This made me sad and angry

Hardwatergal · 2021-01-02T19:38:42+00:00

Bring back kink shaming.

Someone please DM her...

MariaDolorosa · 2021-01-02T19:39:32+00:00

This is so sad 😞 My heart truly breaks for her. I am so angry that we’ve been taught that a man’s sexual pleasure has more worth than our sense of security and dignity. What a terrible person that guy is.

This “kink-shaming” scam has got to stop.

RabidWench · 2021-01-02T20:43:04+00:00

She doesn't even have to kink shame him. She needs to dump him, because they are fundamentally incompatible as people. He enjoys inflicting pain; she does not enjoy experiencing it. End of fucking story. End of relationship, because he also apparently does not understand the word NO, which should have been made clear to him as a baby.

The words she needs to say, slowly so he grasps them in fullness, are "have a nice life."

ScalesHaveFallen · 2021-01-02T20:01:22+00:00

Throw the whole perv away

wagonwheel_ · 2021-01-02T19:55:36+00:00

Shame him, sis.

heleninthealps · 2021-01-02T21:45:55+00:00

He's vanilla-shaming! And pleasure-shaming!

UnpeacefulLily · 2021-01-02T20:34:34+00:00

Why is this woman still having sex with this man?

Like I don't get it. Throw the whole man away!

Sage_Planter · 2021-01-02T19:48:31+00:00

One of my biggest problem with men who (allegedly) have kinks is that they fail to recognize that an important part of a healthy sexual life is ensuring both partners are happy and satisfied. Notice how she says "ever since that conversation hes been really rough during sex," meaning he's completely stopped ignoring her needs in the bedroom to solely focus on him. Suddenly, they use "it's my kiiiink" as a reason to steamroll/forget that their partner has any likes, dislikes, requests, boundaries, etc. This isn't healthy.

I genuinely think most women would be open to exploring her partner's kinks every so often if there was mutual respect, boundaries, appreciation, reciprocity, and the option to openly say "you know, we tried it, but that's not for me" without judgement or future pestering. The problem is that once a man discloses his kink, he seems to expected it to be catered to at every opportunity.

Vmwvi · 2021-01-02T23:05:58+00:00

Pulling out "a bit of hair"? This NVM is a psychopath.

blackwidowe · 2021-01-02T22:22:57+00:00

Wtf? She shouldn't even try to explain it any more. Dump the scum. She tried to explain to him and he dismissed that. The scumbag doesn't deserve a second thought.

2021-01-03T00:01:30+00:00

Women. Stop being so fucking nice!

WHAT DO WE DO WHEN A MAN ACTS LIKE THIS LADIES????

NurseBubbleGum · 2021-01-02T23:47:10+00:00

Weird, vanilla sex isn't boring when you love and care about your partner.

rebel4acause · 2021-01-03T00:21:53+00:00

He is hurting you. He gets off on hurting you.

Do you need anymore reason to leave?

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-01-03T00:59:17+00:00

So he is assaulting you and you just want to be nice to him about it?

Title	This made me sad and angry
Author	biggestsigh
Upvotes	136
Comments	22
Date	January 2, 2021 7:33 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kp3xzt/this_made_me_sad_and_angry/
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