What do you guys think?

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-03-02T16:47:38+00:00

Nate is a fucking sociopath. Even if he is not, he is violent. If these people only like Nate as a fictional character then it's okay, but I seriously think women are convinced violence=love.

hateitherexx · 2021-03-02T16:29:11+00:00

Part of me wonders if it's just being attracted to what is familiar. I know that before I got healthy, I assumed all men were like that and I should just settle for the abuse, narcissism, manipulation, etc.

Another part of me worries that young people that watch the show believe that behavior is acceptable. (Then again, it is rated R, but they can always find a way to watch it so I don't think it's a solid barrier)

classic_falafel · 2021-03-02T17:01:19+00:00

Never watched the show but saw an enlightening video on youtube that explained why I probably shouldnt. It depicts teenagers in lets phrase it...extreme circumstances. And a lot of nudity. The nudity is said to be there to be more "relatable" for teens. But this show is also not aimed at teens? I am confused? When watching it do you realize that these are teenagers? Minors?
I mean...its too extreme and R-rated to be made for teens. But why include so much teen nudity if its is aimed at adults? It creeps me out.

Spittens · 2021-03-02T18:24:36+00:00

This isn't the worst example i remember how many people romanticized the joker and harley quinns relationship when he outright manipulated her , brainwashed her and abused her multiple times and it was textbook example in trauma bonding . Totally healthy guys .

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-02T17:44:41+00:00

I think they mean the actor is attractive because that is true he’s a good looking guy.

night_glitter · 2021-03-02T16:46:33+00:00

I’ve never heard of this show, but I can see he’s conventionally attractive. That’s why they’re attracted to him - he’s an attractive actor. If they had Gilbert Gottfried or Danny Devito or Jonah Hill in this role, nobody would be attracted to the “character” because it’s just about the actor’s appearance. Same for the guy in that show You, or Zac Efron when he played Ted Bundy. These are attractive actors. Of course women find them attractive. It does not mean we want to be abused.

pickadaisy · 2021-03-02T19:23:27+00:00

I’m glad the actor has that perspective...

a_room_of_my_own3 · 2021-03-02T17:03:02+00:00

Yeah, I also believe he is a sociopath. That's the most popular theory, and it's super plausible. It's sad that girls my age find his character attractive. Like his personality sucks..in fact most of his personality revolves around being violent and taking advantage of others. They did give him a traumatic background (he discovered his dad's p*rn collection as a kid!! including self made videos of his dad), but that doesn't excuse his behaviour and I wish people understood that. fortunately I've also read many discussions where people definitely spoke up about how we should not romanticize him, so that's cool🤞

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-03-02T19:43:01+00:00

I don't know this dude but I assume "Nate from euphoria" is such a terrible man that even the dude who plays him says it's scary. is he a serial killer? Hybristophilia is a thing, unfortunately...

orangeboobert · 2021-03-02T17:22:18+00:00

Yeah it wasn’t just his dads porn tapes. He was abused. Still, so was I and I’m not a sociopath. He became what he was bc he was entitled and never suffered consequences. His sociopathy got him further. It reminds me of when I found chuck bass attractive in my early 20s... my prime pick-me years. His and Blair’s relationship was toxic and I thought they were perfect for each other 🙄 So Elordi has a point- It’s scary that there’s attraction to a violent character. It doesn’t say so much about the women attracted as much as the society we’ve been raised in. Women haven’t been taught what a healthy relationship looks like throughout most forms of media, and the greater of society venerates the emotionally unavailable, unstable, and power hungry male. So unless a women had strongly principled parents with a very health relationship, who raised them to have good boundaries, they have zero example of what healthy love looks like. This is something health classes should be teaching women. Red flags, green flags, safe spaces for WOMEN only. This actor grew up during the me too movement so he’s better able to see the toxicity of it, I’d gather.

IAteTheDragon · 2021-03-02T20:31:06+00:00

I watched maybe 2 episodes but it was too deppressing. The guy's character is apparently very handsome and abusive. Maybe this way girls will See ugly abusive guys as more handsome with this programming?

AyemHerself · 2021-03-02T22:44:09+00:00

It's no secret that some women are attracted to this type of man. There are a number of reasons for this, usually tied to some kind of trauma that should be addressed. But it is a mistake to pursue a relationship with this type of man, and it's on women to recognize this self-destructive behavior for what it is and do something to avoid it.

What's really disturbing is that a certain type of man looks at this phenomenon and thinks, "See? Women like being abused! That's why I can't get a girlfriend, I'm too nice to them! Women deserve their abuse because they sought it out in the first place instead of dating me!" THAT'S a narrative that needs to die: not that women can be attracted to "bad boys" who abuse us, but that we shouldn't have recourse if that abuse happens. And it's extremely telling that these same "nice guys" who lament their lack of romantic success due to being "nice" also foam at the mouth at groups like this for encouraging personal growth and cutting ties with bad men.

For every vulnerable woman attracted to abusers, there's at least one man more than willing to capitalize on it.

justforfds · 2021-03-03T00:55:22+00:00

Young women are groomed to accept abusers in staged: spiteful little boys, older boys then older men.

Very small girls are gaslighted into not challenging the idea that boys who pick on them like them.

As they grow a bit, girls are brainwashed into believing that being the prettiest princess makes them special. They are lied to that special men /princes will come and win battles for them and take them to live happy lives of love and adoration. Ain't no mountain high enough, when love conquers all. The now seek men's approval.

Grooming of teenagers now introduces the bad boy. He is a brute but he would never hurt her. He is misunderstood. He is a rebel who rescues her from prudish virginity. Nobody outside can understand. She is so special. If he does hurt her it's because he desires her so much he can't contain himself, or he is jealous that someone else has his eyes on her, or he is upset and depressed. Only she can calm him. She is so special. Exceptions must be made for him. She is lucky to be treated so well, with so much love. If the boy is older, that's a testament to how mature she is. She doesn't see the red flags waving. She is colour blind. They all look green.

jayda92 · 2021-03-02T23:33:42+00:00

Why the fuck is everything blurred?

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-03-04T04:11:53+00:00

And then there are people who think Joe from You is hot AF

Title	What do you guys think?
Author	hateitherexx
Upvotes	296
Comments	45
Date	March 2, 2021 4:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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