would be much.

fdssavedmylife · 2021-03-08T19:44:07+00:00

Sometimes a small part of me wants to write a detailed letter explaining all of the trauma he caused, how his abuse derailed my entire life, detailing all of the horrible things he pretends not to remember. But a larger, stronger part of me would never give him the satisfaction of knowing I even think about him.

camelCaseC · 2021-03-08T20:26:31+00:00

I often think of venmo requesting my NVX for a a thousand dollars for my phone he threw across the room and smashed up and the sculptures I made for him that he'd smash in front of me when he got mad at me :(

2021-03-08T04:53:13+00:00

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Realistmuch · 2021-03-08T12:12:07+00:00

This is just too true! 👑

Title	I wish I could invoice my abuser.
Author	luvmyvulvaxoxo
Upvotes	308
Comments	25
Date	March 8, 2021 3:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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