Shit testing isn't learned; it's an inherent female tactic

dennisbergkamp10 · 2016-02-23T02:18:16+00:00

Son came home from school one day and told me this girl kept on "picking on him" throwing shit at him ect. He's one month shy of being 13.

He asked me what can I do about this? His natural reaction was to throw shit back at her but he knew the code / system, in that if he directly retaliated he would be the bad guy in everyone's eyes.

He comes home from School this Friday, all smug and shit, and I ask as usual how was your day? He says "great, know that Girl I told you about throwing stuff at me? I says, yes of course, what happened? He says, well she threw 3 pencils at me today and I got sick and tried of her, I took her school bag (Back Pack) picked it up, walked to the front of the class and threw it out of the classroom down the corridor.

I was impressed and in shock at the same time, I says, what happened next? My son say's well the girl went bright red, was in shock and when class was done she asked him to be his girlfriend.

I'm like okay, this is interesting, I said, what did you say, he says to her, Hell no, you're an annoying bitch and to leave me alone. He did ask me to pardon his language at this point but basically said he had enough of her shit and I was done.

I asked what did the teacher say when you threw out the schoolbag into the corridor, he said, teacher did not bat an eyelid.

The kid is learning way earlier than I ever did, fair play to him.

rp-oldgame · 2016-02-22T16:28:48+00:00

When one of my daughters was about 4 years old, a 19 year old kid in one of my college classes stopped by and my daughter thought he was the bees knees.

We were sitting at the dining room table talking about some school stuff, and she sat next to him and dropped her toy. He was a nice kid, so he picked it up for her.

A few minutes later, she dropped it again, and he picked it up and handed it to her again.

She did it about four more times in the next 10 minutes, and he thought it was pretty funny.

Later that night, two or three of the wife's lady friends from work came over for wine and chit-chat.

The wife told them about how my daughter had liked the boy and kept dropping her toy so he would pick it up for her.

One of the hens said, "Hmmm... that's a good technique. I'll have to remember that one."

I said, "Technique for what?"

She said, "Oh, nothing." with an air of "pay no attention to the man behind the curtain".

I said, "A good technique to figure out how much shit a boy will take from you to see what you can get out of him before you decide he's worth your time??"

What was funny then, was watching them ALL scramble to recover, talking over each other telling me I didn't understand what she meant at all.

Pure panic.

I told them they were full of shit, and I knew what she meant.

Then they all just looked at their wine glumly for a while.

Expectations1 · 2016-02-22T20:00:00+00:00

Well this always stems from who likes who more.

You as a man will pass ALL shit tests if in youre in a frame of mind where she has to qualify herself to you, it will automatically happen, because youre not putting her on a pedestal. I.e you will pass her shit tests if you come back with shit tests of your own.

In fact, lack of any shit test is worse than any failure to pass them.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-02-22T16:47:01+00:00

Womens constant need to shit test comes from their insecurity that comes to the suffice on a day to day basis. Womens ability to vet a mate by shit testing him is something they do by nature.

[deleted] · 2016-02-22T21:52:36+00:00

I remember my first shit test like it was yesterday.

I was in the 4th grade and told a girl I liked her. She smiled so big and then reached forward and wrapped her fingers around my collarbones and squeezed as hard as she could.

Then she ran away laughing.

NeverGoFullPotato · 2016-02-23T17:07:49+00:00

"Remember, it's not a lie if you believe it." - George Costanza

Is shit testing just psychological projection?

herewehoagain · 2016-02-23T03:18:53+00:00

For all their flaws, their inherent ability to identify chump turds is impressive. Some females might prefer wackos but keep in mind the world isn't always civilized. Those same nutcase men might have conquered a village in another era; assuring prosperity for her and the children.

Questionablechoice · 2016-02-23T08:56:09+00:00

Shit Testing is a product of the Adult and Parent Ego states.

While all females seem to exhibit some level of shit testing including those completely devoid of an environment which it is a learned behavior, it is enhanced in environments with explicit behavior.

Women brought up in single mother or heavily beta husband families have a much higher drive to shit test in my experience. Women brought up in families with strong male influence from fathers or in some cases much older male siblings have a reduced level of shit testing.

Dr. Eric Berne proposed that this is due to the development of games (aka shit test for this discussion) which come from 3 sources. The child, parent and adult ego states.

The child ego state is common for boys and girls. This is a general set of instincts and behaviors which most if not all child have regardless of upbringing and tend to be routed in early childhood development.

The parent ego state is largely emulated and learned behavior which comes directly from the parent/guardian or as a result of actions by that parent or to said parent.

The adult ego state is person development and has the largest swing even within siblings or child raise in near identical conditions. However some sexually specific or general common practices are developed.

Women who shit test often have a combination of both learned behavior and natural development which results in a higher rate of shit test amongst women from common red flag backgrounds. Namely single parent (typically single mother), divorced parents, extreme beta fathers or undisciplined environments.

In other words red flag upbringings tend to exercise both the parent and the adult ego states to shit test vs others which are purely adult.

TheVoice10 · 2016-02-23T19:30:40+00:00

This reminds me of the saying, "the opposite of love is not hate; it's indifference."

If you're experiencing these shit tests, then she is on your mind.

InscrutablePUA · 2016-02-22T22:02:16+00:00

Younger women shit test. Older women are in deep shit when they realize they're running out of time. You'd think the young ones would learn but they don't.

azrise · 2016-02-23T03:52:37+00:00

Of course shit testing is genetic. In evolutionary psychology, shit testing is the way a female can consciously or unconsciously test whether the potential mate is alpha or beta. She shit tests him to see if he is eating from the palm of her hand. If he is, it's because he doesn't have many options. And if he doesn't have many options, it's because he doesn't have much value.

VegasSaint9 · 2016-02-22T23:53:32+00:00

So what would be the correct method of responding to a shit test similar to this? Like doing favors, asking for things, idk typical female shit. Also I guess depending on the severity as well. Like grabbing them something they like on their way over (a coffee) compared to more difficult tasks.

I noticed with my ex gf of about 2 years if I didn't do some of these things some of the time the relationship wouldn't be as wholesome I guess. Essentially how much effort I put into things I guess. Because basically you have to demonstrate a certain amount of value but if you respect yourself you can't be their slave, but you have to show you care or are wanting to put in effort.

So I guess it depends who that person is and what their relationship is with you and how much you're into them. Just what exactly should you do then? Or what strategy should you have pertaining to demonstrating how far you'll go? Because you can't exactly be abrasive, but you don't want to go all out all the time.

Metalgear222 · 2016-02-23T05:38:55+00:00

I get shit tested more by my male roommate than anyone. Maybe he grew up around too many girls

FakeGuru · 2016-02-23T08:17:42+00:00

There is more than one thing going on, in my humble opinion.

The first thing is the dynamic of the woman choosing from various suitors.

That is how the mating game has always been.

What has changed is how that mating game has been corrupted by advertisers and the media, which have their own agenda.

Apart from political messages that suit their paymasters, there is a strong commercial interest in making women more demanding of their men.

It suits them to have 'strong, independent women', who spend their slaves' money.

The end result is a generation of entitled women and weak men who are enslaved by their need for sex.

EmDeeEx14 · 2016-02-23T09:56:42+00:00

Boys do the same thing tho lol

[deleted] · 2016-02-22T22:37:37+00:00

**Instinct. Innate female biological instinct.

Title	Shit testing isn't learned; it's an inherent female tactic
Author	RedFedoraNeckbeard
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Date	February 22, 2016 4:08 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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