This is a tale as old as time... A few weeks back I (27) match with this guy (42) on hinge. He’s very recently divorced with 2 kids. Been with his ex for 22 years. We were consistently texting for a week prior to meeting. Our first date was a blast! We really vibed and connected. He actually invited me to one of his good friends bday parties this past weekend and said how normally he wouldn’t do that with someone he just met but “I’m different”. I thought it was a sweet gesture and a green flag that hes into me. There are a few other green flags with him too, he courts me, he never cheated on his ex wife, he’s a great dad (50/50 custody), he had an amicable split with his ex-wife were no lawyers or drama were involved, he’s shy when it comes to dating(it took forever for him to kiss me on our first date) his N-count is extremely low, he wants to bring me around his friends, take me out for fun activities for dates and his social media is super wholesome. He doesn’t follow any ig models or soft core porn pages like a lot of men do.

We ended up sleeping together after the 2nd date. It was amazing! This is where I know I messed up but I had a weak moment. The next morning he texted me “that was a great date last night. You are amazing” which again I thought was a sweet thing to say. He then sent me a screen shot of his negative std/herpes test. I told him “idk if you’re seeing anyone else but if you are we should use protection next time.” Hoping that would lead into some type of exclusivity conversation since we’ll be sleeping together. But instead He then says he’s not physical with anyone else but if something were to happen he’d let me know so I can take the right precautions. We’ve been on one date since then and didn’t have sex but our connection still seems to be there.

Although now I’m getting paranoid. Now ever since then we still text every day. But the texts definitely aren’t as consistent as they were prior to sleeping together. It’ll be 4 hours in between texts. A total shift. He’ll still double text me and text me first but something feels off.

I can’t handle casual sex. I get attached from all those hormones that get pumped into my brain during sex. So I really wanna pull back on sex for a few more dates/weeks but I’m worried that’ll scare him off. Or he’ll take it personal. He’s dated one other woman before me. But I’m thinking he’s probably gonna wanna “spin plates” and see what’s out there now that he’s single. It’s obvious I’m a rebound but you never can be certain. Some people fall for their rebounds. When we first matched the “what are you looking for?” Question came up. His answer, “sounds cheesy but I’m looking for someone to give me that butterfly feeling in my stomach” whatever that means. We have a date set for Tuesday so we’ll see how that goes.

Idk what to do about this it’s making me so anxious! Not sure if he’s red pill or not. He seems way to nice for that. But you never know. I need advice from fellow women on what to do!

TLDR: matched with a great guy. I ended up sleeping with him on the 2nd date now communication has been dwindling down.