For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?

Archwinger · 2014-03-03T16:24:36+00:00

Pregnancy tests generally aren't accurate (or at least not as accurate) until a week after a missed period.

While it's possible that the period this woman had two days ago was implantation bleeding, I can't imagine what would cause a woman who thinks she just had her period, two days ago, to randomly take a pregnancy test.

Something is up. Let her confirm the pregnancy via additional tests. She should also see her obgyn and get medical confirmation (they just run a urine pregnancy test themselves, but whether or not she actually goes is telling. Of course, she could just lie.)

In the event she's pregnant, it's likely not yours. Don't go to doctor's appointments with her. Let her make her own choices regarding prenatal care/behavior, abortion, adoption, and anything else on the table. Don't influence her in any direction, don't go with her to any medical appointments -- not even to abort since it's probably not even yours. If she actually turns out to be pregnant and wants to carry to term, get a paternity test.

Stop seeing her. Act and speak as though you are operating under the near-certain assumption that the baby, if it exists, isn't yours. You're not in a relationship with her and never have been, so you know she hasn't been exclusive with you.

And who the flying fuck tells you she's pregnant with your baby via text?

saruhb · 2014-03-03T15:43:05+00:00

There's no way she could be pregnant after one week, assuming you used a condom every time and each one of them failed, which it doesn't sound like they did. Either (i) you're not telling us the whole story; (ii) she fucked another guy before you and he got her pregnant; (iii) the test results are wrong; or (iv) she's lying to you.

JP_Whoregan · 2014-03-03T17:01:42+00:00

Rule Number One of Birth Control: Do not stick your dick in crazy."

Women have literally 12 different methods of birth control available to them to ensure they do not get pregnant. Men have only one. An unmarried, uncommitted woman who is having sex with multiple men without birth control is an irresponsible wretch who sees men as nothing but sperm donors and future child support piggy banks.

This girl is probably not really pregnant. Women recognize that the threat of unwanted pregnancy is a huge power they have over men, and many of them are sadistic enough to wield it as a form of control.

That being said, if she is pregnant, and the baby is (by some Jesus-miracle) yours:

Hold frame with this woman, make it clear to her that you do NOT want a child, you will not be 'trapped' into anything, and that if she decides to have a child against your will, you will NOT be partaking in hers or the child's life above and beyond what is demanded by the courts. Tell her you will become a ghost to her. Remind her that she is throwing away her future, that future men will NOT want her with a bastard in tow, and that having kids without a father is not all it's cracked up to be by modern feminsim, and that she will be very lonely if she decides to make this grossly irresponsible decision.

Then tell her you will go out with her one more time, and give her these two choices: either you both go to the pharmacy to buy some Plan B, or you will take her to the animal shelter to buy the cat she will need for her future life of spinsterhood. When a woman gets pregnant, she is no longer harboring a normal hamster. It's a steroid-hamster that will now make some very, very short-sighted and stupid decisions based on emotions. You have to give her an all out assault.

In other words, mega-dread game.

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nicethingyoucanthave · 2014-03-03T20:24:16+00:00

I used to worry about it until I got a vasectomy. Best money I've ever spent. I have never had any regrets.

How do you handle this kind of situation?

Well, I've had three pregnancy scares in my life. In each case, I handled it by stepping up and taking responsibility. Had a kid been born, I would have wanted the best possible relationship with its mother.

I was asked, "but you don't really want a kid" to which I responded, "I'm not going to lie and say that I do - but I am going to be a man and I am going to step up."

And look man, what else can you say? "Please abort!" Yeah, good luck with that. She's going to do what she wants to do regardless of what you say. "It's not mine!" That'll go over well. She's got you over a barrel. Ride it out and get a vasectomy afterward.

RedBigMan · 2014-03-03T18:25:53+00:00

I think pretty much everyone is going to fall into one of the two posts here. Either you're going to fall under /u/Archwinger and his method for dealing with it or you are going to fall under /u/JP_Whoregan and his theory for dealing with it. In either case you can and should be demanding a paternity test before acknowledging any form of responsibility.

There is a strong possibility that she is also just flat out lying.

In any case the advice of the former to basically start cutting ties and make her take on all the decisions on what to do with it is the best course of action if you think she is pregnant and you are 100% certain it is not yours (which you seem to be based on your rigorous condom usage and even testing condoms afterwards). I say you need to confront her with your doubts ASAP. Most women when finding out they are pregnant don't think about which guy timeline wise would be the most likely candidate but which man would be the best provider for her children. By introducing your doubt to the situation you may force her to re-examine this timeline and make her realize that someone else is the father.

