I hate my 'diet face' so much

onacasserole · 2017-01-04T22:43:54+00:00

Are you sure you actually look haggard? It could just be the shock of seeing such a slimmer face, I mean, my face is not as full and round as someone who is 60 pounds overweight, and if it were it would look bizarre. Maybe take a year to get used to it, used to doing makeup with your new face shape, etc.

VigilantRedRooster · 2017-01-04T23:13:19+00:00

The curses of rapid weight loss! The boobs are the first to go, and the face takes a temporary hit as well.

Give this time! During the latter part of a rapid or extensive weight loss period, the cheeks tend to look sunken and gaunt. When the body settles into its new weight equilibrium, the skin will tighten up, and fat stores will stabilize for the long term.

For the skin, where possible avoid sun and harsh wind exposure. I find that taking Omega (fish/krill/flax) oil supplements improves the natural oils, thus appearance, of skin and hair.

Count me against fillers and botox!

the-capitan · 2017-01-05T00:51:05+00:00

rein in that hamster. 70% of women are medically overweight or obese. another 10-15% are medically average but not sexually optimal. prime BMI is 19-21 and <15% of women keep that up. the hamster runs really hard to rationalize the failures in not being there. that's why you get all this #bodypositive bullshit.

when you ask an LTR about this shit, most guys will say you look better without cosmetic alteration to help your self esteem. but a hard no is usually either because he legitimately thinks you look better without it now (despite what your hamster says), OR he wants you for the long haul... we all see those old women who look like they've seen more knives than a benihana. once it gets fucked up, surgeons never can fix it.

the closest person in your life adamantly advised you not to, even when if what the dermatologists say is true, directly benefits him. yet he's still against it, so don't.

ragnarockette · 2017-01-05T03:35:37+00:00

I'm 29 and I will shout the benefits of Botox from the rooftops. When done with restraint it can look extremely natural. I've seen great, natural looking results from Juvederm as well, but can't speak to it as I haven't had it done personally. Lip fillers almost universally look terrible so I wouldn't recommend.

I think a lot of men (including my husband) have a gut reaction to Botox/fillers because they immediately think of Real Housewives and Tori Spelling. My husband even retorted with "Why can't you age gracefully? Like Julianne Moore, or Sandra Bullock?" Those women have had fillers/Botox/probably light plastic surgery! It's totally possible to look your age, have great skin, and still be able to express incredulity.

Anyways, it depends on your relationship with your husband if you would proceed against his wishes (I wouldn't hide it from him), but if your face is making you unhappy I think he at least should more fully understand what your goals are and what the outcomes will be if done properly.

Also - Retin-A is a must for many women. Won't correct deep wrinkles but will reduce fine lines and discoloration.

practicewhatyoulearn · 2017-01-05T01:35:42+00:00

Good skin starts with its building blocks; your diet should be high in vitamins (especially vitamin C), protein and healthy fats (such as those found in almonds, avocado, sardines and salmon). Foods that 'age' you, such as processed sugars, processed flour, processed meats (e.g. bacon and sausages) alcohol, energy drinks, soda etc. should be avoided as much as possible.
Change your skin routine; look for products specifically designed for plumping skin or filling in fine lines.

AHAs are fantastic because they improve healthy collagen production and smooth uneven skin textures.

Retinol helps promote collagen production and other skin-support substances resulting in firmer skin with an improved texture and enhanced barrier function (everybody should have some form of retinal in their skincare regime).

Vitamin C is a God among skin care. If you're looking for something to help brighten your skin and make it glow like nobody's business, this is your go to. It's a very strong antioxidant and so helps prevent the break down of cells while also increasing collagen production (including dermal collagen, which is significant for wrinkle reduction), reducing the appearance of skin discolouration, strengthening the skin's barrier response, enhancing the skin's repair process, reducing inflammation and helping skin withstand exposure to sunlight.

Vitamin E works in several different ways including helping to protect cell membranes from oxidative damage and preventing collagen from being destroyed. Vitamin E and vitamin C is a killer combination.

Niacinamide helps prevent skin from losing water content, which will help plump out sunken looking skin.

If you're not using a serum, toner and eye cream I would recommend getting them ASAP. Personally, I swear by Kiehl's, The Body Shop, and Environ. They're expensive brands, but worth every penny as they exceed all advertised promises.

