Comments about the difficulties of working with female colleagues are frequent on TRP. As somebody who was educated at an all boy's secondary school, it was always hard to relate to tales of the misery of the female-dominated workspace.
Now I'm in my first year of Law School, and I've been compulsorily placed in a ''Simulated Law Firm'' where the gender split is 3 males and 9 females. We are obligated to complete a lengthy and complex group project together every week. It represents a large portion of both my free time and my study hours, since we have to meet as a team in our own time to discuss, plan and execute the tasks.
Supposedly the 'SLF' reflects the working conditions and expectations of an actual law firm, thus preparing us for our legal career. I pray that this is not the case.
A typical meeting involves 12 of us in a boardroom. Two to three of the girls will typically be 10 minutes late. ''teehee, sorry, the queue in Starbucks was sooo long! And without my pumpkin spice latte I just can't function!'' After they've sat down, put their 'coffees' on the table and unwrapped their gluten free houmous and carrot wraps, it's time to giggle about how ''amazingly wasted'' they got the night before and Emma's snapchat story of Lucy and the cute guy dancing in the club. Honestly, I have no idea how some of them passed the ostensibly competitive entry requirements. Eventually they simmer down and after 10 minutes of inane gossip we're now 20 minutes into our meeting without even mentioning the task at hand.
The girls are completely dependent on the men. I use the term 'men' loosely - the other 2 guys are as beta as they come. They're able to think for themselves which sets them apart from the girls in the group, but they're terrified of hurting the girl's feelings by giving them honest feedback on their typically poor work, or by assuming leadership. Anyway, if myself or one of the other guys don't suggest a starting point, I'm pretty sure we would never begin, since the girls are apparently incapable of original thought.
This wouldn't be as infuriating if the girl's equality hamsters permitted them to allow somebody to lead the group. I suggested a vote (which I would win) numerous times in the beginning, since the heterarchy which we were operating would often transcend into a Tower of Babylon scenario, where it was impossible to effectively communicate. But no, ''I just think like, we're all like a team, so I think we should all have a fair and equal say!'' ''OMG me too! Like, we are all in this together!''
The real kicker here is that during our meetings, I carry 50% of the workload by myself and give directions and guidance to everybody else on what to do and how to do it. At one point one of the girls asked me how she could contribute to our presentation and I told her to organise the design of the PowerPoint and make it look professional. Apparently this was a very demeaning suggestion - ''This is my law degree too JackBlackBallSack! I'm not doing artsy stuff whilst you handle the real work!'' ''Fine, create a slide about the pros and cons of a codified constitution to a democratic society'' ''Ok!'' Later that evening I received a Facebook message from the very same girl asking what she needed to put in the slide.
Fortunately, after a few weeks one of our tutors forcibly implemented a leadership system after noticing we didn't have one. Apparently we were the only Firm in the year without a decided leader (and probably the only firm in the year with a 25:75 male:female ratio). Unfortunately, this wasn't decided by vote, but by alphabetical order with the idea that we switch every term. Furthermore, the first leader was to be one of the girls. She turned up the next week without having even looked at the task ''teehee, sorry, tooootally forgot I was leader today :-)'' and spent the next 2 hours listening to me setting the agenda and delegating workloads.
Finally, the girls bitch about each other when they're alone with me. Actually, I find this comical. I don't engage, I just stay silent and enjoy it. It's funny to hear their insecurities flood out looking for validation and reassurance, then watch their reaction when I give them zero feedback.
I hope beyond hope that when I graduate I work primarily with men, because I'm finding it incredibly taxing working with women.
Rant over.
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