What is your first date prep routine?

amadexodus · 2019-11-25T18:18:24+00:00

This advice might sound a little strange at first, but I believe that it fits the RPW perspective, and it helped me a lot when I started dating again.

I'm going to assume that you put some effort into your appearance on a day-to-day basis unless the "stuff" hits the fan. You presumably style your hair; take care of your skin; exercise/eat well; wear a little makeup to enhance how you look; and dress in a classy, feminine way. I'm being deliberately general here, as the details are irrelevant and are specific to you. If you've been doing this for awhile, it becomes almost second-nature and part of your routine.

Great! Do exactly that for a first date.

The more time you spend looking put-together even when you're not meeting somebody later, the less it will feel like you're putting on a show or dolling yourself up just because you're meeting a cute guy later. You will also carry yourself much better and feel less awkward looking nice.

In my first year of graduate school, I used to not care at all about what I wore day-to-day. T-shirts, jeans, and a flannel/hoodie were the way to go. And makeup was just for dorm parties. But then I started dating before finding RPW, and I would dress similarly to how I do now whenever we were meeting up. I always felt like I was artificially inflating my expectations because (1) I had invested that time into "getting ready," which built anticipation; and (2) he was seeing a costume I put on for him, not what I looked like day-to-day, which inflamed my insecurities and put me in a state of hoping he would like the real me.

I've found that the more accustomed I was to looking/presenting my best, the better I carried myself in the early stages of dating someone. I was able to focus on evaluating this person, not worrying what they would think about how I looked or what I was wearing. I looked like a million bucks, and I felt completely comfortable looking that way.

ragnarockette · 2019-11-25T18:18:02+00:00

Don’t shave your legs. That way you’ll be sure not to let it go too far.

(Recommendation from a cheesy 90’s rom com)

chelseachain · 2019-11-25T18:13:59+00:00

Mani/pedi, eyebrows, pick out a new outfit that makes you feel AMAZING. Spend extra time pampering yourself. Body lotion, face mask..... prepare yourself to feel like the Queen you are inside and out :)

And of course, if you have an iPhone, turn your location-sharing on with a good friend/family member, and send someone a rough itinerary so your whereabouts are known. Have a back up plan to exit if needed. Good luck & enjoy

americsoul · 2019-11-25T18:20:35+00:00

I would pamper myself a little by getting a mani pedi and facial + massage if I have time.

On a budget, having clean short nails is perfect. Just something to make myself feel more confident and girly

Then getting super clean by exfoliating in the shower and using a moisturizing lotion as soon as I get out. I tend not to go for scented products since I prefer to be clean + a subtle perfume.

Fun music that gets me hyped while getting ready and a few minutes of meditation before I head out the door to center myself.

Best of luck with the date. I hope you have fun

Sobinia · 2019-11-25T20:50:16+00:00

Lookswise:

Unless you're going to a fancy restaurant, dress slightly better than you normally do. That way, you'll feel a bit more beautiful than usual, but not like you're wearing a costume. This should help prevent awkwardness.
Get a manicure and pedicure.
Wear your ugliest lingerie. This will prevent you from physically escalating too far.

Characterwise:

Double-check where you're meeting. Plan the route to that spot, how much time you'll need to get there and leave 15 minutes early. That way, if there's high traffic or you'll get a bit lost, you'll still arrive on time.
Don't nag the person you're going on a date with. A "I'm at (location'), cya there" text 5 minutes prior to the time you're supposed to meet up is OK, but if you ask him if he's on his way every 5 minutes, he might end up flaking out.
Once you're there, relax. Take a few deep breaths. If you've texted prior to the date (or know each other), remind yourself of what you've been talking about, in order to avoid awkward silence.
Ask a friend to call you 30-45 minutes after the time you're supposed to meet at. If you'll be enjoying yourself, you can simply ignore her call. If not, you'll have an excuse to end the date early.
Bring some money with you, even if you're just going on a walk in the park.

HunnyCitrus · 2019-11-25T18:26:06+00:00

FIrst date you should look every day cute and put together, A bit of a heel, some fragrance and extra glossy lips always made me feel confident but not overdone or "try-hard".

NicoleInBlue · 2019-11-26T06:58:16+00:00

I dress as I normally would if I'm meeting a friend. I always have my nails done so that's not an issue but I never put make up on because I usually don't wear any (besides mascara and lipstick on nights out). It's important for me that my personality isn't outshined by clothes and make-up.

On a first date, an expectation is set. If you dress better than what you do in your day-to-day life, now that's the norm. If you put your best outfit on, you are going to have to work hard to find a new best to impress him when later on he's deserved it.

It might not be very RP, but my logic is that if our personalities are to click, they are going to do so no matter that I'm wearing jeans and flat shoes and not a mini skirt and stilettos.

Good luck on your date and have fun!

pearlsandstilettos · 2019-11-25T17:58:19+00:00

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2019-11-25T18:27:42+00:00

Exciting! I also used to get super nervous about first dates, so I understand where you're coming from. Honestly, just take the time to relax and remember to have fun! You're there to meet someone and see if you guys even have chemistry. It can be stressful if you go in with all these expectations and ideas (guilty), but if you put those aside, dating can become more pleasant than stressful.

First, I would make sure to groom myself. Shower, shave, lotion, make sure eyebrows are done, etc. Give myself a solid base. I like to listen to music while doing this to get myself in a good and bubbly mood.

Makeup was something that I always kept pretty, but low-key. BB cream or light-mid coverage foundation, concealer, some blush, pretty eyeshadow, some brow touch-up, and a little gloss. I like to play up my best features, but still show what I actually look like. Keeping your looks fresh and pretty but still approachable is always a good idea for a first date.

Clothes....something you feel confident and fun in, but appropriate for the date you're going on. My first date with my SO, I wore skinny jeans, a boxy tee, patterned flats, and some hoops. It fit our date well and I felt comfortable and cute. Pop on some perfume and you're good to go!

Edit: forgot to say that I also liked to take some time to center myself, and remind myself to put any grand expectations aside and just have a good time! Have fun!

Animalcrossing4eva · 2019-11-27T21:09:55+00:00

This is what I did for first dates: I would suggest a lunch date at my favorite Mexican restaurant that had cheap meals 5 minutes from my house. I would reach for my purse when it was time to pay and pay for my meal if he didn’t insist on paying. Hence the cheap restaurant. I had the same dress for every first date with matching jewelry. I didn’t do nails or anything like that. But I had my beautician friend help me figure out a hair and makeup style. I hit the gym and dieted. I drove myself there and home. I had a more fancy dress for my second date and another for my 3rd date. I went on a lot of first dates, fewer second dates and even fewer 3rd dates. I didn’t take a long time from first message on the dating website to meeting, I did it as soon as possible. I would rather invest 1 hour on a lunch date than hours texting and still not knowing what they’re really like. I would just be myself and was more worried about if I liked them than if they liked me. Remember you only need one, so if 99% of dates don’t go well it doesn’t matter.

Title	What is your first date prep routine?
Author	brittabk21
Upvotes	33
Comments	20
Date	November 25, 2019 5:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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