Advice please: BF [31] has high SMV that will only get higher. What can I [30F] do to grow with him?

ragnarockette · 2018-03-14T20:40:01+00:00

Get into great shape
Dress well, wear nice makeup, style your hair how he likes it and just generally put effort into your appearance
Don’t be a nagging shrew. Particularly around wedding planning!!!
Be the goddess of light and fun. Get excited about things, enjoy life, plan fun trips, generally be a fun person that he enjoys spending time with.
Have lots of freaky sex.
Cook yummy food
Be his supporter and cheerleader. Say gushing things about him. Never doubt him or his plans for the future. Men really do value women who stick by them through thick and thin!
Don’t be a slob
Be financially responsible and help him meet financial goals.

Being with a high value man means bringing your A game. But it is so worth it!

masterofthebarkarts · 2018-03-16T04:14:22+00:00

Be valuable beyond sex and home comforts. Those things are important, don't get me wrong, but they are relatively easy to offer. DH loves that I take care of our home and stay fit and available to him, but to be honest, he could find that again. He's a hot guy in his mid-30s, plus he's super smart, sweet, funny, and a great provider. He's a catch, but I've made myself into a catch too.

I'm not 22, but in addition to keeping fit and dressing how he likes, I've helped him tremendously with his career. Some men like this and some don't. There are many aspects of what DH does that are so beyond me I can't even understand it, but he often consults me about people stuff, strategies for negotiating, etc. When he has a new idea I'm the person he wants to try it out on.

Also, we laugh...like a lot. I can always make DH laugh, one time he was so red faced and gasping and just looked at me and said "no one has ever made me laugh like you do" and I just grinned wildly at him.

It's also part of my job to manage household stuff. Because of my buying strategies and general nature I've helped us save a ton of money. DH frequently brings up how happy he is that I'm not spending crazy. He knows he can trust me to pick out our next couch or plan a vacation or oversee our food budget.

The best thing I think is his takeaway when he thinks of you. Sure, a svelte pretty 22 year old is inherently hot. But when your DH thinks of you, and he instantly visualizes his nice home, the way you promote his goals, the fact that you were with him before he was hot shit (same with me and my DH, he often brings up that he knows my loyalty because of this, loyalty is huge for men), the way you encourage and believe in him, the laughter you share, how fun it is to be together, the new experiences you have getting out of your comfort zones together, plus the sex and food...it's not much of a competition.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2018-03-15T14:20:36+00:00

Men value loyalty. He will appreciate you more when he realizes you stuck with him through his less than "a catch" phase.

Also, don't allow yourself to get lazy and his eventual success makes your life easier. Wear attractive clothes around the house. Do your makeup at least mildly daily. Exercise often (do you two go to the gym together?) Give a lot of blowjobs. Let him do that thing he likes to you. Tell him how much you respect and admire him.

The key to keeping someone through a growth period is not necessarily to attempt to avoid getting left behind, it's moreso to avoid getting complacent. He is someone other girls would fight to have, so you should constantly fight to keep him. Don't like your effort or the value you add to your relationship slip in any way.

LateralThinker13 · 2018-03-15T19:46:49+00:00

My question is: he's just going to keep getting "better", so what can I do to keep him/keep up with him?

Be fit, feminine, and ready to f**k. That's 95% of the battle. Men don't tend to trade up like women do, so long as certain needs are met. If you're pleasant to be around, good to look at, supportive and available, he will stay.

unicorn__juice · 2018-03-14T21:33:00+00:00

A shared project can be a fun way to spend time/grow together. Your new house need any work done? Paint the walls, create a garden, redesign something... or surprise him with a weekend away :)

MGTOWManofMystery · 2018-03-15T01:40:18+00:00

Take inspiration from today's sacred holiday. It has to do with steak.

JeanBroady123 · 2018-03-14T21:14:24+00:00

I think that along with your efforts at self improvement, you also cultivate the mindset that he is lucky to have you, and forget about the other women standing in line. If you are committed to a forever marriage and make the effort to be the best wife you can be, it is unlikely he will find you less valuable in the future. Concentrate on building a good life together and raising your child together and most important keep your own interests so you are interesting to be around.

homo_redditorensis · 2018-03-15T12:12:52+00:00

I was just lurking in this sub but i came here to say skincare. If you haven't got a basic antiaging routine yet, the sooner you start, the better. Its easier to prevent lines, wrinkles and sagging than to treat it once they're there.

Actives (vitamin c, retinol, acid peels)
Sunscreen (sun damage is cumulative. More sun = more collagen breakdown. This is the * most important thing)
Moisturizer/hydration
(Optional but very effective IMO) Hydrogel under eye or nasolabial fold masks

Skincare isn't an overnight miracle. These things should make your skin better, look younger in the long run and #4 should give you both super fast results that if done consistently, should prevent new wrinkles/lines. I have a more extensive skincare routine but i find it kind of really reassuring that my skin looks 6 years younger than my boyfriend's (who actually looks like hes in his prime and will probs look his absolute best until he starts balding/reaches 40 or whatever comes first). He loves my skin and i get to feel like I'm a younger girl dating an older man but without the baggage (we're the same age). He's happy, I'm happy.

Hillary_For_Prison · 2018-03-15T00:39:09+00:00

Keep in shape.

Rim jobs.

Anal.

Be the best wife you can possibly be. Support him in every way you can. Support his career goals and indulge his hobbies.

The__Tren__Train · 2018-03-14T23:43:47+00:00

hurry up and marry him, then your SMV won't matter anymore

SilverRiver7 · 2018-03-15T12:46:03+00:00

Make sure your workout is a real workout. I had an ex who was 23-28 during our relationship, and on the tail end of it she started putting on weight and slowly letting herself go. She would watch her calories and go to yoga sessions here and there, but she didn't have it in her to actually do a serious workout and get fit.

If you want to keep fit make sure to do squats with a 40lb barbell, and add weight plates as you progress:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1xMaFs0L3ao

Squat with serious weight. You should only be able to do 5 reps before your body just gives out and needs a 4-5 minute rest. If you can do more than 5 reps then you don't have enough weight on there.

Squatting heavy burns calories like crazy and keeps your whole body toned. Squats really do work your whole body. Your legs bend and straighten to move the weight. Your abs and lower back muscles stabilize your trunk while your legs move. Your upper-back, shoulders and arms balance the bar on your back. Many muscles work at the same time, not just your legs.

Remember that a real workout is HARD. When you're squatting real weight you'll go down and then think to yourself "Holy fuck, I honestly don't know if I can stand back up again with this," and you're going to have to just grit your teeth and try.

aNationofTwo · 2018-03-15T17:20:00+00:00

Stay out of the sun and hit the gym.

Title	Advice please: BF [31] has high SMV that will only get higher. What can I [30F] do to grow with him?
Author	masterofthebarkarts
Upvotes	53
Comments	99
Date	March 14, 2018 7:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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