What are your thoughts on this?

Bovvsette · 2020-03-18T06:02:41+00:00

Now that I think of it, the only time I've fallen for men was when they showed interest in me first

level_up_always · 2020-03-18T05:20:09+00:00

depressing but probably true

WinterMist44 · 2020-03-18T08:19:28+00:00

Not true. Women ARE attracted to men, I certainly am, BUT the second part is also true. It's harder for women to realise they are gay than men because of this. And it means that women who ARE attracted to men will settle for some loser she's not attracted to. Women are more picky than men. (I'm nearly 30 and I've had like 2 crushes in my entire life.)

Also I think "women aren't attracted to men" is used by rapists and men bad at sex. It sounds dangerously similar to "women can't have orgasms".

Also, women absolutely are attracted to men who aren't attracted to them. That's why the femcels sub exists.

Inez_Honeyfox · 2020-03-18T04:03:04+00:00

I think it’s worth considering

2020-03-18T09:44:28+00:00

Socially true, biologically unsound.

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-03-18T04:07:39+00:00

There's a term for this give me a second....

sholmes999 · 2020-03-18T16:23:19+00:00

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babe__ruthless · 2020-03-18T04:55:35+00:00

Oh. And some LVM dm’d me some trash after I posted this. Don’t worry I immediately blocked.

Radiant_Success · 2020-03-18T12:38:04+00:00

Nah.

2020-03-18T13:04:09+00:00

this is definitely how it works for me.

my brain starts working when a guy's interested. if he's not, i dont give a damn anymore lol.

so i guess the FDS way is to accept the dopamine hit but learn to balancer yourself by not getting carried away and making sure to vet them for a period of time until you are sure

jetpatch · 2020-03-18T15:47:30+00:00

Women are attracted to men. They are just attracted with all their senses rather than leering like men. Hell, I even like squeezing their spare tires when lying in bed.

babe__ruthless · 2020-03-18T04:29:53+00:00

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Nienke_H · 2020-03-18T16:37:28+00:00

Not really. I can be attracted to guys i don't even know, but it definitely does help if the other person shows interest.

asmkl8 · 2020-03-19T08:10:15+00:00

Look up: compulsory heterosexuality. It’s a thing. I’ve been talking about it a lot in therapy recently and why I’m just not attracted to men.

meanemad · 2020-03-20T22:29:54+00:00

I realize now that when a man showed me attention in the begining, that was like a hook for me, so maybe its true the dopamine is there. First bf i didnt think he was atractive even before he tried, and later the positions changed and he behaved bad and me like "the definitive pickemeisha"😑😑🤮😂

velocifero18 · 2020-03-18T15:44:35+00:00

I've been attracted to a handful men, but it's definitely not how I was told it would be. I can't just straight up find myself attracted to a man based on how he looks, in the way that men do for women. There has to be some form of motivation--maybe he's my friend and we stayed up a little too late one night playing a game and we kept laughing about everything together, making each other smile the whole night. That's most likely why it's so hard for women to use dating apps--I feel as if more often than with men, we need that type of motivation before we can feel any attraction.

she_is_munchkins · 2020-03-18T15:59:41+00:00

I've been thinking about this lately... a lot of times I only get that jolt of excitement when I see him interested in me, otherwise I don't pay men much mind.

2020-03-18T12:40:53+00:00

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Title	What are your thoughts on this?
Author	babe__ruthless
Upvotes	169
Comments	37
Date	March 18, 2020 3:54 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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