Slapping Is Okay: Why Is It So Acceptable In Society For Men To Get Domestically Abused

Redxl1 · 2013-04-28T15:29:37+00:00

I hate this type of writing, where in the first paragraph you have to add your disclaimer "I hate men who hit, let's get that straight!" BS. Anyone willing to broach this topic seems to write like they are walking on egg-shells and rightfully so unfortunately. Otherwise a decent read but I can still hear rad fems scream "because patriarchy!" every other sentence.

SpiritofJames · 2013-04-28T17:22:12+00:00

Ask yourself which is the most effective way to end domestic violence against men - asking the ladies to stop, or encouraging men to defend themselves?

Then, ask yourself why this article constantly says there is no excuse, no context, in which a man may hit a woman without being the scum of the earth.

This article is misandric and disgusting.

Veritabl · 2013-04-28T21:41:49+00:00

Real life story here. My girlfriend attacked me. I'm not talking about slapping, she went vicious. We weren't fighting so I didn't expect it at all. I was just stunned and standing there like an idiot as she punched me.

I don't remember what happened after she picked up the hammer. Honestly I don't. I have one or two images but I'm not sure if I just made them up. It was an honest to goodness blackout. I don't think most people have ever had a blackout, except from alcohol. Blackouts sound like some kind of myth, but I assure you they're very real.

What I do remember is her curled up in a ball crying out for me to stop beating her. I remember telling her we were over. I remember her begging me to let her stay, saying it was all her fault and that she loved me. I remember grabbing a bag and telling her to get her shit because she didn't live here anymore. I remember watching her drive away.

Do I feel bad about beating her? Not one bit. If you bring the violence, you more than deserve what's coming to you.

What did she do? She threatened to complain to the police. Yeah, that makes sense. Start violence and then cry for the police when you get hurt. She told everyone that I beat her. Small problem, everyone knew she was a liar. They half-way believed her and nothing more.

My favorite part was the fucking rampage she went on after that. She called me up 9 months later to beg for some money, and incidentally mentioned that she'd been diagnosed with some STD months back but hoped my "dick rotted off". Turns out I didn't have any STDs, but one of her sailors did. She was having all this sex while telling me she loved me and we should get back together. Stupid slut.

One good thing came out of all that. I learned to have better taste in women.

runs_in_circles · 2013-04-28T15:58:59+00:00

I agree entirely with the general sentiment, but the delivery and almost complete lack of evidence aside from personal experience and one wince-inducing but overall sensationalist 'panic' media video. This type of article, more of an opinionated editorial than a journalistic piece, doesn't do much for the points it's trying to make.

2013-04-29T00:23:05+00:00

I think a main issue with slapping is that people think it doesn't cause any major damage. They also associate it with women. When you hear of a man abusing a woman, you think fists balled and kicks. When you hear of a woman abusing a man, you think of a woman mildly slapping him away. This is hardly true.

Besides, slapping can cause some goddamn damage. I can personally attest to this. I was once slapped by another girl in high school, and ended up with a mild black eye.

sector7nhnw · 2013-04-28T21:55:20+00:00

I've often had the debate with my friends if it's ok to hit a girl back if she hits you. Technically I do think it's ok because what right does she have to hit me? Absolutely none (unless of course I was deserving of it), she has no right to lay a hand on me. Personally I feel that no person has a right to harm anyone else, be it guy on guy, girl on girl, or guy on girl. It really bugs me that so many men consider it absolutely unacceptable to hit a woman but will not hesitate to assault another man, often very seroiusly. You may argue that men have a strength advantage, but what happens if the guy being beaten up by other guys is really small, or a really feminine homosexual guy? What happens if the woman assaulting a man is a real strong or really large? Where do you draw the line? The idea of anyone assaulting another person, regardless of gender, really angers me. I have no idea where women got this sense of entitlement to just be able to go around slapping guys (or worse) and not face any consequences.

Bohica69 · 2013-04-28T16:39:16+00:00

Door swings both ways.

ThePigman · 2013-04-29T03:23:17+00:00

"A perfect example of this is my CONSTANT calling out of Chris Brown."

As i recall, in Rhianna's own statement to the police she claimed that she had hit him several times before he lost it and hit her back. The statement was quoted by the defense and, as i recall, the prosecution did not dispute it.

pvtshoebox · 2013-04-29T15:22:10+00:00

I recently saw a Dove - Men Face Lotion ad that mentions that men receive "4 deserved slaps" on average. Outrageous. An ad designed to encourage men to buy a product still needs to remind them that when they are abused, it is because they deserved it.

Could you imagine if those ladies getting their sketches done last week ended their campaign with some endorsement of battering women?

usernameString · 2013-04-28T20:47:42+00:00

I agree that women shouldn't beat men any more than men should beat women, i.e. not at all, but I don't agree with the (fairly common) attitude that all physical violence, no matter how minor or in what situation, is abhorrent. The writer speaks as if there is nothing a partner can do that is worse than even minor physical violence, which is bullshit. If a girl punches me in the shoulder when she thinks I'm being a dick, I'll respect that, but if she lies and cheats and manipulates, then I'll never forgive her.

Trojanbp · 2013-04-29T01:39:29+00:00

I admit, that first video...I laughed. Should I hang myself now?

internethardman · 2013-04-29T02:42:28+00:00

I literally can't tell the difference between a 120 lb 5'2" woman slapping her boyfriend and a 6'3" 190 lb man striking his girlfriend. Help somebody explian this to me hlep

Title	Slapping Is Okay: Why Is It So Acceptable In Society For Men To Get Domestically Abused
Author	Imnotmrabut
Upvotes	251
Comments	50
Date	April 28, 2013 1:51 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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