Does sexual assault/rape go towards N-count?

MisgenderedCactus · 2016-11-18T03:05:13+00:00

I personally do not count rape or sexual assault towards my N, nor would I count it towards any other man's or woman's. When I say my N is 1, I am only talking about the sex I actively wanted and agreed to engage in.

For the purposes of most conversations, I'll say I was a virgin til age 22, because there are incredibly few people I trust enough to let them know I was actually 10. My lover knows because he is my best friend and earned my trust with this knowledge, and when I have another relationship I will tell that person once they've proven themselves trustworthy as well.

trpobserver · 2016-11-18T01:19:24+00:00

Physically, yes, but I think most people wouldn't factor it into somebodys ability to be a good LTR (in terms of n count, there may be issues with sex if they were significantly traumatized.)

LittleWindowpane · 2016-11-18T01:45:51+00:00

HELL NO it does NOT go towards your N-count. It may mean that you're traumatized or at high risk for rape. It may even mean that you live a high-risk lifestyle, but it does NOT go towards your N-count.

N. B. I am by no means a rape apologist; I'm just stating that some women are at higher risk for rape than others. We say that some people are at higher risk for murder, hate crimes, robbery, assault, and every other kind of crime. Why not rape? Black guy at a Klan rally's at a hell of a lot higher risk of becoming a hate crime victim than he is when he is walking down the street.

EmilyCharland · 2016-11-18T21:57:01+00:00

Who gives a damn and who thinks about this crap?

SirNemesis · 2016-11-18T01:38:27+00:00

Depends. If we're considering N-count as a red flag for mental issues, then rape is like a +10 to N-count. If we're considering N-count as a red flag for behavior and attitude towards casual sex, then rape doesn't count.

bsievers · 2016-11-18T00:56:39+00:00

In my opinion, N count is purely consensual encounters. I even have no problem with a rape victim saying they're still a virgin. It does come with one huge caveat though: you can't claim to be a virgin and not offer that you also have a child/std from the encounter. IMO virginity implies the other two and that'd be a lie of omission.

gavinok · 2016-11-18T06:10:59+00:00

I mean, women don't get raped multiple times in a statistically significant sense.

I am going to call BS if a woman says she was raped like 6-8 times. That's regret sex at this point.

exit_sandman · 2016-11-18T06:49:30+00:00

I think N-count would be one of my lesser worries when dealing with a woman who has been raped at some point.

artietx · 2016-11-18T19:58:18+00:00

Omg how is this even a question?

N-count is a number of sexual partners. Therefore any contact of mucuous membranes counts. Anything that could technically result in pregnancy or STD counts.

Yes, rape/assault counts. Yes you might want to specify, like say the count is N, but M times I was raped.

No it doesn't matter if sex is consensual or not. Those are just subsets of a bigger set "sex" that includes all forms of it. It's sexual past men care about, not just consensual sexual past.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-11-18T01:46:30+00:00

Does unwanted sex count towards your partner count or is it strictly consensual sex?

in what way does "Wantedness" relate to or effect the number of dicks that have been inside a woman?

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prodigy2throw · 2016-11-18T02:15:38+00:00

N count in terms of smv/ Rmv is equally qualitative and quantitative.

kamwren · 2016-11-18T07:22:15+00:00

No, but it's worse. I'd rather go for someone with a high n-count than a rape victim.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-11-18T10:23:05+00:00

Not in my count. I would not count sex work either. For me N count is an ex a partner wants to make me jealous and hurt with. Giggling about how exciting it was.

questioningwoman · 2016-11-18T13:37:33+00:00

No because partner implies it's consensual. A raped virgin shouldn't tell men she had sex.

GuitarsAreGettingOld · 2016-11-18T14:27:55+00:00

No, not in my mind.

Entropy-7 · 2016-11-20T04:54:08+00:00

For men, no; with the caveat that it depends on your definitions. Rad fems consider any sex to be rape, and then it is a sliding scale all the way down to violence or the threat of violence.

For women, it is a bit trickier. On the slut-O-meter, obviously no because it was non-consensual. For practical purposes, you might as well toss it in there because of the additional baggage it brings.

And again, it depends on your definition.

Title	Does sexual assault/rape go towards N-count?
Author	Elsanahai
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Comments	73
Date	November 18, 2016 12:46 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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