Men know what they are doing, and sometimes they say it like it is

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-12-05T18:54:07+00:00

They absolutely know what they're doing. FDS teaches you to protect yourself from their bullshit. AND IT IS BULLSHIT.

Nah, sis. Dump his ass. If you didn't use birth control, or got pregnant as an oopsie, go get that abortion, sis. There is NO shame in yeetusing a worthless man's fetus and saving your life, your body, your money, and your future from a destructive man's child ruining it. Motherhood should happen on YOUR TERMS, only. Not as a desperate measure to keep a man around because this never ever works, and in the rare circumstances where it does work, it doesn't work for long :/ and only delays the inevitable.

You don't have to volunteer your body as an incubator to a worthless man's demon spawn, period. You don't need to deal with the headache of motherhood, the nightmare of single motherhood, the stress and cost of having to hunt down a deadbeat father, and you don't owe them shit.

YOU DON'T OWE THEM ANYTHING. Don't keep these men. Don't keep their worthless fetuses. PUT YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE ABOVE ALL ELSE. WALK FROM ALL OF THAT BULLSHIT.

m4dam3x · 2019-12-05T18:44:27+00:00

“You only live once, but the consequences of your actions ripple through time”

Poignant. What a great clip.

lasolterita · 2019-12-05T19:19:58+00:00

He us spot on when he says that children will have to live with the scars that you inflicted on their mother... I was raised by a mother who was LITERALLY struggling to survive a verbally abusive marriage. She was dealing with consequent mental health ramifications and could not give her all to her children. She neglected us without knowing it. What further drives this point home is the reasoning as to why my father abused our mother and us. Why? Because his own father had tried to smother his wife in his sleep. Because he had grown up in an even worse environment, he thought that as long as he was not attempting to murder his wife he was a good parent. He didn't know what a good father looked like, so how was he going to be one? He didn't know what a good husband looked like, so how was he going to be one?

Thanks to all this, I developed insecure attachment issues that went on to erode the only relationship I've ever had with a man. To be fair, whether that man was LVM or HVM is debatable. But I have to live knowing how clingy I was and the bad things I unconsciously did to him. Those things I did to him arose from survival techniques and mechanisms I learned growing up (insecure attachment). That being said, I turned out well relative to my siblings, who fared even worse and suffer from mental illness everyday.

siddmartha · 2019-12-05T19:17:23+00:00

Wow, Love this. Karmic consequences are a real thing. Whatever you put out you get in return. Men out there thinking they can get away with their shitty behavior without any repercussions.

modernmedusaa · 2019-12-05T22:34:48+00:00

Yes- levelled up men that understand the WIDER consequences on society

Here is what is funny about all these trash little RP MGTOW scrotes & the rest of the misogynist broke little manchildren out there- they are constantly complaining about the single mother epidemic (who are most likely to be in poverty in comparison to single fathers) whilst treating women like they are vacant little fuck dolls here to serve them- and when the woman has had enough of being exploited & taken for a fool- she leaves & this breaks up the home (that's if the dad hasn't gone missing already). Why should she have to raise a grown man, as well as her child whilst he treats her like shit? Like that guy above said- that broken home/rejection/hurt is their karma for being an asshole & pushing all these women there. Women aren't obliged to tolerate disrespect & stay in situations that are draining/humiliating them...& the quicker men get that, the better.

I don't know one single woman who doesn't have multiple accounts of men trying to deliberately disrespect her...not one. So that would indicate the whole issue isn't with these womens choices, since all of them have experienced that, multiple times at various ages, no matter how pretty/smart/giving they are. They know that HVM are very rare & if they are rare- then it is much more likely that the majority of men they meet will be lying scrotes/missing or incompetent fathers & harder to avoid. They are unsuitable candidates- and what we are seeing is women (en masse) saying NO I will not fucking submit myself to 9months of agony/or 10decades of abuse for an unfit candidate that doesn't deserve/appreciate me- that is a trap & an unwise investment of my time on earth. And if you have noticed, men seem to think the relationship is running 'smooth' where a woman is submitting & letting them get away with murder & is being empathetic, not nagging them to step up (when they should be wanting that for themselves). When she isn't, she becomes 'drama' 'difficult' 'stuck up' 'unrealistic' 'superficial' 'selfish career driven bitch'. I don't know why at some point in society we taught women to give their power away & stopped them from asking anything of their man...but its totally unnatural & only benefits men, who don't give birth. Women are hypergamous by nature & it benefits society as a whole for us to be that way for the risk to pay off- particularly when it comes to the quality of life for children & ourselves. We shouldn't have to do it all ourselves & then be shamed for having to do that.

