Men need to open up more

Ben_Eszes · 2018-09-11T17:39:13+00:00

"Open up" as in "tell me that you have a soft spot for kittens or children" but not "tell me the serious problems that you face throughout your day."

Sfrider · 2018-09-11T18:21:08+00:00

..and they are labeled as the more empathetic gender..

strongandhappy · 2018-09-11T17:52:51+00:00

"oh, you have problems? Pussy."

BattleDuck289 · 2018-09-11T20:31:51+00:00

This is so true it hurts. This is one of the reasons that men have such a hard time in a relationship. NOBODY tells you the truth about what is attractive and desirable. You are told to be nice, agreeable, safe, and non threatening but it's the opposite of what women seek. Then you are ridiculed as being a bitch or boring. You just can't win.

Hirudin · 2018-09-11T18:37:39+00:00

Just do what most men in "successful" relationships do. Have pre-planned responses for these types of inquiries that focus on light-hearted and non-threatening problems so that she can feel like you "opened up" to her while you keep the real problems that are bothering you bottled up inside, knowing that if you ever said them out loud, she'd leave you in a heartbeat.

Repeat until dead.

wutc · 2018-09-11T23:42:22+00:00

When I was married, she was upset if I didn't talk about my day but she was upset if I did. She'd say I was complaining too much.

Then my grandmother died. Then 3 months later my dad died. I was broken.

She called me pathetic.

I have since GMOW.

PopCultureMGTOW · 2018-09-11T20:57:20+00:00

LMAO @ "open up more". First argument after "opening up" just once, and believe me, every one of your human vulnerabilities will be thrown in your face. Made that mistake once in my life and never again...lol

TheSpin1 · 2018-09-11T20:31:41+00:00

This is actually a huge reason of Mgtow for me. If my life difficulties drive you away then why do you deserve to be there when I’ve worked through them?

atheist_terry_ascend · 2018-09-11T18:58:51+00:00

lmao.. seriously

"open up" = talk about how you overcame some shit like an abusive dad and cant feel anymore, not actually venting and needing emotional support

chest_henderson · 2018-09-11T19:38:28+00:00

"I already have a pussy. I don't need another one."

greenleefs · 2018-09-11T21:31:37+00:00

Been there, done that:

"Ugh, you're such a victim" and she went to fuck random dudes in a band. The band wasn't even any good.

"..." and she ran off and told people I got beaten every day as a child and made fun of it. To be fair, she did enjoy squashing bugs a little too much.

"THIS IS NOT HOW THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE. WE'RE SUPPOSED TO TALK ABOUT ME AND MY FEELINGS AND MY ISSUES, NOT YOU." She was a superhot 20/10 that was a little too short to be a supermodel. Way up there on the crazy hot scale. I dropped her like a rock after she said that. She tried to reconnect but I need to lower the amount of insane in my life.

Don't open up to women. Never ever do that. Ever. Women are incapable of empathy. Female therapists are predators.

TonyMontana456 · 2018-09-11T23:48:16+00:00

At the end of the day they'll always pick the bottled-up alpha over the open feelings beta. On the surface they want us to be more open but 100% of the time they'll go against their own mantra.

I-am-the-lul · 2018-09-11T20:59:42+00:00

"I wish you would open up and share your true feelings" = "I want dirt I can use against you on a later date"

silive · 2018-09-11T18:38:19+00:00

The men who still believe that ruse should brush up on the story of Samson & Delilah, methinks... On the other hand, if you want to get yourself rid of some annoying snowflake in a hurry and with the guarantee of her never coming back, tell her the most embarrassing story of your life (feel free to make it all up) and then sob in the end.

Gordyne · 2018-09-11T23:55:42+00:00

Yep. Want to lose you unicorn(earlier)? Tell her about your problems and insecurities, like a normal human being.

