A big Yike from r/confessions

HeForeverBleeds · 2018-09-18T23:34:32+00:00

No surprise, as studies have proven the double standard that things condemned as "creepy" when men do it are dismissed as flirty when women do it

This is partly why I can't take it seriously when people complain about "objectification" and "sexual entitlement" and harassment as if they're gender specific things men need to stop doing to women. Women probably do it just as much. The difference is that men who do it are told that they're a menace, and women are told things like "it's cool what you are doing"

I'm glad that at least some people are calling her out. Though she certainly still has more upvotes and supportive comments than a man would have gotten

chambertlo · 2018-09-19T03:19:52+00:00

Ew, she sounds gross and just like a sexual predator.

juanml82 · 2018-09-19T03:16:27+00:00

If there is a double standard, it's because the modern puritan discourse infantilizes women and refuse to see them as sexual beings - not because it discriminates men.

Nobody would read this and think "OMG, men are victims of this woman" because we all understand men are capable of making their own choices regarding their own sexuality and whatever reasons they had to agree with this, they are they own reasons.

Puritanism, however, refuses to set the same standard for adult women. The answer to this double standard isn't to make society infantilize men, but to reject the idea that grown women are, by default, poor damsels in distress unable to make choices about their own sexuality. It wouldn't promote men's rights or interests to be treated as people unable to make their own choices.

WoodChucking · 2018-09-18T23:26:44+00:00

I had a old girlfriend (I've been married for 15+ years now, so this was a long time back...) who always wanted to draw me nude.

She didn't want me to model, tho. Just be nekkid while doing whatever it was I was going to be doing anyway.

Since my default state at home is sans clothing anyway this worked out fine.

So there are several sketches out there of me sitting in my office chair, feet up, surfing the web while naked.

goodmod · 2018-09-19T03:59:10+00:00

Although it's a good post, its title does not say enough about its subject. This forces people to click and read before they can decide whether they are interested. It also makes searching impossible.

If everyone did this, the subreddit would become unusable.

So please don't do it. Take the time to describe your link, and save the time of hundreds of other people.

When making a title, it's best to assume the reader doesn't know what you're talking about - but don't go overboard with every detail. Then check if there are any words you can cut out without losing any important information.

PowerToAnnihilate · 2018-09-18T23:20:27+00:00

Its kinda creepy anyways... and the men are dumb for just stripping for her too lol

McGauth925 · 2018-09-19T15:39:23+00:00

There's a lot more to this than simply the fact that the same behavior for men and women is judged differently. It will be judged differently for as long as men want to benefit and enrich primarily their own offspring, JUST AS WOMEN DO. For millennia upon millennia, the only way men could believe a child was his own was to restrict the sexual freedom of women.

Now, we CAN know for certain. And women, in general, want to prevent that as much as possible for their own benefit.

Really, in the end, people want equality only where it benefits themselves.

NerdyWeightLifter · 2018-09-19T06:29:45+00:00

A man doing that is in fact a subplot of the movie Titanic; a movie that women seem to find romantic, despite all the men dying.

Subhajit_Halder · 2018-09-19T14:22:40+00:00

i am gonna post the same confession pretending to be a man who wanted to see his friends (who were girls ) naked. Let's see what happens.

starkimarki · 2018-09-19T10:34:02+00:00

As a young man I was asked to model nude by a somewhat unattractive female friend of a very attractive female friend.

Did it. Was used quite thoroughly for sexual pleasure by the artist. I assumed that it was par for the course, in fact I was surprised she actually drew the picture first!

Attractive friend was not attracted by my sacrifice.

Redditor005050 · 2018-09-19T15:30:09+00:00

It's ok she has a vagiana between her legs

thwml · 2018-09-20T10:17:31+00:00

Disgusting. That's all that needs to be said.

Cwmcwm · 2018-09-19T03:16:56+00:00

I see nothing wrong with this. I (male) asked girlfriends the same. I didn’t ask female friends, but whatever. It doesn’t cost anything to ask.

davou · 2018-09-19T16:45:47+00:00

eh, I don't think this is terribly bad no matter the genders. AS long as the only coercion going on is "I love art and I think you're pretty" Hobies are great, seeing naked people is great, and adults have agency over their choices.

This is a solid scheme that seems to not be hurting anyone. Good for her.

deville05 · 2018-09-19T05:35:00+00:00

Not really. .. I mean getting someone nude is the purpose of life. It's fine girl do you. And guys if you do this.. you cool too. Just make sure you improve on your life drawing skills

Also it's probably a joke. You guys take everything too seriously. Just liken feminists

Hevogle · 2018-09-19T11:25:56+00:00

Found the source of OPs post, here ya go. Lets downvote this to oblivion. https://www.reddit.com/r/confessions/comments/9gyahc/i_use_my_art_hobby_to_convince_all_my_cute_guy/?utm_source=reddit-android

Title	A big Yike from r/confessions
Author	bisexualconspiracy
Upvotes	822
Comments	55
Date	September 18, 2018 11:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/9gzsow/a_big_yike_from_rconfessions/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/a-big-yike-from-rconfessions.893801 https://theredarchive.com/post/893801

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