This is going to be a long one gentleman, but it could be much longer, so know I am leaving some of the smaller details out.
I live with 2 other guys. "John" and I live with "Tim" in Tim's house. We have been friends since we were kids and it means I get to save a lot of money. The subject of the post is Tim. Tim has always had success with women. He is tall, good looking, and successful. He is in his mid-twenties and makes good money, has a nice house, etc. As long as I've known him, he's jumped from one relationship to the next, and it always ends horribly. He will meet a girl, hook up and then within a few weeks be madly in love with her, date for a year or so and then have a huge messy breakup. Rinse and repeat.
Less than a year ago, he started dating a 21 year old with a 2 year old daughter who was in the process of getting a divorce (real smart, right?). Let's call her "Sara". I'll start the story on Valentine's day, because that is really when things started to get messy.
A few nights before Vday, Tim told John and I that he needed the house to himself because he wanted the night alone with Sara. I told him that that isn't how it works, if he wants me to pay him rent and split utilities I have every right to be there whenever I want. I really wanted to stay there that night, but I had something I really wanted to do, so I left around 4:30.
At about midnight, he sends a message in the "roommate" groupme chat, asking if we were going to be coming home that night. Of course I was, so he asked us to please be quiet because the baby was staying there that night. Well when we got home, my roommate apparently woke the baby up, and Tim threw his door open and grabbed John but the throat. I broke it up before anything escalated, but Tim was yelling things like "YOU WOKE THE BABY" and "USE YOUR HEAD". I was sickened. John moved out at the end of the month.
Maybe 2 weeks later he goes to hang out with Sara on a Thursday night. The next morning I get a text from him on my way to work saying he had "one of the worst nights of his life". He wouldn't say why, but then proceeded to come home with a handle of vodka and get absolutely shitfaced. John tried to get him to tell us what happened, but all he would say is that Sara "pissed him off" and that it was embarrassing. The NEXT night, he went and had dinner with her family and forgave her.
Fast forward to the past 24 hours or so. I get home last night and Tim and Sara have painted John's old room for the baby. I figured they would move in when I moved out, but he hadn't told me that. He said they are doing it "proactively" for when they are ready to move in. I couldn't make this shit up guys.
On to tonight. I am home alone, sitting in the garage having a smoke and hear a car pull up. The garage door opens and Sara stumbles in having driven here in her new car with I can imagine only one eye open.
She is hysterical telling me how Tim is such a good guy and she fucked up. She starts rambling and I tell her that she either needs to tell me what happened or stop talking about it. Apparently they were in the bar and she somehow ended up in the bathroom with some guy. "Nothing happened", but it "probably would have" if it wasn't for Tim about breaking the door down. To make a long story a little shorter, she basically says that she loves Tim and he is a "great companion" and "great friend". In her drunken stupor she also says that they never have good sex.
So I call Tim and tell him to come home because I'm not dealing with this shit. He shows up and I go upstairs to write this. In the time it has taken me to write it, he has forgiven her. I wish I was making this stuff up.
In conclusion, yes, AWALT and on top of that Sara has been through some really serious shit. Stuff that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. So is there any way for me to make Tim see the light before he throws his future down the drain with this chick?
If you made it this far, thanks for reading and keep doing what your doing /r/theredpill.
EDIT: You guys are the shit. A lot of you have taken the time to give me some really solid advice and I appreciate it. I feel like I am starting to just vent so I will do my best to keep the discussion productive.
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