Mommy Meets Online Dating

evileddy · 2015-10-30T16:39:51+00:00

I don't like the simple fact that most single moms think they are some magic miracle worker raising kids using other people's money to do it.

It's not a fucking miracle if you spread your legs and take a dick without protection and then 9 months later a kid slides out that you can't afford to take care of by yourself.

That's fucking sad.

CornyHoosier · 2015-10-30T14:59:30+00:00

So I agree with your entire post ... but ... I look at the situation in a much more positive light. You hit the nail on the head here:

But you know how women are, they love to confuse you by contradicting themselves.

Single moms are some of the easiest lays and most don't want you to see the kid anytime soon. Basically you just plan a trip to the bar with them in advance a few days.They always say how they "NEVER get to go out anymore" so if you can make them laugh, be charming and drink some alcohol with them it's usually always game on.

TheBlackPhillipShow · 2015-10-30T13:50:05+00:00

Don't forget, a woman who has squirted out three sex-accidents has a vagina like a beat pastrami sandwich.

Single, non-widowed moms deserve zero respect or attention. Gross.

Tarnsman4Life · 2015-10-30T16:12:58+00:00

Not looking for a dad to my kids, just need someone who isn't afraid of kids. If you don't want kids then MOVE ALONG: literally what she means by this is that she IS in fact looking for a dad to her kids. But you know how women are, they love to confuse you by contradicting themselves.

I take that is, you will have all of the dad responsibilities like doing whatever stupid school shit they have, paying for the kids, etc but she will not allow you to parent the children or be an actual father. You have to just sit back and let her run the train wreck into the ground.

One of my co-workers married a guy like that, she even asked him to adopt the kids (which helped her royally divorce rape him) but would literally not let him have one damn say in how they were raised.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-10-30T16:37:29+00:00

I find that most of the things they say about themselves are false.

I would expect you to put your kids first, just like I would expect that you are not a fugitive from the law. Talking about it makes me wonder if it's not true.

So pretty much everything she says is false.

"I'm not a pushover"
...unless you're an alpha male like the guy who knocked me up was.
"If I'm not working, I'm spending time with my son"
...who is in the other room or somewhere else while I look for a replacement daddy online.
"If you smoke pot or do drugs, move along"
...unless you're willing to support my weed habit.

squidracer · 2015-10-30T14:54:38+00:00

There are advantages to dating single moms as well.

Having previous brats has usually killed their baby fever pretty well, not always, but usually.. I still recommend protection.
They are unable to follow your activities, you want to go to the bar? Then go, she's at home with her kids.
They make great booty calls.. You go over after the kids are sleep, bust your nut, then scat.

Never commit to them, and for god sake never never never marry them or let them move in. Never never never!!!

Never

StarDestinyGuy · 2015-10-30T14:29:47+00:00

On POF, you can filter out people that have children in the settings, which is what I do.

Can you do that on OK Cupid?

I found a woman on POF who is 31 and has no kids but wants to in the next few years. It's perfect so far. She does anything and everything to keep me happy and satisfy all my desires, she eagerly does everything I want sexually (and tells me she's never wanted to do these things for other men but she does with me), etc.

EDIT: I know this may be just an effort to get me to put a ring on her finger. Does it matter? I have no intention of doing that. If she loses patience waiting, realizes that I dont plan on marrying and won't accept it, or suddenly reveals her true nature (and this is not it) then I walk, having had a hell of a lot of fun in the meantime.

Rasalom72 · 2015-10-30T15:21:12+00:00

Don't forget that most of them will have left their husbands/ LTR's because they "weren't happy"... so what do they really want? If they are on a "dating site", they want AF.

exit_sandman · 2015-10-30T15:37:23+00:00

you're not getting anything out of it because you automatically start in the Friendzone. If you've ever been there, then you know it's almost impossible to get out of. It's like starting a videogame on hard mode with 5% health.

I upvoted you for that metaphore alone.

Denver_Luv · 2015-10-30T17:56:33+00:00

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Mangcola · 2015-10-30T21:24:18+00:00

You will be hard pressed to know that half the time the fathers were really not that bad a people.These bitches wanted to go at it alone. They cling to some Prince charming disney fantasy and refer to their kids fathers as " past mistakes" and how they now plan to move on to "greater things in future". If she is not a widow, theres a high probability that there's a special space in hell reserved for these witches for ruining their kids life.

pirateninj4 · 2015-10-30T15:00:54+00:00

This could be a word for word of Plenty of Fish. I'm not even kidding.