Inferno-_ · 2018-09-11T20:58:25+00:00

Thats a pretty standard shit test. "tell me your vulnerabilities", "oh, your not invincible, bye". To hell with them

Deviousalpeaujonze · 2018-09-11T23:30:22+00:00

My first few weeks of 'career employment' I told my wife about my concerns at work (and things that could lead to me getting fired or losing opportunities for advancement) and she got so upset and naggy I told myself I would never mention anything serious to her again.

Tirekyll · 2018-09-11T20:21:36+00:00

They mean open your wallet more. Not your mouth.

anongogogo · 2018-09-11T20:09:07+00:00

All women are hypergamy whores. I open up.

TheMeatWhistle45 · 2018-09-12T00:42:27+00:00

When they say they want you to “open up” they mean they want you to lavish them with affection and tell them how you feel about THEM. They give a fuck about anything besides themselves.

dontdoxxyoself · 2018-09-11T21:43:05+00:00

I remember I went on a date with a girl last year and heard her tell me all about her issues with work, with friends, with uni... She did this in large amounts on our first three dates. It wasn't all that we talked about but it was a sizeable portion of our evenings. She said she liked spending time with me because I would shut up and just listen. One day, before we had a fourth date scheduled, I had a rough day at work. A lot was weighing on me. She had called to chat and asked me to open up. I spoke for a solid 5 minutes about the things frustrating me. We never saw each other again. She texted me that I was too negative for her, and that was it.

It's not the first time it's happened...surely won't be the last. Go your own way, gents.

BallsNemze · 2018-09-11T19:24:05+00:00

Wow, cant agree more... But we have to listen to every fucking ounce of shit listenable

Tomato_Joker · 2018-09-12T06:23:24+00:00

Always remember:

What you open up to them about will be used against you [in an argument] sooner or later. They don't really care about what you're going through, they're just curious and want to know because they love gossip [and live for it.]

It's emotional blackmail.

2018-09-11T20:12:01+00:00

lol truth.

MigrainesRcontagious · 2018-09-11T20:29:07+00:00

Awesome, problem instantly solved.

MrBluePill · 2018-09-11T20:59:26+00:00

LOL. True story.

Xxtourlife · 2018-09-11T22:30:02+00:00

No wonder girls don't feel like talking to me after I tell my side.Its like they say "okay" and the awkward, Dead Silence takes form.

I realized that they want us to listen to their Bullshit of Felicia and how she is a total Bitch.I ain't got time 4 dat.

It's why I don't even bother talking to girls anymore.I just keep quiet and Play Tekken 6 or WWE 2011 on my PSP(Mine is still alive😁😁) while waiting for a lecture.

Not an Incel,I have 2 sisters and they are quite easy to talk to.

rationalthought314 · 2018-09-12T00:17:55+00:00

We're fooled into this because blue pill media has a fictional female character listening to the strong male opening up about his feelings and the female characters listening and giving comfort. The strong male is the better for it in the show. All this does in reality is set up a lot of guys to get crushed.

JimmyPellen · 2018-09-12T02:40:37+00:00

What they really mean is:

Men need to open up (their wallets) more.

EconomistMagazine · 2018-09-12T06:20:21+00:00

They want you to open up so they can find your weaknesses faster. They don't want to help, they just want to weigh your potential downsides against another man.

It's the equivalent of going to a car salesman and expecting them to honestly tell your everything won't with the car... You'll never buy it just because the salesman was honest... You'll just move in to the next car.

Wolveryn · 2018-09-11T22:30:37+00:00

Haha, oh you have problems? Oversensitive

kayfab · 2018-09-11T22:14:07+00:00

women say they want and what they truly want hahahah

TigPlaze · 2018-09-11T22:59:40+00:00

EXACTLY. Or he may be mocked and told to "man up" first before she vanishes.

saikon_1485 · 2018-09-12T02:00:40+00:00

yea that about sums it all up fellas

Ketsa · 2018-09-12T06:43:14+00:00

100 %

HappyDaysMyDays · 2018-09-12T02:42:04+00:00

Unfortunately...that is accurate.

pielicker · 2018-09-12T02:48:29+00:00

Open up...as in your wallet.

AngelZafkiel · 2018-09-12T02:50:12+00:00

"men talking about their problems? Lol ima drink their sweet man tears."

