How can I help

EvilPundit · 2015-11-05T03:47:47+00:00

This post is stickied for the beauty of its simplicity.

If we each devote just thirty dollars a month and thirty minutes a week - that would add up to a lot of activism.

TheDude41 · 2015-11-05T03:51:21+00:00

Plenty of places:

Justice for Men and Boys (j4mb.wordpress.com Mike Buchanan is the bomb)
avoiceformen.com (A Voice for Men, apparently not a non-profit but a good voice)
COTWA.org
thefire.org
fathers-4-justice.org
boysmeneducation.com (formerly A Voice for Male Students)
acfc.org (American Coalition for Fathers & Children)

(Avoid goodmenproject.com at all costs.)

I'm sure there are many more good ones that I missed.

xynomaster · 2015-11-05T04:12:14+00:00

I think the best way to approach this is to pick charities or causes that feel particularly important to you and go about it that way.

Causes I support and some ways you can help here:

Ending male only conscription. I can't think of a way to donate money to this but you can, if you're so inclined, write op-ed or opinion pieces to local papers expressing why you think this is a good idea and hopefully cause some change. Maybe even write to your political representatives.
Corollary to that, and one that it's a lot easier to find concrete causes to donate to / volunteer with, is ending the abuse of boys as child soldiers and the mass enslavement / murder of young men and boys across the world in prisons, executions, etc. You can do this by donating to reputable charities like Child Soldiers International, Amnesty International, UNICEF (edit: maybe not this one so much), etc. These charities have made actual progress in things like freeing child soldiers (the vast majority of whom are boys) which is, in my opinion, huge for men's rights. Here's just one example - the Nigerian military (the supposed "good guys") have killed over EIGHT THOUSAND young men and boys, countless of them innocent, in their fight against Boko Haram. This doesn't even count combat deaths, this is only men and boys they have captured and tortured/murdered in cold blood. Interesting to note that a few hundred girls go missing and the world comes together to find them, but thousands of innocent little boys are being tortured and murdered in these cells, the world knows exactly where they are, and just can't be bothered to go save them.
Working to get equal protection for men and boys who are the victims of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Anytime you see an article joke about a woman assaulting her husband or molesting a young boy or drugging and raping her boyfriend and playing it off like a joke, write to the newspaper and call them out on it. Help spread awareness of this sort of thing. If you see a story in the UK where a victim of this sort of thing has to watch their abuser walk free from court without any consequences, you can report it as unduly lenient here (It has made a difference in the past, in particular in cases regarding women sexually abusing young boys).

MalibuStayZ · 2015-11-05T03:47:48+00:00

There are different men's right issues. It depends what you are especially concerned on:

Do you care especially about homelessness? Maybe you could invest those 30 minutes helping in a homeless shelter
Do you care especially about suicide? Maybe you could help working for a suicide hotline

And so on ...

DougDante · 2015-11-05T04:46:01+00:00

30 minutes per week.

Spend 5 of them responding to one action opportunity, with my thanks.

https://www.reddit.com/r/mractivism/new

Spend 15 sending a nice message or reply to someone in distress in this subreddit or in a related environment. Even better if what you say might be helpful. For that, please consult the FAQ and /r/mrref

Spend 10 talking with a friend about what you've read.

IronJohnMRA · 2015-11-05T14:02:02+00:00

This place is really hurting for cash. They need it to stay afloat. I think you'll get the most bang for your buck there, so to speak.

http://antimisandry.com/forum.php

TheDude41 · 2015-11-05T03:58:01+00:00

Even more -- start a men's rights group in your community & have regular meetings at a bar.

zulu127 · 2015-11-05T10:02:54+00:00

NCFM.org

Canadian Association for Equality [CAFE]

chavelah · 2015-11-05T18:26:21+00:00

Many public schools have mentoring programs where you have lunch with an at-risk kid (on school grounds, in the line of sight of other adults) a couple of times per month. I used to recruit for such a program, and the need for male volunteers was dire.

mean0dean0 · 2015-11-07T21:56:45+00:00

Homeless shelters would be your first, best bet. They are always needing assistance both with fundraising and with volunteer work. You won't find any male-only shelters, but by unhappy coincidence most homeless people are men due to the unholy trinity of mental illness (affects more men than women), financial instability (due to traditionally male jobs being cut) and drug addiction (again, affecting more men than women). Just make sure when you are looking for shelters to donate your time and money, you find out who they serve (many shelters give out vouchers for long-term stay only to women, or they offer programs that assist primarily women in receiving child support pay or welfare benefits). Most shelters that don't, don't receive much donation money in return; it's a sad fact that many women want to keep their time and money "in-house," only donating to shelters that will help people who look like them and who have their same problems. Finding shelters that help men with skills training and psychological help is hard, even when you aren't out on the street and the weather is getting cold.

anunusualname · 2015-11-08T14:37:24+00:00

I just donated $10 to Boys and Men in Education (http://boysmeneducation.com). It appears that educational issues start as early as Kindergarten and correcting these issues should be a high priority.

For my 30 min. this week, well I started this thread and then read through the comments, and then donated. Not a huge accomplishment, but a start.

I'm revising my goal from $30/month to $10/week as I plan to start doing this weekly rather than monthly.

Reddit says there are "215 users here now" (just saying... :-))

anunusualname · 2015-11-08T22:35:32+00:00

Aaaaannnddd... $25 to the Red Pill. Watch the trailer. Great to see people saying the things that have needed to be said for a LONG time.

Jasperkr672 · 2015-11-05T04:28:20+00:00

This subreddit regularly has stickies up for posts that ask people to contact politicians or organisations about certain issues, so be sure to look out for that.

You could also donate money to various charities or volunteer for shelters that help suicidal and homeless men and male victims of domestic and sexual violence.

192873982 · 2015-11-06T23:38:11+00:00

The best way to spend the time would be to totor boys that suffer from the school system that doesn't care about them.

anunusualname · 2015-11-07T18:47:55+00:00

Thanks for all the great info and positive energy!!

I have a few things to take care of in real life but I will come back tomorrow with what I decided to contribute this week.

paradigmarson · 2015-11-08T14:08:18+00:00

Find a misandrist and encourage them to speak in a way that alienates their audience. Provoke them without offending the audience yourself. Make them grow arrogant. When audience's distaste peaks, call the misandrist out on their bigotry. Quote the worst parts and don't let anyone forget them! Contextualize their hate speech within wider MRA narratives: vilification, unfair expectations, slander, discrimination.

ee4m · 2015-11-05T18:55:09+00:00

Avfm have been the most effective group so far.

wazzup987 · 2015-11-05T15:51:48+00:00

30 minutes per week to aid the men's rights movement

make videos write a blog.

Imdefender · 2015-11-06T14:28:54+00:00

where are you in the world ?

paradigmarson · 2015-11-08T13:58:57+00:00

Studying the MRM by unbiased sampling of its writings and taking notes, then using the balanced knowledge thus gained to formulate new rhetoric and prepare for making a credible case for men's rights in conversation

Title	How can I help
Author	anunusualname
Upvotes	73
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Date	November 5, 2015 2:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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