Anger Debt

We have talked about the validity and importance of anger.

When I first opined that the stages of red pill digestion were similar to the stages of grieving, I didn't think it likely that this would be twisted into another tool to dismiss male anger. Yet I have seen precisely this happen, not only in PPD ("Oh, those guys are just in the anger phase, we wash our hands of them"), but even here ("get over the anger phase, bro, get out there, and start approaching").

Nothing could have been further from my intent. So we need to talk some more about anger.

We have a concept in engineering called Technical Debt. It works like this: When you do something quick and dirty (or don't do it at all) on a technical project, the time you saved has been borrowed from the future, and will need to be repaid, with interest.

Well, men who take the red pill are in Anger Debt.

Anger is not only healthy, but vitally necessary for a properly functioning male human being. If you never get angry, you are mentally ill.

And mentally ill is just what Stage One (Denial Phase) men are. They fail to become angry at treatment that would, and should, anger them... because they have been led to believe that it is normal, and natural, and that any discontent they feel at it is their own fault for all various forms of ThoughtCrime that feminists and their fellow leftoids are all too fond of exhaustively listing. Men buy into this for the same reason that abused children usually believe it's their fault mommy hits them; This is actually a comforting belief, because if mommy hits them because they deserve to be hit, then all they have to do be better. If they were to realize that mommy is a psycho, then they would have no hope to cling to.

Stage One men are abuse victims who believe they deserve abuse, and trying to appease their abusers in order to make it stop. From Tiger Woods apologizing for being attacked with a golf club by his abuser, to Joss Whedon endlessly groveling about how feminist he is even as feminists spew vitriol at him for not toeing the line enough, to the president of the United States using the Father's Day address as a bully pulpit to tell men that they need to sacrifice more and expect less, Stage One men are not only accumulating anger debt, they are creating it in others as well.

Stage Two, the much-referenced Anger Stage, begins when a man says to himself "Hey, I don't deserve this. I am a person, and pursuing the things I need and desire is natural and healthy behaviour for me.". At that moment, he begins to pay down his anger debt. A healthy person would become angry at all the ways he has been cheated of opportunities, treated as a scapegoat, and held in contempt over the years. So he cannot be a healthy person until he experiences all the anger he has put off.

The purpose of anger is to motivate change. A man who cannot get angry accepts that which should not be accepted, endures that which should not be endured. He allows his time, money, love, energy, and health to be burned for the benefit of others who show him no gratitude.

A man must pay down this anger debt in order to motivate changes in his life. Yes, he needs, eventually, to be able to laugh and say "Yeah, that's women for you, can't expect 'em to be adults", and use amused mastery to be attractive to them. But if he is never angry at them, he cannot correct their bad behaviour, and they will behave, not just like children, but like spoiled, bratty children.

• AWALT is not an excuse for letting women behave badly.

• Amused mastery and stoicism are not an excuse for letting people piss on your neck and tell you it's raining.

• Anger drives change. No anger, no change. If you haven't spent enough time in Stage Two, go back and pay the rest of that debt.