If they could only see themselves and how they're all the same, they'd be shocked for about 5 seconds. Long enough for the hamster to roll over it anyway.

TheThingsIThink · 2015-10-30T17:52:21+00:00

Don't assume girl of 24 with 4 kids is getting fucked by Alphas. She is probably just your run of the mill slut.

DomoDoge92 · 2015-10-31T03:45:02+00:00

Just got divorced from a single mother, and some of these were in her profile.

Jesus Christ was I a fucking idiot.

T0000009 · 2015-10-31T14:57:41+00:00

My kids are my #1 priority....

I will never be able to grasp how this insane statement can be made by single mothers.

Even IF it was partially true, then why blow up the marriage, why take away the emotional security and stability of a child, why financially ruin the father, why use the child as a weapon, why blow child support of fancy shoes, why turn the child against the father, why run away and hide the child so the father has no access or prevent any visitation, why use any means available to send the father to jail, and the wide range of other abuses??

To make such a claim is far past insanity, it's premeditated cruelty, vile and contemptuous and something a sane person of good character would never utter.

ComradeCynic · 2015-10-30T15:23:20+00:00

The only criticism I have is that you are taking these damaged women at their word. Sometimes they project, or they say what they say in order to try to create artificial scarcity as a shit test.

What I have found in online dating is that sometimes the profile indicates what they are scared of, or, a tendency they have that they are trying to control. E.g. "I am not for a one night stand" doesn't necessarily mean that: it could mean "I usually do ONS but would like to have a 'boyfriend experience' if I can".

MentORPHEUS · 2015-10-30T15:42:13+00:00

LOL, some of the ads I've seen online are your examples word for word, just add, "I live life to the fullest and make the most of each day!"

I know of women who had their first kid at 16, and their last kid leaves the house when she's 50. A woman like this has NEVER lived life as anything but a kid herself or as a Mommy, and they're usually stuck in the low end of the personal growth bell curve; LITERALLY the most responsible teenager in the house in her 50s.

Acknowledging all of the cautions, every time this comes up I have to mention that my best plates of the last 20 years have been single moms. One must choose carefully and set the relationship up with appropriate boundaries and expectations, but then it can become an easy booty call.

bl33dingr3d · 2015-10-30T16:37:26+00:00

I crack up at all the single mothers on Tinder. Their profile pic is their kid 90% of the time. I'm sitting here clicking "Like" to all these young hotties and then a fucking kid pops up...like WHY THE FUCK WOULD I LIKE THIS? I'M NOT JARED FROM SUBWAY!

mugatucrazypills · 2015-10-30T20:21:29+00:00

Bad enough chad battered and buttered the pussy, chad's spawn sat on top of it for 9 months then tore it wide from the other end.

How sexy.

Newbosterone · 2015-10-31T00:11:35+00:00

What she says: I'm not looking for booty calls What she means: I'm not looking for booty calls, anymore

What she says: I will not degrade myself What she means: I will not degrade myself again.

MattyAnon · 2015-10-30T18:01:59+00:00

Not looking for a dad to my kids, just need someone who isn't afraid of kids. If you don't want kids then MOVE ALONG

Agree with your analysis that it means the opposite. Why would it matter what you think of kids unless she sees you spending time with them? And how does that work exactly.. Netflix and chill with the children there??

From what I've seen of single moms (and I've dated a few)... they are absolutely looking for a man to stick around and support them, especially emotionally. They still have this "happily ever after" family life thing going on, except they want their kids to factor into this too. And guess who is going to provide all this for her?

Ultimately they want a replacement father for their kids (they see absolutely no problem with this whatsoever) and a husband for themselves. They want to be spoiled, some escape, some "romance". And yes, they have very little to give - no spare time, no spare money, tired, usually alpha-widowed, sometimes desparately needy.

They're often very isolated. Hence on OKCupid. No time or money to do anything fun in life, tired with job and raising children. And they have friends who are (apparently) happily married with the father still around, and see how much easier that is. Their married friend has a man around! Flexibility! Spare income! Support! "Love"! Sex! Fun times!

