If it’s not a fuck yes, it’s a no!

My last ex was a very pleasant man, never an argument of any kind, but as it turned out, some five months before the end of our eight month relationship he had said something, didn’t say the other thing, nodded his head silently in other places, which in his mind gave him the right to demote me from a girlfriend to a friend. And I had no idea that had happened. But once I had enough of non-existent sex life and a few other things, and pushed him in the corner to tell me what the fuck all this meant, he fessed up, and apparently it was all my fault I did not understand that I stopped being his girlfriend five months ago.it made me feel like such an idiot, especially when I thought back on the time he dragged me to a ski trip with his friends and, while I was openly affectionate with him, I got hit with a surprise when we got the room with a narrow bunk bed! Then when he insisted we go on a short Christmas / New Year holiday and he was so cuddly and all, but completely refused any sexual advances from me without even a shitty excuse of a headache, but rather acting all shifty.

Apparently, he had done that to at least two others exes - the longest he strung one for was five years of being a “best friend”, while she thought they were in a relationship. He had no issues dropping her as a BFF once he found a new girlfriend, and then tried to reignite that “friendship” when the girlfriend noped out.

Men have many, many extremely manipulative and and callous ways to say no to calm their conscience, and to keep using you until only a shell is left, when they discard you.