So, this post was inspired by a recent post I made earlier asking the women of this subreddit to rank different male physiques. One thing I noted is that while many did engage with the question as I expected, a not too small minority chastised the post for its lack of diversity and that they would prefer a "normal guy" whereas I only provided "different stages of gym addict", now, personally I feel like the examples some women gave for a "normal guy" citing men like Seth Rogen and Jack Black are ridiculous, and I genuinely cannot fathom any woman genuinely being physically attracted to such specimens (that's just my opinion though, I'm sure it happens, but even still, I'd be absolutely disgusted to ever look like this and even dare approaching a woman), it did get me thinking about a notable quirk in attraction that most redpillers here scarcely think about.

Generally, I've noticed that when factoring a man as a potential relationship prospect based on looks and other metrics of attractiveness, women have a tendency to also consider the longevity of a long term relationship with a man beyond just how attractive he is. That is, a man can be incredibly attractive, like the typical dick-skin lean fitness influencer man, and yet women will say he is "too much", not because he is unattractive, but because she imagines that she cannot keep up with his extreme lifestyle because she would prefer a partner that is fine with having lazy days and eating out and not obsessively calorie counting every day, which she perceives men who are extremely shredded to be. Now, while I will say that in many cases this kind of feels like an excuse for some women to not up their game on certain metrics or avoid insecurity with a partner who outclasses them, I will say that it has its value, and so I've divided the spectrum of compatibility based on these metrics of comfort vs. value, it is my theory that women have varying ratios of comfort to value that appeal to each and I'm curious to see how exactly that applies to the ladies of this subreddit by choosing from a variety of examples.

Example one is 100% value, virtually 0% comfort: This guy maybe spent a bit of time on the relationship initially, but once things are locked in he's far too busy with other prospects to pay anything much mind. This is the kind of guy that redpillers like Tate idolize, constantly "on the grind" and running multiple businesses, hyper wealthy and successful, extremely charismatic and fit, but almost never has any time for you because he is constantly thinking of new ways to improve himself and become better, there is no time to stop for this guy and even in the rare instance he is spending time with you, he's probably thinking of new ways to make more money, build a better body, get more famous, etc.

Example 2 is a more balanced split of about 80% value and 20% comfort: This guy is a very busy workaholic and shares the ambition of the first, but also has a deep love for the woman he's with and wishes he can spend more time with her. While this guy can live in the moment from time to time, it's much more difficult for him to spend extended periods simply enjoying life with a woman without feeling guilty for not expanding on his purpose or mission, he feels guilty eating unhealthy meals or drinking wine with his girlfriend because he worries being too comfortable can lead to him becoming out of shape, and while he does love his girlfriend or wife, he is more likely to placate for his absence with gifts or grand gestures rather than spending more time with her.

Example 3 is about 55% value and 45% comfort: This guy is probably what most women think they would perceive as ideal (though personally I think the chances of attraction being retained are much higher with example 2), he truly loves the woman he's with and is willing to give up some aspects of his career and somewhat let himself go physically as they spend more time with one another. With a guy like this, he probably has "love goggles" and is more likely to ascribe to "happy wife happy life" ideology, he still works and is financially stable, but sees his work as a means to ensure that his partner remains happy and that they can eventually have a family together, likely spending most of his time outside of his work with his partner in some capacity, and is open to having a few beers and a lazy day without guilt.

Example 4 is 30% value and 70% comfort: This is where I think you really start to lose women, this type definitely buys into bluepill ideology and thinks that his partner "loves him for who he is" and is thus very likely to get out of shape soon after the relationship is locked in, if not just outright being out of shape to begin with. He might have a good sense of humor and get along well with you, but he's also likely very lazy and needs to be prodded to get out of his comfort zone in the relationship to do more things. Likely has a middling career where things are "alright" but not getting better, and doesn't seem to have many plans to do much more other than getting married and popping out a few kids before kicking the bucket.

Which ratio appeals most to you, if any? Does my theory come off as accurate? Or are there any holes the women of PPD might notice that show my thoughts to not be fully representative of how women view relationships in reality? Very curious to hear your thoughts on this since I've been thinking about this topic for quite a while.