Background information: I'm in my early 20s, he's 30. We've been on 4 dates.

When I had to stay over on date number 3 because I missed the last public transport home, he kept touching me all night even though I said he shouldn't beforehand (but then I didn't mind the cuddles either). (In hindsight, he knew the time I should've headed out and kept giving me tea and I lost track of time).

I turned him down after our first date, we kept talking and a part of me wonders whether he's just trying to get back at me somehow.

4 different brands of makeup remover in his bathroom cabinet. He said "yeah, that's just stuff being left here".

He belittled two things I liked last time I was there (one of them was ridiculous but still).

He has a plan that he seems to be executing during dates. I don't know how to explain. He's probably doing this with others as well.

After I didn't get sexual on the sleepover, he texted way less frequently and made me pay for a date I suggested (yikes in hindsight), to only then ask to hang out again during the weekend. (With way less frequent texts).

TLDR; okay maybe, I already know the answer to my question. I just don't want to admit it to myself because for some reason I'm insanely attracted to him (he's very good looking, has an ambitious job and earns more than enough). Thanks for letting me vent and write this out.

Please, help me be strong and give tips and advice on how to best go about this situation! TIA 💖💖