Why Should I Commit?

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-03-15T14:46:08+00:00

As long as you’re honest, who cares? Most people want a relationship that isn’t going to make their lives harder. Whatever that means is subjective. It’s why a lot of women aren’t embracing relationships like they used to anymore. You do you, boo.

BestPlant6968 · 2026-03-15T14:46:03+00:00

There’s absolutely no reason for you to commit if you’re happier not doing so🤷‍♀️.

The one caveat that I do think is important is to be very clear from the beginning with people you want to date that you are only looking for casual relationships. Don’t play the “see how it goes”, “open to a serious relationship if it’s right” thing when you know it’s not really true (and no, the idea that it’s a remote possibility like getting hit by lightning, winning the lottery or being eaten by a shark doesn’t make it true).

I know a lot of the men here will disagree and encourage you to be vague to increase your options but hopefully you’re too mature for those cruel games and manipulation, especially if you’re dating women who you know may be at the life stage where they are looking for something more than a fling.

In other words do what makes you happy, just not at the cost of someone else’s.

jorts-enthusiast · 2026-03-15T14:33:14+00:00

There are pros and cons to casual dating and to committed relationships. At the end of the day, you should not end up in a committed relationship if that isn’t what you want.

rtfclbhvr · 2026-03-15T14:45:12+00:00

Respectfully, you should like a piece of work. I think it’s better if you stick to casual dating!

KayRay1994 · 2026-03-15T14:36:08+00:00

Tbh I don’t think commitment is that important long as you’re not treating others horribly or are leading people on/playing them. If you’re up front, clear and honest about your intentions then by all means, don’t commit. Have your fun. I don’t think there is any issue with that long as you’re being ethical about it

kmb218 · 2026-03-15T14:48:55+00:00

Most people get into relationships because they offer a deep connection and allow to build and share your life with someone. Many people also do not want their parther to sleep around with other people (as it is in casual relationships). But of course if you prefer casual relationships, you shouldn’t commit just because society tells you to. Different people have different preferences. Most people enjoy romantic relationships, but of course there are exceptions.

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ladybird_00 · 2026-03-15T14:48:56+00:00

Sounds like you’re not good at it if you’ve already been divorced, so there’s really no need to try again if you’re happy with your life as is.

Talking_Tanuki · 2026-03-15T14:55:57+00:00

You shouldn’t feel like you have to. If people want committed relationships, that’s great, but if you don’t see the inherent value in one, it might just not be for you.

I’m committed because I love my husband. I want to spend our lives together, and he feels the same way about me. We’re lovers, friends, and partners. We have each other’s backs and support each other through tough times. We genuinely enjoy each other’s company and want to build a life together.

Sure, it means we have less freedom than if we were single, but to us that trade-off is completely worth it because we get so much more out of it, and our lives together are much better and more fulfilling.

wtknight · 2026-03-15T15:30:25+00:00

Removed. No advice posts.

Title	Why Should I Commit?
Author	MidlifeWarlord
Upvotes	0
Comments	25
Date	March 15, 2026 2:28 PM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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