Infantilization and the body hair debate

foodgrowerfoodeater · 2021-08-22T03:57:26+00:00

If rejecting a social norm that’s rooted in misogyny results in social ousting and shaming, the choice of opting out becomes more difficult or even impossible. The word “choice” then becomes a misnomer, because for those in a given society, most options are narrow and predefined by their respective power structure.

FDS has really got me thinking long and hard about choice feminism lately

GlitterLoveAngel · 2021-08-21T22:17:30+00:00

I have a standard that if I ever date a guy, he must remove his body hair since I do. And if he doesn’t, then he must be perfectly okay with me growing out and keeping my body hair. Yet Reddit thinks this is absurd and that I’m full of myself and abusive.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-08-22T03:45:39+00:00

Encouraging women to remove their body hair is just another tool of the patriarchy. I don’t care if you say you “do it for you”.

It’s meant to keep women’s focus on their looks instead of focusing on learning finances, life skills etc. and keep us wasting money on our looks so we can’t get ahead.

For every $100 you’re spending on removing your body hair, a man is buying stocks, saving his money, etc.

Remove your hair if you want ladies but we need to at least RECOGNIZE that it’s mean to oppress us.

LateDiagnosedAutie · 2021-08-22T10:33:41+00:00

I truly don't know whether this is a side effect of my autism, but I LOATHE removing my body hair. It's not just that the process is tedious and painful, but for literally weeks afterwards my skin feels like someone is running a very mild taser all over it. It's only mildly painful, but IT'S STILL PAINFUL! FOR WEEKS AFTERWARDS!!! Until I grow my body hair back!

It's been this way for as long as I can remember. When I entered my teen years, my mother, sisters and even my so called friends at the time would attempt to persuade, argue and shame me into removing my body hair. There were even a couple of boys at school who'd made fun of me for being hairy. Assholes!

I was asked to 'compromise' and try shaving instead of going for the more culturally common waxing procedure. I hated that too. I hated ALL forms of body hair removal, and I was honestly bewildered about why everyone else seemed so comfortable with it. Was it not painful for them? Did their skin NOT feel like they were undergoing mild shock therapy for weeks afterwards?! What was wrong with me?!?!

I'm happy to say that, more often than not, I stuck by my comfort levels. I have waxed and shaved in the past, but only a total of perhaps 6-10 times in my lifetime? And I have literally NEVER interfered with the growth of my pubic hair! If merely removing arm/pit and leg hair feels like low-grade torture, I can't even imagine what it would feel like to wax off my pubes, JFC!!!!!

Sage_Planter · 2021-08-22T03:18:48+00:00

When it comes to body hair, I firmly support women doing what they're comfortable with. I don't really care what men's opinions are on the subject.

My former roommate shaved all over her body hair every day because it was her preference. Not my preference, but good on her.

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