Many of you know I'm widowed, been widowed several years. I'm also passively open to companionship, provided the guy has his own house, and we keep money separate. I'm childfree, and refuse to be a step-mother. I've mentioned before that I'm also a long-time chatter, and that I leave it on in the background while playing games and reading online. Furthermore, some of you know I have an online "stalker", The Idiot With 10,000 Names, who is everything I despise in a human and specifically in a man: not bright, traditional, conservative, religious, a single father, quite often someone who negs, and attempts to manipulate in the most clumsy and pathetic of ways which I see through every time. However, his one talent is changing nicks, so I can't just block and delete for good. I play whack-a-mole with this moron.

This guy has repeatedly said he wants to meet me in person. People and men don't intimidate me; I've been called the intimidating one since I'm no-nonsense, put up with no shit ever, and am just all business when dealing with people I don't know. He clearly "wants" me; he makes it clear he adores my (50+, plain, average) looks. Okay, whatever, there's someone for everyone, and I am, alas, his type.

A recent post here, about how men truly hate women and want to humiliate them, made me think of this guy immediately. It made my spidey senses tingle. Think of Bella when the guys surrounded her and Edward could read their (most probably rape-y) thoughts. I've asked him, though, why would you spend hundreds of dollars to come to Louisiana, for at most a 30 minute coffee date, maybe a dinner date? He never has an answer. I've used my words and told him, I'm not going back to your hotel room (because he'd have to get a hotel room, and rent a car). I'm not at all going to be alone with a male stranger I've never met before, big no thanks to being raped and murdered. This always sets him back on his heels. I suppose an object isn't supposed to think about her own safety and any possible harm. An object isn't supposed to set boundaries.

I honestly think this guy hates and despises me with a white-hot anger surpassing the sun. I think I'm his "type" in that I would be a conquest for him on many levels. I have a deep suspicion that this guy may have mental/emotional issues, so because most conversations go off the rails quickly with love-bombing, lack of logic, weirdness, an in-person meeting would just be kryptonite. So for you, my FDS queens, here's what this means. Here's what to watch out for to know when a man hates women, you in particular, because you are a superior being compared to him. Rather than look inside, feel bad, then start leveling up, he will do everything in his power, rape and murder included, to bring you down. This is why the bar is in hell and stays in hell: men's lack of looking inward and choosing to better themselves, and taking out their anger and frustration on women.

In no particular order, if you have any or all of these qualities (not saying I do, but most), watch out if a man you're dating starts to neg you, not appreciate you, resent you, gets angry for no discernible, logical reason:

-- you are educated, and yes, this can include having a high school diploma

-- you are university educated and degreed

-- you work in your field and/or have used your degree to get a start in one field, and advance your skills to work in another field

-- you are a Western woman

-- you have facility with English and/or your own language and are fluent and well-spoken

-- you are employed (or retired), and do not have to depend on a man to support you

-- you don't have kids, make it clear you've never wanted any, and emphasize that freedom means way more to you than having a traditional family (they particularly hate that)

-- you are either not religious, or if you do attend, you are skeptical, a doubter, a questioner (they want to use religion to control and dominate)

-- you have good critical thinking skills, question what he says, don't take what he says on faith, and look for deeper meanings and lies, evasions, half-truths

-- you center and prioritize your own wants and needs above those of any man

-- you have boundaries and limits that you set clearly, and no matter what he says, those boundaries and limits stand firm

Honestly, I could go on and on. I look forward to hearing from you: how do you know when you are way more HV than x male? What tips you off? How do you deal with getting away from him, cutting things off?