It appears to me there is one common trait at the end of each Red Pill vs Blue Pill argument: the argument of morality. We've known for awhile that Blue Pill stems from altruistic roots, with a heavy leaning on ethics and morality, primarily christian in the west. Red Pill seems to stem from a Nihilistic, more selfish background, with emphasis on things are what they are, so get what you want.

What I'm trying to say is, isn't this the only thing incompatible between the groups? Every argument on here comes down to the majority of each side understanding the other, they just view it from a different perspective of morals. We are arguing for rational reasons to follow our morals over others.

This doesn't seem very productive. We are changing the occasional mind or two, but how often will these people actually change their morals? It will never look right to them from the other side, until something big happens in their life that could sway them (assuming they are even able to be convinced otherwise).

TL;DR:Every argument comes down to one of morality, and the Red and Blue are just on a spectrum. We are just convincing each other why our morality is better than theirs.