This should be something that should be substantiated. It should be able to be weighed and measured.

Sex does NOT count. It's a standard.

Cooking does NOT count. You should be able to cook your own damn food.

Cleaning does NOT count. You should be able to clean your own mess like your parents taught you.

"Companionship" does NOT count. Being with someone who contributes barely anything is dead weight. Seeking companionship by any means is how men get abused and most men can't even tell when their LTR is physically and emotionally abusive towards them.

In the end you should always ask yourself, "Would anyone else take this deal?"

If you could list all of the pros and cons of your LTR on a piece of paper, would you take it or leave it?

Now, I know that people can bring "intangibles" into your life. Such as giving good advice, non-combative, supportive, etc. But these things should be the norm.

I can assure you that if more than half of the men here in an LTR measured the worth of their S/O they would find them severely lacking.

Now if you do know this, or deep down you knew this all along, where do you go from here?

Well you have three options.

1) Leave

2) Stay and turn her into the woman you want her to be

3) Demote to FWB/Plate

There is no right or wrong choice in this matter, there is only your choice.

But you must be decisive and you must be honest. The longer you entrap yourself with someone of little value the harder it will be for you to break away from them and the likelihood of your own value dropping increases as well.

Edit: It seems people are completely missing the point. If sex is ALL she brings to the table then it does not count. If she's a shitty person that fucks your brains out - then she's just manipulating you.

If ALL she brings to the table is cooking yet she nags you to death and throws a tantrum whenever she doesn't get her way then you need to step back and evaluate her worth to you and your quality of life.

Its about being a complete package or as complete (to you) as possible. If she fucks your brains out, is a good companion and cooks but doesn't clean very well but she has checked enough boxes for you then by all means keep her.