For all the men out there whom still belive that having a child is something they want out of life: here are my own observations so far with a four year old son.
All my life I was always told, and/or shown that a man should graduate college, start a career, get married and have children--in that order. I did exactly that, lemme tell you how it realistically plays out! You are starting that career, working your ass off, and you meet that girl who makes you feel all warm inside. She is the one(itis). You date for a few years, then decide to make it a legal contract to put up with her bullshit--lest she leave you and take all of your shit. Things go well for a while, then comes the big announcement: "I am pregnant!!!" Oh how the excitement begins! Friends, family, co-workers; everyone is so happy for you! It feels good! But, you are still pretty fresh into your career, so busting ass is the only thing you can do! Gotta rise through them ranks and get those dollars to support the two of them right? That is YOUR duty as a man right? Well, kinda! Because then the bitch starts complaining about how little time you spend with her and the new baby (you know, while she was off for 3 months of unpaid maternity leave and the bills still kept rolling in). So, you start to think, mayhaps she is right. I don't spend much time with the family, ill have to cut back on work a bit. Then everything will be much better! And it is better for at least one person--but not you my man! It frees her up to go out with her friends while you stay home and take care of the little angel YOU forced inside the cum dumpster.
We should all be well aware of where this goes (reguardless of whether or not you chose to take more time from work for the family or not--ponder that if you don't see the unwinnable shit-test due to that legal contract you signed!!!) So, the bitch realizes that you are now beta bucks, without the bucks cuz, ya know, family time- and fucks the fun dude! This is the new civilized world man! Women should be free to do as they please!!! So, in no time flat, you are running through a year+ and thousands of dollars in getting that divorce. And you face yet another obstacle and seriouse life choice--do you want to raise this kid 50/50?
Think about what you would do for a moment. Go ahead, close them eyes and think about whether or not you would willingly give up your own kid, or fight to be in their lives (and fight you will!!)
Got your answer? Good, heres what I chose!
Ill fight for my son. Nobody can raise that child better than me. The asshat betas his mom brings around (cuz who the fuck else is going to want to take care of another man's kid?) will only rub off on him, and fuck him up for a long time to come.
Now, what does this mean for me? Ahhhh, sexual strategy? Alpha? Right. Women and children are essentially the same. Women just know how to wipe their own asses. What happens when you go full alpha on a girl? You fuck her...and it is fun! But will you ever see her again? Probably not. YOU DON'T REALLY GIVE A FUCK ABOUT HER!!!
You cannot do this with a child, especially as a single dad. You have to be able to be the emotional and financial provider for that kid. You set boundaries, you remain in control, but (and this may be admittedly nieve due to the age of my own kid) you must be able to care for that kid.
Now, lets think about dateing! You are on a 50/50 scedule. So for 1/2 of your days, you are beta provider. And must be. The other half, you are trying to break free from the provider role you just worked to get in your head, and be the alpha badass who gives no shits about the women you are approaching and fucking. You lead two distinctly seperate lives. And it is all fucking insane. (Oh, and by the way--taking new bitch out on a date if she earns one is fun--cuz child support bills dry up the funds pretty quick; best to just get used to the ONS and plate AT BEST)
Hows about that job? Well, work a 9-5. Thats all you really get. Personally, I am working towards a life goal on top of it all, but how much work do you think I get to put towards it when I am with my kid? Hahaha, that kid don't give two fucks about your life or its goals! Expect SLOW AS FUCK gains!
Lifting, I make time for the gym. This is the one thing I will always find time for. But, you are a single dad working all day. Aint nobody at home to watch the kiddo while they sleep so you can get at the very least a half hour of lifting heavy shit. (Start gaming that annoying as fuck feminist next door neighbor to watch a baby monitor while the kid sleeps is what I did.)
Men, all this is to say that it is a miserable existence to become a father. It truly is. I don't give a fuck what anybody else will say. This is the way it is. Sure, I love my son. I will do everything in my power to raise him into being a solid RP man. And there are moments of pure joy. But having a child is an END to your own life. You now live with the hope that one day, your kid will be able to live his own life in the way that he sees fit.
Have a kid, LOOSE YOUR ABILITY TO WALK AWAY. And that is the only power a man has in this world. That, or get your nuts clipped. All of this could be avoided in about 20 minutes and 400 bucks! ;).
Enjoy!
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