We all know how I feel about online dating by now, but if you still insist on OLD, ask for a man’s instagram handle.

Do not add them. Many men keep their instagram profiles public. This is the perfect opportunity to creep his profile. What are his hobbies? How does he come off online? And most importantly, what is the content he’s following and who is he following?

When I used OLD, I would say this method was effective 99% of the time to weed out losers and pornsick men. If I saw he was following MANY MANY women (mainly the half naked kind), that signals numerous things to me. Either he’s a) Pornsick b) Desperate c) A misogynist d) All of the above, let’s be real here.

This is exceptionally clear when a man claims to be an upstanding member of society and successful in his field. If he was so successful, don’t you think he would show some tact and not follow hundreds of half naked women?

A lot of these “women” he’s following are either ones he’s met through dating sites or randomly following because he only cares about his dick. Don’t buy into the whole “they’re friends in real life!” 9 times out of 10, that’s not true.

A lot of these women will follow him back, and men LOVE this. It makes them look more desirable than they actually are. It signals a false sense of self worth.

Pay special attention to the amount of women/kinds of women that like his photos. If most of them are pay for play, that should be a great indicator of how he views women and how he would view a relationship with you.

Instagram and other social media is a great vetting tool. Remember that these men are self aware and know they have a PUBLIC account. They’re not ashamed to hide their pornsick ways.

So with all that said, once I creep a man’s instagram and get a glimpse of that, I’m out. He’s not a man worth entertaining. And for the women who get into relationships with men like this, stop complaining about getting cheated on by a porn addict. The writing was on the wall.