Advice with bf

ChaosTh3ories · 2022-08-28T10:11:37+00:00

Dude here. If he sends nudes to another girl, dump him. You should be the only woman who receives nudes from him.

propyl21 · 2022-08-28T11:10:43+00:00

Why on god's green earth are you with someone who is sending pics to someone else? Unless it's some sort of an open relationship?

He's basically telling you how toxic he is. He should have been dumped a long time ago.

inhaledpie4 · 2022-08-28T16:55:53+00:00

Many things wrong with this. Porn is not natural. Porn is not normal. Porn is essentially prostitution. Porn is seeking sexual gratification outside of a relationship. When someone is in a relationship, porn is cheating, no matter what anyone says about it.

As an older man, it is concerning that he is looking at the youngest age of legal girls. 18 year olds should be children to him. The fact that he doesn't see this as wrong is a dealbreaker. The fact that you have to even ask about this means that you are attempting to make excuses and rationalize his behaviour because you cannot accept it. Let's face it, you are asking because you can't rationalize it anymore. You want people to either validate your current assumptions or to give you a slap in the face.

Sending and receiving nudes from other people is cheating in the first place. Doing this with friends or other people he or you knows is even worse. It invalidates all trust up to this point and is yet another dealbreaker.

You can't work through this unless he decides to stop, and even then, you can't trust him to stay away from it. He will very likely just hide it better next time. You SHOULD be concerned. You should be concerned to the point of leaving. Stop enabling him to look at other (younger) woman. You and every other woman on the planet deserve better, and us younger women deserve to not be looked at by taken men. Gross. Just gross.

2022-08-28T13:00:27+00:00

He's been unfaithful. I'd say you'd need to be concerned, yea. Lol. I'm sorry, this is just ridiculous. Should I be concerned? If you don't want to be cheated on. If you want an honest man with integrity. If you want a healthy relationship. But only if! lol. What.

CurrencyFearless250 · 2022-08-28T19:48:25+00:00

Porn kills your brain. It’s addicting too. Research has been done on this. He’s also cheating. Sending nudes to other girls? Not good. Leave. You deserve better.

sweetiewrap · 2022-08-28T10:13:34+00:00

Firstly, porn is not natural and normal. We have allowed ourselves to believe this for too long when all it does is damage our minds and relationships. If he has been messaging other women sexually and seeking them out on instagram he has betrayed your trust and you should seriously reconsider your relationship.

DoctorNini · 2022-08-28T11:51:43+00:00

Yes. Unless you have children, infidelity is never something to ‘work through’. He can work through it himself, in his therapy for sex addiction.

LadySandcastle · 2022-08-28T11:11:35+00:00

The age thing is far from the issue here. The issue is the infidelity and only you can decide if you're okay with that.

saturnsEring · 2022-08-29T00:07:44+00:00

Hell no. pack it up. this “new” toxic idea that all relationships have to be open for the mans sake is just the same old bs repackaged.

id even argue that nothing about porn is natural.. its common yes, but is it natural? what about edited, filtered, angled photos and videos of other women is natural?

especially if he knows them… call it the f off

BasicRegularUser · 2022-08-28T17:42:46+00:00

Porn is not natural or normal. You've got a lot of work to do if you're going to stick with this relationship. People are generally pretty quick to jump to "dump him" but I think in this case it's justified but it can be salvaged.

I would expect a red pilled man to: not watch porn, not be looking up young women on IG, and certainly not sending nudes to other women. All big red flags.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2022-08-28T18:21:41+00:00

Big "Oofs" here. I don't know know how much time you have invested in this relationship, and how much you want to "save" it, but you are fully justified in cutting bait and leaving.

UnbotheredDee · 2022-08-29T03:37:41+00:00

Porn is culturally accepted but not natural. No one is born with an unquenchable thirst for other people, seeing them only as body parts. Where do you get that from?

Captain_pants4 · 2022-08-29T00:39:23+00:00

It’s a problem. He’s looking to venture out

angelicasinensis · 2022-08-28T23:26:26+00:00

For me and my man, any porn is unacceptable, I do not think porn is normal and natural....how is it natural to be able to look up images of other women anytime? If my husband was looking at porn it would be cheating to me.

Babiecakes123 · 2022-08-29T02:50:41+00:00

First things first..

Porn is not natural or normal.

bcapone27 · 2022-08-28T13:08:58+00:00

People here are quick with definite judgements. The real question is - is this his fetish? Or does he need interaction with other women and this is the way to do it without cheating on you physically? Will he be able to stop for you or start lying? And most important: how do you feel? If you would sext with a guy - would he be okay with it? And one advice : don’t take it personally. Sexuality is complex - and most of the time it’s the other persons fetish / issue / etc not you being not enough

aslanhatessmeagol · 2022-08-29T06:09:32+00:00

He is not good for you. He doesn't respect your feelings. Sending nudes to other girl?That is unacceptable.

18 to 22 is considered as adult in my country. I dont think he is a pedo but he is definitely not a loyal person.

Significant_Shake737 · 2022-08-29T10:51:02+00:00

You need to talk and work through it together which may be hard as he may deny or not admit to the whole thing or want to talk about it. Bottom line is this is -NOT- how a person is supposed to be treated in a relationship. He needs some help if his mind is going to those places, and the more he's exposed to it the more he'll do it.

Title	Advice with bf
Author	BiteDear8178
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Date	August 28, 2022 9:56 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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