Invest in a light-reflecting primer; a primer (applied after moisturiser) can help fill in fine lines and create a smoother, more even skin-tone. The light reflecting particles give the skin a more luminous appearance and further hides fine lines.
Change your beauty regime; now that your facial shape has changed, you may need to change how you apply makeup. As above, light-reflecting makeup (or makeup infused with vitamin C) will create a fresher and fuller look - both short term and long term.
Use a bronzer to bronze, not contour, to give your skin a sunkissed look around the edges of the face to detract from 'sunken cheeks' (making assumptions about your post weight-loss face here I'm sorry).
Use a foundation with a purple base to colour correct areas of sunken skin - alternatively a purple colour-correcting primer will achieve the same outcome.
Use a concealer (2-3 shades lighter than your foundation) to lighten, brighten, and hide (potential) problem areas such as under the eye, crow's feet and laughter lines.
Use a beauty blender to apply makeup. This will create a softer look to detract from any sharp cheek bones etc.

Hope this helps!! And good luck! <3 Editing: Formatting fail

eof · 2017-01-05T01:10:38+00:00

You're not getting younger. You have an LTR, respect it. Getting old sucks but you can concentrate on other things.

Artemisa_of_Persia · 2017-01-09T01:04:16+00:00

Another thing you could do to boost collagen on your face is to get a microneedle roller. It punctures tiny holes into your skin, which signals the body to start repairing your face. This sounds painful, but it's only been mildly irritating for me and it doesn't cause bleeding. Just don't apply too much pressure and start with a small microneedle length (0.5 mm) then work your way up.

It helped me smooth out my skin from acne scars and the studies I've read studies that it also increases skin absorption, so it's a great combo with retinol and vitamin c serums. They cost about $20-$30 on amazon. Best of luck!

xBreakFreex · 2017-01-04T22:19:06+00:00

Well... You could still get fillers if you do it subtly around the eyes and mouth lines. He may not even notice...? I would suggest not lip fillers though, they look horrid and reaaallllly obvious....

littlecrystalgirl · 2017-01-05T05:59:32+00:00

There are natural options (gelatin supplements have been great smoothing out my skin and plumping up some indented stretch marks). You may also be able to get results from laser work (most medical spas offer something like this with a facial), but the results will probably be subtle.

And I know your husband is against fillers, but good fillers should look natural. And a little work now will minimize signs of aging down the road as well. If it's not a closed subject, it might be worth looking into together.

[deleted] · 2017-01-05T13:37:15+00:00

I want to respect his choice

Then respect his choice. If you have something done, it will end your relationship.

How can I cope?

Accept the reality of the situation that you're more attractive now than you were three months ago. You're getting older and these things are going to happen, so the faster you accept it, the faster you can go on with your life and your relationship being happy.

beautifulbarbarian · 2017-01-06T00:21:08+00:00

I've noticed that a lot of people think that Botox makes women look overfilled and plastic looking. I think people confuse it with fillers. I've heard things like "this person had Botox injected into her lips". It doesn't typically go into your lips - they are thinking of fillers. It's most commonly injected into places like your forehead, so it doesn't scrunch as much when you make facial expressions. I am not a fan of drastic plastic surgery that changes your appearance, but in my opinion Botox is pretty light and non-invasive. I had it done a couple times (for the forehead lines) and no one in my immediate family even noticed. It doesn't change your face.

Fillers are different. They do change the way your face looks and I've heard that they stretch your skin and you can become dependent on them.

What I'm saying is different cosmetic procedures are different. Some are more invasive than others and some will change you more than others.
I am not suggesting doing anything in secret and hiding it from your fiance. But perhaps it would help to talk to him and make sure he understands how invasive and non-invasive different procedures are? Then you can draw a clear boundary between what you're ok and not ok with.

GrowlingBears · 2017-01-11T08:10:22+00:00

How's that French saying go again? Aging women, choose your ass or your face.

Banincoming · 2017-01-05T02:23:54+00:00

If your fiance likes you as you are isn't that the final goal? What other men are you trying to attract?

Title	I hate my 'diet face' so much
Author	NittanyLioness84
Upvotes	16
Comments	37
Date	January 4, 2017 9:29 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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