When I say container words, they are just that, empty words. You fill them with whatever emotions and meaning you want, and speak them at the other person, as if they will know what you've filled it with. It's like filling up, and writing "fragile" on a box. The other person knows what fragile means, and would assume you put their fragile things into your box. To them, a fragile box is filled with new puppies. To you, it's whiskey glasses. You'll both talk about the fragile box, but you're talking about different things.

Shit Tests and Main Events are specific terms to describe specific events. they are not interchangeable with bitchy, disrespectful, nagging, or cunty behaviour. If you're mistaking one for the other, it's because you want to be further along in your MAP than you are. Don't worry about the shortcuts, these things happen in due time.

Shit tests

A shit test is also known as a fitness test. Women are hard-wired with something called the commitment skepticism bias ^(Taken from Dr Cindy Mestons book Why women have sex). And because of this hardwired bias, they assume you being a man who desires them is a facade. These tests are their way of reconciling that with being desired by a man and willing to give up the poon. She has to want to fuck you before you get this. If she doesn't want to fuck you, it's just bitchy behaviour, a cunty attitude, or plain old disrespect.

A good rule-of-thumb: If this isn't escalating, fucking, or otherwise building and releasing sexual tension, then it's not a shit test.

Main Event

A main event is that moment where a woman internalizes the idea of losing a valuable piece of man meat, and is out of options. It's her hail-mary pass, triggered by a visceral, emotional response. It is not measured by severity, consequence, or situation. It's pure emotion. From your perspective, it's a signal that it's time to give her a lifeline (or not) pull her onto your ship, and show her how to be the good woman.

Women tend to think emotion first, rationalization second. There is no rationalization here. Her whole body is screaming at her about an upcoming rejection. Women hate rejection, and build their entire lives around avoiding it. If you're on a main event, she's probably a shitty shitty first officer, past or present tense. She knows she has, even without the self awareness to articulate or take responsibility for it. And because of it, she's losing attention, affection, and commitment. Of course, those don't mean anything unless the guys absence is a loss. This is also why most men getting divorced don't get these events, instead getting continued rage from their soon to be ex. guys who are fuckable by at least 1 other woman get these events.

If it's an escalation of previous bitchy behaviour, it's not a main event. If it's threats of false accusations, it's not a main event. A main event is not there to hurt you or manipulate you. It's done because none of those womaneese tools are working, and she can feel things slipping. She won't be angry, she will be scared, and the nuance is important. If you're not good at body language, you may miss it. One thing which seems to be constant, by the time it happens, you've 50% checked out already. That checking out can be the trigger of the event.

A good rule-of-thumb: If she's throwing out snot bubbles and you're largely indifferent, it's probably a main event.