Advice on Insecurity

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-07-21T07:44:44+00:00

No, no, no. You don't get to skirt TRP for MRP because you already know the answer but you're too much of a beta pussy to listen to it.

Yes, it sounds like Chad finished with her and since no other strong choice was available, she ended up w/ you. What are you doing about it?

stonepimpletilists · 2016-07-21T11:03:38+00:00

askMRP

Maybe talk to your shrink about why you can't be bothered to read the sidebar, or posting rules. You might find answers to your question when you put in the slightest amount of work. https://www.reddit.com/user/Big_Daddy_PDX is right. Every guy who comes here with your bullshit excuse doesn't want people to be mean to him, thinking here is some kind of safe space.

Fuck, you clearly haven't been paying attention in the last day or so have you...

faggot

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-07-21T11:28:05+00:00

It's just your turn

jeeohnjones · 2016-07-21T08:08:07+00:00

should I be feeling

No. Lifting, reading, improving yourself.

Just like everyone else.

IASGame · 2016-07-21T07:30:52+00:00

Despite knowing about the ex and at least 1 branch swing (which I imagine are just the tip of the iceberg), you still describe her as great LTR material, overall good girl.

Worry less, enjoy it while it lasts (it will last less if you are insecure), don't get married.

redearththeory · 2016-07-21T08:13:51+00:00

Given my situation, should I be feeling beta insecurity?

That entire line of reasoning (should I be feeling beta insecurity) is fucking useless and you should give up on it. Ask what you should be doing. What you should be doing is: read the sidebar, lift, ignore what she says, practice what you read, improve yourself. Start doing that. Come back and post your progress in 2 months with a specific question.

redstripedanimal · 2016-07-21T14:02:07+00:00

I can't help but feel as though I'm the woman she settled for

You guys are two women in a relationship.

I'm not self actualized enough to dismiss her remarks with confidence.

Self actualization is right there.>>>>
Also, do you lift?

Scurvemuch · 2016-07-21T15:29:40+00:00

You are a BETTA FAGGOT

Having said that...

What, you think the hamster doesn't change its mind and only goes in one directions

Silly Faggot...

Hamster Training is for Men.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-07-21T06:40:00+00:00

This is so convoluted I started to not give a shit and began skimming before I forced myself to go back and reread.

Whatever "remarks" she's saying are irrelevant so long as her actions match your desires. So do they? If not, become better.

Or if she's some sort of broken alpha-widow, then perhaps it's best to move on before you end up rationalizing marriage to her.

throwawaypille · 2016-07-21T09:18:30+00:00

He dumped her. She still wants him. It's obvious. Imagine the roles were reversed - would she put up with you telling her about her perfect ex ? EDIT: It's one giant shit test. She basically told you you are second best. What are you going to do about it?

donerkebabplease · 2016-07-21T11:46:13+00:00

I forget who said it....

When you start to feel sad, always remember to stop being a bitch and no one cares.

Griever114 · 2016-07-21T11:58:40+00:00

Seriously, why do you care? As you said, and others, its just your turn.

If you are enjoying the ride... enjoy it.

If its becoming a hindrance, next her.

I hear a whole lot of "SHE's" and almost NO "I's". You have WAY too many fucks to give. Stop that shit now and start worrying about you.

CinnaMagister · 2016-07-21T14:10:58+00:00

So you came here because you didn't think TRP would tell you what you wanted to hear? But you think we will?

Sidebar...Immediately read No More Mr. Nice Guy, then ask us for clarification. That book will answer a bunch of your questions for you.

Who are you?

Countpudyoola · 2016-07-21T15:10:49+00:00

I know too much about his woman's dating history.

You care too much about listening to her dating history explanations.

Watch her.

Watch her actions.

Read between the lines and plate her for a LONG time if you must.

Give less fucks.

FireTempered · 2016-07-21T15:40:21+00:00

You say she is great LTR and an overall "good girl" and an alpha widow. and You are beta insecure.

This is not a good set of issues to have.

First, work on your insecurities. In the mean time enjoy the ride with her. Do not get married anytime soon, as I think you will probably next this girl as soon as you get YOUR shit together.

MgFeSi · 2016-07-21T21:18:08+00:00

Given my situation, should I be feeling beta insecurity?

No, but you are because you are still a beta. Apparently a mean and nasty beta, but nonetheless...

I would tell you about having a MAP, or being an assertive leader, or focusing on self-improvement. But, instead, I think I should just let you stew in this: you are so focused on her that you feel inadequate, and in my experience, ladies sense inadequacies faster than men can cover them. It's like a public boner, and you're in gym shorts. Even your cover-up betrays your condition.

I'm not self actualized enough to dismiss her remarks with confidence.

Wha?

MRP: helping men self actualize enough to dismiss girls remarks one day at a time.

Title	Advice on Insecurity
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Date	July 21, 2016 5:17 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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