MattFoley79 · 2018-09-12T04:47:08+00:00

Yeah, they despise any sign of weakness.

801735 · 2018-09-11T21:18:44+00:00

LOL ]=)

haymansafc · 2018-09-12T09:04:53+00:00

The moment men start opening up, they're branded as all sorts of nasties, told to not feel so "entitled", expected to "man up" and given absolutely no acknowledgement of what they're dealing with. Especially when it comes to gynocentrism in today's society.

Meanwhile, the mainstream media bleats on about high suicide rates in men but skims around the vast majority of the actual issues as men are no longer allowed to voice concerns without facing being labelled or stigmatised.

boydjon · 2018-09-11T21:54:54+00:00

No don’t it will open the, I’m going to make you think you are gaslighting me syndrome.

rationalthought314 · 2018-09-12T00:10:26+00:00

should have ended with the words "what a crybaby!" floating in the air in the last panel.

prawnfynder2 · 2018-09-12T04:17:13+00:00

For real

Anon48529 · 2018-09-12T04:22:04+00:00

Accurate.

mastweiller · 2018-09-12T04:58:15+00:00

I think she actually wanted a slap on the ass, and to get him a beer.

2018-09-12T05:03:11+00:00

she thinks "wow you seem weak, off i go to the 5 other guys I have as backups when im sick of this relationship"

Sesquipedalian4life · 2018-09-12T05:52:49+00:00

Aint that the fucking truth..

2BrownBalls · 2018-09-12T05:53:48+00:00

Right in the feels...

LikeARocStar · 2018-09-12T09:52:29+00:00

LMFAO that's hilarious, and so true!

pushkar_chaudhari · 2018-09-12T11:44:28+00:00

Bitch will automatically get disappeared after u tell her that u are the part of staff cut

2018-09-12T12:30:52+00:00

You know, we make fun of this, but this is real. Happened to me a good number of times.

Paladin2903 · 2018-09-12T13:32:47+00:00

“Men need to open up more” is a shit test. She’s just digging for information that she can then use against you to qualify you as a beta male and then dump your ass. Like mushrooms.....Feed em’ shit and keep em’ in the dark.

As a male, the only people you can talk about your problems with are your old man, a male sibling (that you’re actually close with), and GOOD friends. Not just friends....GOOD friends, that are like brothers. That’s it.

Save your money on the therapists. They don’t give a flying fuck about you, and they don’t know you. It’s just a racket to try and get you hooked on pills.

feedmeacid · 2018-09-12T17:52:17+00:00

So relatable.

Her: "Why are you so quiet, TALK TO ME!!!"

Me: "Okay, here goes, I will actually open up and make myself vulnerable to you."

Her: "You're stupid for feeling that way. Get over it."

Then they change the subject to something about themselves.

robowriter · 2018-09-12T18:24:22+00:00

No absolutely not. Fuck you.

Natsume24 · 2018-09-12T18:28:22+00:00

Everytime I see this, it reminds me of the multiple times these words were said, and upon me opening up myself, I ended up either dumped, friendzoned, or straight up ignored.

And people WONDER why I don't talk about feelings with women. It is a weapon they will use against you.

Frogkaboo · 2018-09-12T18:33:15+00:00

This is why we retreat and stfu when we have issues. It's risk management because we deep down know that something like this could happen.

And it has happened .. often. On little things

Faded_Snake · 2019-01-09T15:38:33+00:00

Maybe the first thing you open up about shouldnt be about how much your life sucks, they don't want all kinds of negativity in a relationship. A girl isn't gonna want a broken mess that they will have to put back together

weallwantsomethink · 2018-12-17T07:14:52+00:00

They wants us to be open as long as it fits their idea of an attractive men.

So yeah have problems be human! But serious anxieties or insecurities and you aren't fit to be her protecter anymore and you can fuck off.

Title	Men need to open up more
Author	DavidRP4K
Upvotes	2120
Comments	141
Date	September 11, 2018 5:30 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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