If you believe that the baby may be yours then the latter method may be preferable (you have your convictions that it isn't but this method may still be good advice for SOMEONE who is sure it may be theirs). After all an abortion may be the best thing for her because she would obviously not be a very good mother. This is the tactic of assaulting her solipsism and utilizing the hamster to your advantage. Even if she doesn't do it immediately as you suggest she may just ask other single mothers about their lives and find out that it's a shitty life to be a single mom and go and get the abortion thus saving you from having to pay for her 18 year annuity.

Whatever strategy you choose to employ realize that she ultimately has the final say. Also if you want to avoid child support all together you can always flee the country and go somewhere else that dont have treaties which force them to collect child support and such.

sandpaperwalls · 2014-03-03T18:47:03+00:00

Lady here, pregnancy tests don't show up positive until about 2 weeks after ovulation, with many women it can be 3 weeks. While there is a small chance her body could be pumping out crazy hCg, its unlikely.

Manuel_S · 2014-03-03T20:09:37+00:00

Even if she is pregnant, you do not sign a piece of paper until you get a dna test.

agentapelsin · 2014-03-03T18:34:34+00:00

I had a dreaded "I'm late on my period" text yesterday from a girl..

It really hit me when I realized:

The girl is emotionally unstable and in early stages of a divorce.
Chinese
26, close to being a (forgotten woman, on the shelf)
Working a menial retail job making $800/month

Trying my best to word this in the nicest way...

There would be a strong incentive for her to pop out a little white-chino baby, shotgun wedding, EU passport, 18+ years of child support.. etc...

I live in a country where abortion is not even remotely legal or an option...

Dodged a fucking bullet when I got a message at 11pm that the menstruation fairy had paid a little visit.

I had quite a few hours of planning how to buy a fake passport with bitcoins, empty my bank accounts into cash, and book a one way ticket to South America...

I'd like to think I've learnt a lesson, though I'm not entirely sure..

Literally no idea what I would have done had she been pregnant... Totally staring into the abyss..

wendy-fly · 2014-03-03T23:20:13+00:00

I am a woman who is trying to get pregnant so I know way more than I ever cared to know about the baby-making process. Most women are fertile 12-17 days before their period, if you had sex with her 7 days before her period, it is unlikely she is pregnant with your baby. Also, most pregnancy tests can't come up positive until about 10-18 days after ovulation (which is 12-17 days before her period). I agree with everything Archwinger said about how to handle it and that it's unlikely a woman who is not trying to get pregnant would randomly take a pregnancy test two days after her period was over. I'm trying to get pregnant (with my husband, he wants a baby too) and I wouldn't randomly take a test after my period.

You don't have to wait a month to see if she gets her period. She can go to most clinics and get a free pregnancy test, or she can go to her doctor and get a blood draw to confirm.

trudatness · 2014-03-03T22:51:52+00:00

Shit don't add up. This bitch is lying.

One way or another, you need a paternity test.

If you are the father, be ready to accept your responsibility. Your child will deserve to have a loving father in it's life.

Probably won't come down to that though - as chances are you ain't the guy. No chick gets a positive a week after sex.

2comment · 2014-03-03T18:34:36+00:00

I wish Pez came out with a bc pill dispenser that I could feed them like candy.

http://www.pezcollectors.com/bmz_cache/f/f0f3412564ead357a59446ca07c14314.image.300x240.jpg

sadshark · 2014-03-04T12:51:22+00:00

Buy a pregnancy test yourself and make her pee on it. After 5 minutes look at it together and gauge for her reactions. Also, if she refuses to take the test with you ther and with your provided test, you can rest assure that she's either not pregnant, or the baby isn't yours.

BeaverEater416 · 2014-03-03T23:06:08+00:00

I flush the condoms down their toilets.

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TP_2 · 2014-03-04T07:07:56+00:00

So my TRP question is to the guys who constantly get laid. Do you always have that fear of pregnancy in your head?

No, I have blown straight inside chicks not on the pill so many times it isn't even funny. It's not as easy to get a chick preggo as people think. It has happened but again... this was from blowing inside everyday for months on end... Normally I opt for the old pull out switch hitter in the end, and havent once gotten a girl preggo this way.

What I do get is girls thinking they are preggo when they arent... a lot. For some reason their ovulation pattern seems to change when they start having sex with me... so they end up 1-2 weeks late and freak out about it, while I just don't really give a shit because I've seen the same thing happen 100 times before...

vengefully_yours · 2014-03-05T19:17:59+00:00

Vasectomy. Who needs fuck trophies?

