You never really know someone…

munissa · 2021-09-22T01:11:42+00:00

They believed a mans word. They believed that woman are crazy, emotional and have breakdowns for no reason. They believed that a simple separation will calm the woman down and fix things. Their beliefs killed a woman.

Witnesses saw him abuse her and called the police to protect her, instead they gaslit her further and cost her, her life.

When this man went back to his family without her, he was protected and was able to keep silent on her whereabouts. Instead of contacting the police, his parents enabled him. When Gabby’s family demanded her whereabouts, they received nothing but hinderance from him and his family. When her family contacted the police, he became a person of interest but was able to go missing. Where is the justice for Gabby? A 22 year old woman lost her life due to abuse, incompetence, and enablers.

This whole thing breaks my heart and my sympathies and prays go out for Gabby’s family.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2021-09-22T03:36:07+00:00

Her father stated that she had never been diagnosed with OCD. That was some bullshit that nasty ass, barefooted Brian came up with whenever she’d try to clean up the van or complained about him putting his gross bare feet all over. He was weirdly proud of his bare, filthy feet. 🤮 Instead of trying to wash himself like a normal human or at least try to be easier to live with, he labeled her as OCD. 🚩🚩🚩

I’m sure her anxiety problem was nonexistent or minimal before he showed up in her life, too.

Remember, everyone: Any man who calls a woman “crazy,” or “OCD” would rather her be the one with the problem than work on himself.

RIP, Gabby.

pumpkin-pied · 2021-09-21T21:58:53+00:00

I feel like crying reading this. Nobody, nobody, would ever believe a woman when she drags herself to the police looking for help. Nobody will believe a woman getting help for herself, because in their eyes, "if she can still walk and talk then she's fine". "She's just overreacting". "She's lying to get attention". "She's crazy and manipulative and is trying to frame her boyfriend". "She needs to calm down". They will, only then, believe her when she's left a lifeless body on the ground.

May you rest in peace, Gabby. And praying for all the other women out there to find a place of safety finally. My heart goes out to you.

aquietsword · 2021-09-21T23:39:57+00:00

And honestly, fuck those useless cops. The red flags were there, but I guess it's better to robotically quote the definition of DV and pretend that scratching in self defence is the same as abuse than it is to use the critical thinking skills you don't have.

kycake · 2021-09-22T00:44:10+00:00

it’s so scary and heartbreaking. the fact that gabby’s male partner (brian laundry) still hasn’t been arrested when its PAINFULLY obvious he killed her, is outrageous.

also the cops that almost arrested gabby when she did nothing wrong and laughed with brian about how “women are so anxious and crazy” these cops need to be help accountable. gabby’s death is partially on their hand, she was crying and was on obviously very shaken up/ distressed, yet they totally wrote it off as her being anxious for no reason.

justiceforgabby

Noogenesis21 · 2021-09-22T02:38:58+00:00

Heartbroken. 😥 I think it captured the world's attention partially because so many women knew she was suffering abuse and could relate to that...is there a woman alive who hasn't suffered a man's abuse?? "There, but for the grace of God, go I". RIP Gabby, my heart is with you. p.s. FYI, some folks on Twitter are doing a #LightsOnForGabby by keeping a north-facing porch light on in tribute

Noogenesis21 · 2021-09-22T02:14:11+00:00

Every single day I get more upset at Brian being MIA. I hope that if (hopefully WHEN) he is found, he can be linked to the crime. He should never get away with this.

hiraethsidhartha · 2021-09-22T11:55:14+00:00

He reminds me so much of my first long term boyfriend when I was a teenager. Together for years since we were 14 and didn't manage to shake him off until I was about 22.

Watching him talk to the cops and her in bits struck a chord. Especially when on the dashcam footage he states that he was (paraphrasing) trying to remind her they were in public and not to make a fuss.

My ex used to whisper absolutely horrible stuff in my ear and then when I used to raise my voice at him to try to get him to stop he used to smirk and be like "look everyone's watching now"

This was probably one of the worst things he ever did tbh. Crazy making behaviour.

I really empathise with Gabby. I remember being there. It has really made me want to do more helpful things for women who are stuck in abusive relationships. Heartbreaking.

leekykeeks · 2021-09-22T02:49:44+00:00

This and countless other cases are morbid reminders that what we do here at FDS means life and death. If she was just given the tools to cut this murderer out, a life could have been spared. I'm spreading the gospel about FDS.

miwamus · 2021-09-21T23:26:32+00:00

Killing someone is not nice.

Chicahua · 2021-09-23T00:50:52+00:00

22 years old. She should’ve had another 60. I hate hate HATE how this ended. The police failed her because of misogyny, how many women are supposedly going around falsely claiming men are abusive? They’re acting like it’s an epidemic to excuse their refusal to help women, like women are the ones murdering their partners.

Chubby-Lovie · 2021-09-22T19:47:03+00:00

Those officers need to be in prison. They knew what was happening

Title	You never really know someone…
Author	ndf250
Upvotes	1167
Comments	29
Date	September 21, 2021 9:53 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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