Short men

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2023-03-16T04:57:23+00:00

Seconding the girl who said to look to successful short guys and see what works for them. But also:

Better fitting clothes and better style will absolutely help you. I'd recommend finding a celebrity with similar height/build/features to you and following them on social media to get an idea of what kinds of outfits might look good on you. This goes for haircuts as well; make sure you've got one that suits your head shape.
Develop a great grooming routine. Skincare, hygiene, etc.
Invest in shoes that add a bit to your height- Nike Air Forces, cowboy boots, etc. You may also want to pick up some shoe lifts to give yourself a couple extra inches.

Height definitely matters, but there are plenty of dudes on the shorter side who are reasonably successful with women. Be confident, and don't give up!

Windmill_flowers · 2023-03-16T04:29:32+00:00

First things first, find another short guy who was successful and ask HIM.

Whatever you do, do not ask women. We will give you advice for the world we wished we lived in. A world where all that matters is what's inside, etc etc.

If I were to guess, I would say where shoe lifts and travel to a country where the majority of people are also of shorter stature.

slazengerx · 2023-03-16T05:45:00+00:00

I'm 5'8" (and 55 years old for christ's sake!) and I've never really considered height much of an impediment to dating. Most women do care about height which is perfectly ok - you like what you like; evolutionary psychology has some holes, but it's not complete BS. So about the only thing I've done is not even bother to try dating women taller than around 5'5". The average woman in the US is 5'3.5" (just looked it up for this comment) so you've got a huge portion of the population still available. Just pretend those above maybe 5'4" don't exist (for dating purposes, that is).

If you choose to view this through a competitive framework, being tall - in and of itself - is not much of a competitive advantage. It's only an advantage all else being equal, which it never is. Almost half of taller guys are overweight, a decent chunk of them are obese. Toss those aside. A big chunk of those left are unattractive in other ways - bad face, balding, hairy, bad teeth, etc etc. Toss those aside. Then you've got a big chunk of social dwarves, humourless twats and moronic nitwits. Toss those aside. All of a sudden you don't find a lot of tall dudes - or men, generally - left standing. The competition is, generally, weak. Again, if you want to view it in that context.

So, don't sweat it. Focus on your (shorter) niche, stay attractive, don't be an asshole, no tracksuits on a first date, and make a pile of cake. I suspect you'll be just fine. Just my two cents, of course.

anotherstarbuckeroos · 2023-03-16T05:13:48+00:00

Style and fitness. I've dated guys that short and the thing they all had in common was being athletic, mainly wrestler or mma types.

nastyfella · 2023-03-16T05:16:30+00:00

Go for short girls

Soloandthewookiee · 2023-03-16T04:34:39+00:00

Would wearing better fitting clothes and having better style help?

Yes, a lot of guys don't have very good style, have fashionable, well-fitting clothes is a big help (check out r/frugalmalefashion).

I’m only 18 right now and I’m scared I’ll be lonely for a long time and from what it looks like in order to find someone who genuinely likes me for me is I have to become very rich so just wondering

No, that's Reddit nonsense. Plenty of short guys still get dates, still get girlfriends. Does height matter? Yes. Is it everything? No.

You've mentioned your physical appearance, but what about your personality? What about you would make a woman want to get to know you better? Again, despite the prevailing opinion on Reddit, your personality matters a lot. I am very average looking, but I managed to be successful on apps with good pictures and being personable.

decolored · 2023-03-16T05:03:41+00:00

Don’t worry about it much. When you have a feature like height that is seen as weak, you must simply not be weak. I’m 5’5 and have scoliosis so I will only become shorter with time. It’s just life for anyone to accept and make do

PonderingPeaches · 2023-03-16T05:45:07+00:00

I dated a guy shorter than you for years. He often told stories of women turning him down for being short. But he always said that once he stopped letting it bother him, he stopped being held back by it. He was such a charmer. Lit up the room. Everyone loved him. Had no issues meeting women. I imagine it’s just confidence and being ok with not being everyone’s cup of tea.

puddingbike · 2023-03-16T06:20:34+00:00

Improve your appearance in every possible way. Go to the gym and get lean and ripped. Get fashion advice from the subreddits on here. Get some decent clothes that fit you properly. Get your teeth fixed. Get a good haircut. Research skincare a bit. Get a good bottle of cologne. You get the idea.

There are a lot of shorter women out there. Go after them.

I’m only 18 right now and I’m scared I’ll be lonely for a long time and from what it looks like in order to find someone who genuinely likes me for me is I have to become very rich so just wondering.

Don't lose in your mind before you've even tried this game of life.

sunny3002 · 2023-03-16T04:59:29+00:00

Is there anything I can do to boost my attractiveness? Would wearing better fitting clothes and having better style help? I’m only 18 right now and I’m scared I’ll be lonely for a long time and from what it looks like in order to find someone who genuinely likes me for me is I have to become very rich so just wondering. I def know that I have to try harder than taller men but I’m not sure how to quite achieve that so curious on everyone’s thoughts.

Im 5ft8. And what helps is energy. Yes. Get better clothes.yes work out. I also reccomend some boots. They add some height on u. But you have to give off that energy of maleness.

Example. Ur at a party. You cant really spit game too much. Music is loud. Its crowded. Not good for talking. So everything is non verbal. When you control the dance floor and look like you are having fun or tue center of attention women see that. Masculine energy is control. Height matters to some degree. I got a friend who is 6ft1 but cannot pull girls due to social awkwardness. Im shorter and catch hella ass because im dynamic and very socially calibrated. For women they are much more emotional. So you gotta tap into that emotional side. When people say emotionally intelligent dont think of it as being a crybaby but being able to read womens emotions and react accordingly. Make her laugh have fun but also being firm and how to handle situations. Thats what having that rnergy means

Just know they see you. They always see you. If you think you arent being seen they see you.

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kirasenpai · 2023-03-16T05:44:46+00:00

Reading all the comments auf lifts … srsly i would rather stay single

neetykeeno · 2023-03-16T05:59:24+00:00

Well... wearing worse fitting clothes and having worse style couldn't possibly do much good so...

propyl21 · 2023-03-16T05:59:43+00:00

I would love to see a post on here for once where the guy comes in and says "hey, so my internal world is in chaos. I have zero self worth and feel utterly lost. How can I be more confident" - because that would show that he is self aware.

Your height isn't your issue OP. It's your mindset. Think about it. If it wasn't your height, with your current mindset you'd find something else that you saw as a negative about yourself and so on. You need to fix what's inside.

Appropriate_Car2697 · 2023-03-16T06:18:04+00:00

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riceweight · 2023-03-16T08:02:35+00:00

My brother is shorter than you and a couple years older. It doesn’t bother him, as much as I can see. Right now he’s very goal driven — he’s working on securing internships and getting his career set up so he can start working right out of college. He does so much cardio which makes him extremely lean. I suggested weightlifting and eating more to bulk up, but he refused because he is really proud of how fast and how far he can run.

He’s had a girlfriend before but isn’t the type to pine after girls. While he has a ways to go to become a good boyfriend, he has the self confidence and total belief in himself, his ideals, and his faith that make me, his big sister, respect him a lot. Any woman worth her salt should see that.

There’s a lot of guys in my life that can spark concern, like honey, you need to change a LOT to attract a good woman. But my brother? He’s no longer the little boy who everyone thinks is 5 when he’s actually 10 because of his height. He’ll be fine.

Title	Short men
Author	Appropriate_Car2697
Upvotes	9
Comments	71
Date	March 16, 2023 4:15 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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