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aaron_the_just · 2014-03-03T16:15:57+00:00

(1) yes, fear of pregnancy always in my head

(2) something fishy's going on here.

the best frame is tell all your plates "I would like to get you pregnant", put the onus on them to avoid being pregnant. all my plates are deathly afraid of being single moms.

mordanus · 2014-03-03T17:55:08+00:00

Here's what you need to do. You need to relax a bit until shit becomes a bit more clear. First off... why would she go out and take a pregnancy test when she just had her period? The period is an indicator of systems ok. Why would she test it unless she wanted to screw with you? If your condom held up and didn't notice it shooting out the bottom then she isn't pregnant with your kid if she's pregnant at all. Just calm down and wait it out. If she insists that she is pregnant put on your best happy face and demand that you go to the doctor together to see it in an ultrasound. Then you will be able to see what's up.

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Bostonsboy306 · 2014-03-03T18:53:06+00:00

Honestly I worry more about steeds than pregnancy.

I don't usually bust inside a girls unless I have overwhelming proof she's on birth control, and even then 90% of the time il just cum in their mouth anyway.

If you're fucking suburban white girls you don't really need to worry about aids or shit like that, but if you're spinning plates you will probably get hpv at some point, which really isn't that bad.

Use condoms with random and save raw dogging for LTRs and long term plates is basically my policy.

CropDuster33 · 2014-03-03T20:00:09+00:00

Keep us posted on this man! Also stop fucking her if she's worried about getting pregnant, something is up and she sure doesn't seem very responsible.

baroncuttlefish · 2014-03-03T20:24:22+00:00

Don't forget to return and tell us what you did and how it went!

Sirinon · 2014-03-03T20:50:46+00:00

I used to live with the fear daily, now before I get to the point of sleeping with the girl I do a mental check and think "if this girl gets pregnant, could I live with it?"

It also prevents me from hooking up with crazies and girls below a 7/10.

bonekeeper · 2014-03-03T20:54:35+00:00

Go with her to take a urine+blood exam in one of those clinics. Still, if she's pregnant, tell her straight away that you are working under the assumption that the child is not yours because of the reasons you stated, but that you are willing to do a paternity test once the child is born. If she's bullshitting you, this should shift her focus away from you and into someone else (probably the real father).

redpillfil · 2014-03-03T21:46:51+00:00

Yea. Im fucking terrified. Ive got abortion clinics on speed dial.

Icanberoberta · 2014-03-03T22:09:15+00:00

Boy, that ain't right! Run. Runnn! And remember dick + crazy = no.

culofiesta · 2014-03-03T22:25:27+00:00

I'm seeing someone so, though I have sex all the time, it's only with one woman. When I was single I had a lot of lovers and was very careful about pregnancy. I wouldn't sleep with someone if she not only did she not want to get pregnant, but if I thought she was lying about it.

I always used condoms and provided them myself. She would have no access to them.

I trained myself to orgasm only if I wanted to. Sometimes I wouldn't climax at all. That's a very, very low chance or pregnancy.

RedPill_Rorschach · 2014-03-03T23:51:11+00:00

OP - long story short: even if you use a condom correctly, she could go through them and use them to get pregnant (what happened to me). At least my ex got an abortion, but the reasons why and what happened after is absolute shit. Either way, I fucking lose.

Sadly, the only way to avoid unwanted pregnancies right now that would be in your control would be a vasectomy.

telechronn · 2014-03-04T01:41:10+00:00

I plan on getting a vasectomy in the next year or so. Do. Not. Want. Kids.

JP_Whoregan · 2014-03-04T04:14:03+00:00

Reply to your update: I already told you what to do about guilt. Bitch should have been on contraception. PERIOD. No matter what you may feel for her, she is not reciprocating, because she has violated your trust.

stemgang · 2014-03-04T05:16:27+00:00

Wait for the other shoe to drop. It's going to cost $1000 for an abortion.
You have to give her cash, and you can't go to the clinic with her.

Don't fall for it.

Endevour · 2014-03-04T13:24:23+00:00

Falcon Punch!

machimus · 2014-03-05T00:27:21+00:00

Your first thought wasn't how she could be pregnant after having her period two days ago?

*authentic

RejectionEquality · 2014-03-04T16:21:43+00:00

The only way to fly.

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Title	For experienced guys who get laid constantly. Do you get scared of potential pregnancy? And what do you do if she says shes pregnant?
Author	redpillfil
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Date	March 3, 2014 3:13 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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