The bare minimum or "the bar" are basic qualities you look for in a partner. They also correspond with qualities you need to be a functioning adult.

Women are expected to have almost all of these now and more at the same time so if you are bragging to your friends about any of this in your man, stop it.

Accept what you have to offer in a relationship. IF YOU CAN DO IT, SO CAN HE

Do not lower the bar or accept less than your equivalent just to be in a relationship

FDS ladies do not get excited over a guy that is meeting the bare minimum because we meet the bare minimum and we surpass it. A HVM can meet and surpass the bare minimum.

THE BAR / BARE MINIMUM edit

  • Not rude, entitled, or selfish, but generous and kind
  • Asking you out on a date, a real grown up date, not a stupid lame ass walk date
  • Paying for a date he asks YOU on *applaud*
  • Plans something nice for you on his own
  • Remembers holidays and anniversaries and gives a thoughtful gift
  • Being a good, moral person
  • Has integrity, honesty. No one likes a dirty filthy liar
  • Doesn't cheat on you
  • Has respect and empathy for others, doesn't use people
  • Not leading their partner on when they know damn well they don't want to marry them
  • Knows what consent is
  • Does not want to have sex with minors
  • Does not hate women with an incel-like rage
  • Not being addicted to drugs, alcohol, pornography, and gambling
  • Behaves like a mature adult
  • Takes care of his health, goes to Drs appointments
  • Washing dishes, doing laundry, and other household chores without a tantrum
  • Can cook healthy meals for himself
  • Good hygiene, showers, and brushes his teeth without being told
  • Able to take care of his own children
  • Is not the community dick
  • Financially responsible
  • Paying his bills on time
  • Not having enormous amounts of debt
  • Having a grown up job

Lowest bar to meet. I bet there will be lurkers mad about this though like "these standards are impossible!"

Edit: So the most asked question from lurkers is still “What wrong with a girl paying for the date?”

You shouldn’t be asking this question guys. Men you know you ask women out because you want to have sex with them. We know. You know. We ALL know. It’s bare minimum to be a gentleman and pay for the date you ask her on when you are only asking her out to fuck her. Duh

I swear if y’all don’t come correct you don’t come at all