So what's the solution to their problems? A man who will support her and be there for her and be part of the family. Exit Chad1, Enter Chad2. Avoid the pump and dump this time round, hello Chad2, live happily ever after.

Their entitlement is driven by wants and needs. And it's crazy delusional to think it will work out like that of course. And because it's entitlement rather than rational evaluation, when it doesn't work it is a man's fault for being "immature" and not supporting her sorry ass.

I can see where they are coming from in what they want and what they need. But feminism has taught them to expect the world and offer nothing. It's a terrible deal for a man to get seriously involved with them, unless you have your own kids of similar age and think you can make a blended family work. (Obviously do not marry).

metallica11 · 2015-10-30T20:40:36+00:00

Say what you will, online dating has its perks especially if you live in a metropolitan area.

whoa whoa hold on here. only if you are in the top 1-5%. forget about it if aren't. approach in real life. women on online dating in metro areas have a huge pool of young professionals.

CyberninjaZen · 2015-10-30T23:57:35+00:00

I've said before and will say it again, single moms have the highest standards. Ridiculous.

Overkillengine · 2015-10-31T02:36:06+00:00

If she makes a huge show about how she won't do something, she absolutely will do it and with glee- for the right man. (Chad)

2comment · 2015-10-31T03:42:27+00:00

My entire world revolves around my son/daughter(s): This one is literal. Their child is the center of attention, which I respect. It's great for the kid. But for a man looking to date the Single Mom, this is a disaster. You are in for last minute cancellations (no babysitter, kid has a cold), long therapy sessions where she complains about being a Single Mother, and other nonsense that no man should have to put up with (unless she is the mother of HIS child).

Great post. But having been with a number of shitty single moms that spout the same shit I think it's more of a Get Out of Jail Free Card on anything and just general status-seeking behavior at the same time.

But the end effect is the same. You are and will always be second or more like third fiddle.

Biglce · 2015-10-31T01:08:54+00:00

I fucking love this subreddit. Almost everything I read here is golden. How have I not found out about this before to share with my friends is a wonder to me each and every day.

Borsao66 · 2015-10-30T19:14:17+00:00

QFT!

I won't email or reply to ANY divorced/single mom because of this exact same bullshit in every profile I see. Its like they all have this standard online dating template that they cut & paste into their profiles.

FTB

LurchUSA · 2015-10-30T20:33:38+00:00

Spot on post. Every example a true testament to the bitch-face princess syndrome you see on POFFF (Plenty of Fat, Fulgy and Fakes).

As soon as I see the first sentence of a profile go something like...

"I have [insert number here, usually 3] beautiful [girls/boys] who are the center of my life."

I'm already clicking the back button, before I barf on my keyboard! If they have kids who are their entire being, where is there any room for you... that's right, NADA!

herewegoaga1n · 2015-10-31T00:14:42+00:00

Holy shit. I'm laughing so hard right now. You just described every episode of Teen Mom.

looksmax · 2015-10-31T21:54:59+00:00

Single moms are usually an automatic next on tinder etc. No potential for LTR, usually shit body and gaping puss. Not even worth the effort of trying to game them for a smash. Exceptions are rare.

ShitfacedBatman · 2015-10-30T20:29:15+00:00

You can find single moms at bars and dance clubs. They're anywhere. It's like an epidemic. You don't need a dating site to find one.

I don't care how gorgeous a single mother is, I'm never interested as a matter of personal policy. Single parents can only date other single parents.

blkbullmentor · 2015-10-30T23:56:10+00:00

Single mommy's wish list is complete bullshit.

If you are Alpha enough and tingle the pussy enough, this bullshit list she has goes out the window.

Single moms make great plates.

TRPTheRedLion · 2015-10-31T14:51:21+00:00

Funny. I live in the same exact type of area. And I see exactly the same thing. Online dating is almost fruitless half the time. Yes, I understand some of the stories about plating single moms. But in a rural type area, sometimes it's very hard. 90 percent of these women have no baby daddies in their life and you can't ever get a moment with them. Then the ones who do have baby daddies who get them every other weekend fill their weekends with five other guys because they can through online women abundance mentality.

Inevitably, dating single moms online in rural areas is trash. I don't get plates or LTR's online. All I ever get is hookups. And these women are more than happy with a hookup now and then they hamster away later.

