What do you consider "exploitation" in the context of sexual/romantic relationships?

EulenWatcher · 2024-05-24T01:49:18+00:00

Exploitation is an unfair treatment of someone in order to take benefit of them, their work or their resources. Of course, what is "fair" largely depends on who is the judge.

It isn't inherently exploitation, although it can be under some context. I.e. "salting", lying about your intentions etc.
It can be exploitative. If she lies about her feelings and sees her partner just as hear "green card", that's exploitative. If she's genuinely into him, that's not exploitation.
It's not exploitation as long as they both treat each other well.
It is exploitation, if she treats her partner unfairly, she lies about her intentions etc.

So to put it short - it depends on the context. International dating or dating with different income levels aren't inherently exploitative.

Some examples of clear exploitation: a woman marries a much wealthier man with one goal to divorce him and get child support later, a man isolates his wife in order to keep her at home and abuse her, a woman takes advantage of a man's feelings knowing perfectly well she'll never date him, a man lies about his intentions and keeps his FWB under the premise that they'll be exclusive some day etc.

Planthoe30 · 2024-05-24T04:35:10+00:00

What do you consider "exploitation" in the context of sexual/romantic relationships?

the action or fact of treating someone unfairly in order to benefit from their work. Yes I copied this from dictionary.com

When a western man pursues women from less developed countries, because he knows they're attracted to his background and income, is that "exploitation"? Why or why not?

Assuming it is capable of being consensual by both individuals involved no.

When women from a less developed country pursues a western man, because she wants his money and a residency/citizenship in his country, is that "exploitation"? Why or why not?

I would say yes if she doesn’t respect and love him then that is exploitation.

When a woman moves in with a wealthier boyfriend to live rent-free, in exchange for doing most/all of the housework, is there "exploitation" involved? If so, who is "exploiting" who?

No there is teamwork going on in that dynamic that makes the relationship mutually beneficial. No one is exploiting the other.

When a woman starts prioritizing stability and income over physical/sexual attraction when choosing a partner, because she wants kids and/or a certain lifestyle, is she "exploiting" men?

Wanting kids is a valid reason to seek out financial stability and a provider. Wanting a certain lifestyle is selfish and yes it is exploitation to use someone in this manner, you’re an adult and should expect to provide for yourself.

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apresonly · 2024-05-24T19:34:15+00:00

using someone for your short term benefit without care for their longterm wellbeing.

Mentathiel · 2024-05-25T00:36:37+00:00

It could be. It's a good basis for exploitation, as in, it has the inherent power dynamic that would enable him to exploit her, but that doesn't mean that's what ends up happening. I think situations with a huge power dynamic due to a power gap should be avoided, but aren't inherently exploitative, just have high potential to become exploitative.
Yes. If she's not attracted to him and is pursuing him due to a hidden agenda, that's exploitative.
Not really, assuming they're both fulfilling their roles diligently and have both agreed to the arrangement.
If she is not attracted to her partner and tricks him into thinking that she is, I do believe that's exploitative. You're not allowing the person to give informed consent to a relationship with you because you're withholding important information. This information will often come back to bite them in the form of a dead bedroom or something. If she is physically attracted to him but maybe doesn't choose the hottest dude ever, that's not exploitative.

Windmill_flowers · 2024-05-24T05:27:14+00:00

It's not exploitation as you've described it. It's like a cowboy going to a country western bar because he knows women there will be attracted to what he's bringing to the table.
If she's honest about her wants and intentions, then no not exploitative. He knows what he's signing up for. If she feigns being in love but secretly has plans to divorce immediately upon securing her citizenship then I'd say that is exploitative.
If both parties agree to that exchange then I don't think it's exploitation.
Not exploitation to adjust your dating requirements based on what your goals are from the relationship. Males do this all the time. They will alter their standards to get laid. Fat? Single mom? Butterface? If they're just trying to smash they will overlook a lot. I wouldn't call that exploitation if there's no deception involved

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-05-25T14:12:20+00:00

yes, yes, no, no

CatchPhraze · 2024-05-24T01:56:53+00:00

She's not attracted, she's in need. She wants stability and a future for her family. It's not what she's touching herself too in her bed boyo.

Often that means he can leverage her need to be a poor partner and get away with it. So kinda exploitive yeah.

Yes, romance scams are hugely common.
Depends on a case by case.
Again, I think most men know what's up with the trade off of resources for companionship but I think love bombing can be exploitative.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-05-24T06:21:46+00:00

Exploitation is taking advantage of the power you have over someone for personal gain at their expense. 1 is exploitation. He's saying they are "attracted" to him because they're poor. He is seeking to taking advantage of their financial situation. 2 is not exploitation because he has more power, she's specifically looking for someone with more power. 3 could be exploitation if she is not given fair control of her situation e.g. having money of her own given some way instead of being used for her labour for free (him buying things for her but not letting her have her own money doesn't count). 4 is not exploitation because he has more power, she's specifically looking for someone with more power.

Title	What do you consider "exploitation" in the context of sexual/romantic relationships?
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Date	May 24, 2024 1:19 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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