Quite rightly so, a lot of the time women will say that men are more likely to listen to other men when it comes to attitudes towards women. I fully support this, if you see any man talk in a disgusting manner towards women, you should speak up for the group of people who aren't there to do it for you, it's only fair.

However, the inverse is true. Women are more likely to listen to women about their shitty attitudes about men than they are men. With men, it's very easy to handwaive with "well, they've not had our experience, they've not experienced the patriarchy." However, when it's a fellow comrade they are much more likely to take what they are saying seriously.

The fact that men's suicide numbers are only growing year by year, the fact that young men feel loneliness and isolation at record breaking numbers. The fact that men feel like they have no one to talk to and that they are constantly criticised and demonized by society. This demonization of men is leading to even worse mental health issues that men had already been disposed to due to the way they were socialized, which is only being worsened by the way men are treated as a danger. This is something that most young men will tell you has been their experience in society.

So this post is a call for help to any women who may be lurkers in this sub. I know it's primarly men in here, but I have seen women interacting in here. So this is for you:

CALL OUT DEHUMANIZING, MISANDRIST BEHAVIOUR.

In the same way that as I'm SURE you know, that men are more likely to listen to male friends, this is the exact same for women.

If you wish to be an ally and a male advocate, please call out anytime women are dehumanizing to men, calling them gross or monsters or trash or disgusting just because they are men.

You are invaluable to the cause, and maybe having more allies be a vocal minority, we can turn that to a vocal majority instead.

You are so so so important, please don't lurk and be shy, speak up and use your voice.

Much love, and I hope you all enjoy your New Years. Let's make 2025 a nicer world.