Nine times out of 10 when a single mom posts "not looking for a hookup" I get a hookup. I see the same women on these apps all the time. For years. They get on thinking they'll find their knight in shining armor. They start getting treated like trash because they don't realize they are trash. Four months later, their juices start flowing because they hadn't gotten some D in awhile and next thing you know they're coming to your place at 10 p.m. riding the mule then heading out the door and never talking to you again.

I've played this scenario so many times it's not funny.

FRedington · 2015-10-31T10:08:38+00:00

My entire world revolves around my son/daughter(s): ... Their child is the center of attention, which I respect. [emphasis mine]

That focus of a single mom on the kid and exclusion of her man is the kiss of death to the relationship. This kind of language from a prospective partner is an instant NEXT! -- never put up with this crap. Ever.

Katharine_Di_Cerbo · 2015-10-30T19:27:02+00:00

Wait a second. Do childless single women typically help you clean your apartment?

8n0n · 2015-10-31T02:06:42+00:00

OP; digging a little further on this issue, with aims towards 'why they move back into the country' in the first place may provide some more enlightenment.

The past is the past indeed is true; but what women forget is a few of those actions in that past are why they are miserable here in the present and foreseeable future.

Stythe · 2016-01-08T18:14:45+00:00

I was in the process if plating a single mom. Standard story here, her baby dady was a heroin addict well connected in the music scene and can barely barely talk due to brain damage according to her, she had mounds of drug issues and was in AA, shes big into the arts industry, specifically fashion trying to do her thing. She was a burlesque dancer, then into fetish and prostitution and got seriously abused by a very wealthy client. She put out on the first date, she got real interested fast, by the third time it was getting to be too much work to meet up due to her excuses. Not even anything specific, just that shes "in a bad place" and needs to focus on her. She also told me about how she was seeing a guy for 2 years or so (whom I gather she just recently broke up with) and who she now hates apparently. Her past is the pitch perfect description of a woman's life shit on due to her own choices. She's also made passing comments about certain men who hated her, or how she didn't win a modelling competition because judges were racist, etc etc. She is gorgeous to be fair, but dat damage tho... Honestly, I feel bad for her. Shes had some rough times, but her choices are her problems and I already had one girl take the money and run to "I'm the victim" camp.

I am curious as to how to interpret the "I'm in a bad up place" thing though, if anyone has any insight. I'm curious as to what kind of excuse that generally is related to.

Futdashukup · 2015-10-30T14:49:43+00:00

Totally right, but I still feel for these girls. I mean WE can have a crazy summer, and the worst might be some STDs, a night in jail or a spell in rehab. They have a crazy summer (at age 16) they are fucked.

joyrider5 · 2015-10-30T20:02:48+00:00

I've never been with a girl who's had more than one but I have been with a couple moms. They were basically opposite of your description. They are out there, they hate their regular lives and are desperate for a taste of alpha again, they will do whatever you want them to, and they'll put you first. They aren't as tight as some women but if they are young or fit then they'll be alright.

runoften · 2015-11-01T11:11:44+00:00

This place is an echo chamber much of the time... phrases like all, never, every.... they carry the stink of ignorance and closed mindedness; there are not characteristic of a content and confident man.

To offer a contrary experience... I'm in a long term relationship with a single mom. Her ex husband is gay... as in married to another man gay.

I have two kids the same age as hers and she cooks for them. Cleans up after them. Helps them with homework and encourages them to play outdoors and well together. My kids love her.

She cooks for me, literally washes me, cleans up the house, does all the laundry. I get enthusiastic sex any and every time I want it and any which way I want. Literally nothing is off the table (except noisy stuff when the kids are around but that would be weird ;) She has a great body and is working on a doctorate.

That's not to say the information in this post is bad. It's not. In fact it's pretty much spot on.

But sweeping generalizations are a logical fallacy and a crutch for idiots.

200mgtestc · 2015-10-30T20:46:07+00:00

I don't really get what the post is getting at. They're being straightforward with you, and they should be. It seems like not doing that has gotten them in trouble in the past. So what if you don't like it.

This is the reverse example of a man laying out his rules at the beginning of the relationship, and women wishing they were different.

2015-10-30T18:14:54+00:00

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Mommy Meets Online Dating

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3 all day. Even on the every other Saturday that they don't have the kid, they aren't looking to waste a lot of time talking about feelings lol

Title	Mommy Meets Online Dating
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Date	October 30, 2015 1:29 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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