I was so livid when a friend of mine told me about a mutual friend who had her entire savings wiped out because she put her husband on the account. I met him a few times and he seemed like a nice enough person, polite, courteous and attentive. Dude was a total monster to her behind closed doors!

Anyways, she is poor now with 2 kids and he squandered all her money!

If you can, keep a separate home/apartment and only visit when he cooks for you. Don’t ever lend him money unless it’s for a family member (like mom got cancer, funeral expenses, or other unexpected type of shit)

Do not clean his home, do not offer to wash up unless the kitchen is already well maintained and all you have to do is rinse off dishes to put in the dishwasher.

Do not iron his clothes unless you absolutely love ironing.

Do not have children with a man until he proves he is worth it.

Sorry for the rant, I’m just so pissed off right now.