This is freaking scary. We are not even safe at home

Ghost_namesake · 2020-11-30T22:15:06+00:00

And people say I'm paranoid for refusing to keep my 2nd story windows open while I sleep in the summer. My father was a policeman for 30+ years. The lengths creepers will go to when breaking into a home are terrifying. My father told me to never sleep with your windows open or unlocked! He also told me to always keep my doors locked even when I'm at home. He also told me to never open the door to an unexpected, unknown visitor.

Ladies, you have to look out for yourself. These creeps are looking for opportunities. Make yourself less of a target by being proactive. We shouldn't HAVE to do this stuff, but this is the world we live in now.

fcebtfs · 2020-11-30T21:56:21+00:00

she is even on the second story and he climbed all the way up there.

She said she couldn’t believe it when she found out Rodriguez-Gomez was released on bond, online reports said.

We're not even protected by our own judicial system.

“Originally when he first made entry he was smiling at me and he was just muttering,” she said.

She said the man lives in a building nearby and she’s seen him before, but he’s never spoken to her.

In the video, she repeatedly tells him to leave. She said he asked her if he was her friend and when she replied, ‘No,’ he asked, ‘Are you sure?’

“He kept his hands in his pockets which is what initially scared me,” said Viverette. “Obviously the fact that an intruder is coming in, but he wouldn’t take his hands out of his hoodie. And I was worried that he had a weapon on him.”

hvwthrowaway · 2020-11-30T23:07:41+00:00

the fear in her voice is giving me chills!

also FUCK those commenters who are defending this creep by giving him the benefit of the doubt by potential mental illness.

would you say the same about The Night Stalker, Richard Ramirez who believed open doors were an invitation and worshipped Satan?! Was he mentally ill? Yes. Did he have a bad childhood? Yes. Should he have been locked away or even killed the first night he broke into a home to rape and murder women in order protect many more lifes? Absolutely.

What even is the quote of these kind of people getting better? They will only be brought into a mental insitution AFTER they have already seriously hurt someone. They will never commit themselves or consent at this level of mental illness. It’s more likely they’ll stay there forever and make the nurses work-life a living hell and/or escape and do it again.

I know this is harsh but i’ll say it: there are enough bad men in this world, we don’t need to keep saving those who MIGHT have a tiny chance to get better with years of therapy and medication. (which will most likely just sedate them and not actually make them better).

I’m very pro mental health so please don’t get me wrong, but there are boundaries.

The way he asked “am I your friend/are you sure”? with a creepy grin shows that he has evil ententions and is not just confused.

There was no misunderstanting, he wasn’t drunk and mistook homes, he didn’t have an emergency; he climbed up her balcony and a piece of her christmas string lights was missing - most likely what he kept hidden in his hands ready to strangle or tie her up. FFS!

ShitFaced_Dumbledore · 2020-11-30T22:20:45+00:00

Scariest shit I’ve ever seen!

My clueless roommate sometimes forgets to lock our back door when she goes in and out of the garage and I’m always so scared someone could be hiding in our house!!! Gonna be freaking triple checking every night now.

Aquamarine_eyes · 2020-12-01T01:08:55+00:00

The fact she felt she had to be polite "Please get out of my apartment" - just shows how ingrained appealing to mens feelings are important or else it may trigger more violence.

This is terrifying. I have had this happen to me as well. I was a BBQ at my building - said my goodbye's and left. Went home had a shower and went to bed. A man from my building was scratching on my window just above my bed. Then when I jumped out of bed to my kitchen to grab a knife because I was so scared - he came in through my front door - that he managed to jimmy open. Thank goodness i had the chain on my door.

Again - I had to be polite even though I was shit scared. He could have easily kicked my door and the chain off. But I had to NOT show fear.

The second you start showing fear is when they feel more power and it emboldens them. You are NOT taught this - it is simply instinct.

Why the fuck are men like this?

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2020-11-30T23:11:19+00:00

A big tip that I hate but feel is important: yell fire in this situation. People will ignore help and try not to get involved. Yelling fire will get people to open up and help.

llii-- · 2020-12-01T02:59:19+00:00

Notice how it was a woman that saw her in distress and helped her. How likely is it that if it was a man that they would have even noticed what was going on, let alone actually step in to help? Men don’t have to worry about this shit and keep it in the back of their minds. “bUt tHiS hApPeNs tO mEn tOo!!!!1!1!”

Anyway, props to the neighbour.

werker115 · 2020-11-30T23:09:16+00:00

Ugh something like this happened to me 12 years ago..same facts- neighbor who I saw around and thought it was okay to break in to see me. The guy also had his hands in his pants and I was scared he had a gun too.

Poor lady, I sadly know she will never feel safe and alone in her own home again.

aquarieux · 2020-12-01T02:44:50+00:00

I saw this earlier today and it made me so mad and scared. My mom and grandmother have always told me never to have an apartment on the first floor and always try to live on the highest floor possible. Even when I'm home alone, they told me to keep all the windows and doors closed and locked. They told me to never answer the door unless I am expecting someone, even if the person standing outside looks official (like a repair person, maintenance worker, etc.). They also told me to make it seem like a man lived with me however I could to make it seem like I don't live alone.

I have always taken their advice to heart, but whenever I would share this advice with the men in my life, they would laugh or shrug it off as if it's just women being silly and paranoid. I hate all of what happened in that video -- one of my worst nightmares and the trauma that woman is going to live with makes my heart hurt.

xScarWintersx · 2020-12-01T06:39:09+00:00

All women need guns!

Title	This is freaking scary. We are not even safe at home
Author	liondale
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Date	November 30, 2020 9:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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