Even more funny to me is most these manipulative immature car crashes are missing a father themselves & will mumble some shit about him being a loser who abandoned them.....yet they continue to go out, deliberately string good women along & eventually they end up with a surprise pregnancy or 2 and moaning about it...OR being cheated on by a woman who's had enough of men taking advantage of her. WELL men are stupid to plate numerous women- because they aren't in control of an abortion/pregnancy & a sensible man knows that. They are stupid sleeping around not using protection plating numerous women lying & expecting they can do that forever with no consequences. It is all their own doing they are being left alone, can't get laid, being dropped like a hot cake or have restricted access to their kids because they refuse to grow up& are leading every one of those women on into a false sense of security...& that has consequences.

Welcome back to the hunger games men.

extraacct1234 · 2019-12-05T21:09:52+00:00

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Balkanka · 2019-12-05T19:50:55+00:00

I think with a lot of us are enamored by here in this clip is the fact that this man is very genuinely and outwardly THOUGHTFUL.

Through my 3+ decades here on earth I’ve known many many many men. I can count on one hand how many men I know that are genuinely thoughtful people. So many men are raised without consequences for their actions and are coddled by their mothers or other women in their lives be at grandmothers, sisters, aunties, whatever. Very rarely are they ever forced to think about consequences or effects of their words and actions. Their whole lives they know they get the upper-hand because they are men, so they don’t really have to worry about it.

The truly thoughtful men that I’ve known in my life have all lacked that level of coddling and grew up being held accountable for themselves at an early age. No one was giving them free rides and passes for behaviors.

For the other non-thoughtful men... even their own fathers, if they are around, will blatantly reinforce harmful mentalities and attitudes into their sons so they can grow up to be “manly men“ like them. Mistakes in life will be rationalized away and they will always get validation without having to consider the fact that maybe they are not good people or they are doing wrong. A lot of that starts off with dehumanizing women and objectifying them, etc. I’ve seen it with my male friends and their fathers, and then those friends have male children, and the cycle is repeated.

We can’t pretend that male privilege has nothing to do with all of this. It has practically everything to do with the way they behave and the fact that there are so many bad men out there. I’m sure 90% of us have been told by other men that “men are bad”. It’s going to take something extraordinary to shift this paradigm and I don’t see it happening anytime soon or maybe ever.

extraacct1234 · 2019-12-05T22:25:42+00:00

I don't give cookies to men for basic humanity. It's nice. But really? No.

SpaceVespa92 · 2019-12-05T18:31:19+00:00

Who is he? And where I can I watch the entire clip?

plutunic · 2019-12-05T18:49:26+00:00

this is an incredible clip, thank you for sharing it

rftw2013 · 2019-12-05T19:13:23+00:00

This man is wonderful. Is it really that hard, men, to be a decent human?

lightningboltx · 2019-12-05T19:33:37+00:00

This man is amazing. I wish all men were as mature and thoughtful as him.

Loiacono3137 · 2019-12-05T23:53:24+00:00

Great video

lostdownbelow · 2019-12-06T03:12:45+00:00

This is so powerful. For anyone that intentionally hurts others.

riotous486saturn · 2019-12-06T02:07:15+00:00

The only thing that bothers me about this is that they consider these people “broken.” You’re not broken. You’re traumatized and you can fix your mental scars by going to therapy and working on it.

Broken is a misleading term that makes it feel like ya can’t ever be “fixed” but our brains have neuroplasticity and can be corrected. You just need to go to therapy for it.

“Hurt people hurt other people” is a great quote that really stuck out tho bc it’a 100% true.

a-net_ · 2019-12-05T20:18:16+00:00

Karma is real.

Finally a man that gets it. Who is he?

Akuabafefe · 2019-12-06T02:40:53+00:00

OP, I cannot thank you enough for posting this!

11Limepark · 2019-12-06T05:09:23+00:00

Thank you for the silver. My first. Not sure what it means but I’ll be researching. 📝📖

Title	Men know what they are doing, and sometimes they say it like it is
Author	mangocakeee
Upvotes	226
Comments	59
Date	December 5, 2019 5:56 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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