I thought my bf is really high quality. He is warm, compassionate, takes care of himself, generous, athletic. He said he would like to have a family and marry me one day. We have been dating for one year now. He also wants me to move in but I m trying to block that. He's also really charming and others love him.

We promised each other to tell each other when our exes contact us. He also said he doesn't want to stay friends with his ex. Well, long story short, the other day he texted his ex and tried to have a heart to heart in the middle of the night and in secret. I found it accidentally. This is the only woman I was very concerned about from the start. She is in another country though.

He said he did it's because he felt insecure one night and needed validation. He also felt like he deserved a female friend because I have a very close male friend who he is very jealous of.

He apologized but it honestly didn't sound that sincere. He said I m the only one and it has nothing to do with us. He said he's sorry he harmed my trust for a shitty conversation. But honestly, he seems more sorry that I caught him than anything. The remorse is shallow. He does have a history of giving himself passes for things I care about unfortunately.

I m so hurt and disappointed and haven't spoken to him in a day. Do I need to break up. I can't believe this is happening.

Please Ladies what do. This sub is my religion.

EDIT: I love you girls, I am beyond thankful for this sub!!!!!!!!!! We talked today and he seems more sorry now that I have given him the silent treatment. He says he doesn't want to be selfish, he wants to be committed to me and that I can always read his phone. That he only did it because he felt insecure and he knows now that he should have talked to me (the door was wide open). But my gut is telling me what you are saying. That he will do this again and make me look like a clown.

2.EDIT: wow I asked him if he has done this before in previous relationships and he flat out said yes he has. Lol. Okay. Thank you. Next.

3.EDIT: just wanted to express how much I love this community. Feel like I m friends with all of you. I wish all of you nothing but the absolute best!