When a girl is too submissive

_notanything_ · 2017-07-04T06:38:59+00:00

“I'm like a dog chasing cars, I wouldn't know what to do if I caught one ... "

You've made it a goal to have a submissive girl, but now you don't know what to do now that you have one.

You need to think past this. What do you want to do, and how can a submissive girl help you? A submissive girl is not the goal, but a means to an end.

You now have the perfect first-mate. What can you accomplish?

SLMC1 · 2017-07-04T06:07:50+00:00

nice, sweet girls are sort of boring and dependent. The girls who have spent time on the cock carousel are more fun

You lost me here. The more experienced girls always seem more boring to me. Nothing phases them, while the younger girls often have more vibrancy and sensitivity to life. I'm 31 and have been traveling with my 21 year old LTR, big cities she's never been to. Way more fun to travel and spend time with someone with fresher eyes, no?

sadomasochrist · 2017-07-04T03:54:40+00:00

Guide her you lazy fuck. Some of us had to break them down systematically for years.

Getthefupandgo1023 · 2017-07-04T04:29:19+00:00

Shit man, if there is one thing I have learned here, it is that women are a mirror to yourself. Mayhaps the reason she is boring is because...you know.

jerseymayan · 2017-07-04T07:51:17+00:00

Bro (OP), you almost sound like a female in your post. This girl views you as her King yet you complain? Sound familiar? Women dumping her blue pilled romantic simp just because he ain't Chad?

So what if your girl ain't Stefani (female for Chad,) she is submissive to you. Guide her like one of the posters said. I would love to have a submissive kinky little whore in the sheets who obeys me all the time.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-07-04T19:54:26+00:00

Posts like this remind me that I need to post and complain about how my cock is just Too Big. It's ginormous. The crotches of my jeans are too tight and when I get a hard on, I get light-headed.

Yeah, so, OP, I recommend that you cut her loose and go date Lucifer's Daughter. Then you can come here and post about how much that sux and how much you wish you had the boring girl back. If shit is boring then it's up to YOU to change it.

ttkkk · 2017-07-04T03:55:04+00:00

Well if she is that submissive threesomes might enlighten your mind :D

MrAnderzon · 2017-07-04T07:56:11+00:00

Are you complaining that you would rather have the girl lead than you?

You're the one that HAS to lead. Patrice O'Neal says it best

https://youtu.be/H0UYZmhrfbk

88Will88 · 2017-07-04T05:09:07+00:00

Jordan Peterson covers this in one of his videos. We want someone who challenges us. I also had a brief relationship with a low mileage (I was her second guy) "good girl". She thought the sun shone out of my ass. It was totally boring after a few months so I ended it. You are right CC riders (especially the crazy ones) are the most fun, but unsuitable for an LTR. Life is hard, there is no such thing as perfection in a relationship or anything else. All is compromise

Roaring40sUK · 2017-07-04T09:04:34+00:00

Dude, stop complaining and hamstering YOU sound like a woman..

Get a piece on the side and keep this one as an open LTR.

MattyAnon · 2017-07-04T11:52:31+00:00

Now I'm seeing all the practical downsides. She looks to me for everything. She can be independent. But I have to tell her 'go be independent.'

She has pushed responsibility for her life onto you. This gets old fast. Leading is one thing... but often they don't just follow, they make you the one running everything and doing all the work. Agree with you that it's a pain.

value a truly innocent, sweet-natured girl without resenting her for being boring.

Yes, but boring is boring. I'm with you on this, I hate it when girls aren't putting enough in and are just follow/follow/submit/follow.

XReverenceX · 2017-07-05T21:17:40+00:00

Having been in several relationships with women that were incredibly submissive and always getting bored and drained by them I've come to this new understanding.

The relationship we are discussing here regarding a submissive women is the type of dynamic where in the workplace, if you are the boss, you have an employee who can't even take an ounce of initiative to get things done that she has already had to do before. You get this annoyed drained feeling. She needs to take initiative without the direct concern of what boss will think. Just do it. If you fuck up I will let you down gently, if you do great I will praise you. When get horny as fuck when they earn praise from their master (if that's the dynamic).

Most women fear disapproval and much of these boring submissives are that way out of anxiety/fear and/or low overall intelligence combined with a very traditional upbringing.

My next main point....

I've come to find exactly the type of submission that pleases me and renews my affections for a woman when they start to get stale. Real and valuable submission is when the woman does not WANT to submit in general or in a specific situation, but due to HONOR and RESPECT for her man, she overrides her own will, and submits herself to yours.

You have to have a woman with enough independence to keep things challenging, but cultivate enough admiration honor and respect that she lays her own will down and chooses to be led by YOU.

LM_Jarson · 2017-07-04T04:53:00+00:00

You think too much and live too little. If you like her fuck her. If you don't dump her.

DontTreadOnSnek · 2017-07-04T14:36:23+00:00

The low mileage, truly nice, sweet girls are sort of boring and dependent. The girls who have spent time on the cock carousel are more fun but ultimately poisonous. Both are exhausting in their own ways.

I always seem to end up with the girl that needs me to tell her what to do every minute of the day - like you said, truly fucking exhausting after a while.

NeoreactionSafe · 2017-07-04T22:50:16+00:00

Does she have the genetics you want for reproduction if that's something you want to do?

If so, then I'd think about this one as a possible mother of your kids.

Marriage is redundant with the Child Support laws so you don't need to marry her, but you might want to have kids with her.

She sounds like an obedient girlfriend.

That's rare these days.

If her genetics are good enough to fuck, but you don't want to produce a child with her then maybe skip this one or demote her to a Plate.

These clinging submissive women will be hard to get rid of because they don't do the insane shit the Cock Carousel™ riders will do. With the typical slut she would be fucking ten different Chads, so Nexting them is really easy.

I remember being in one of these for three years. She was a great submissive gal, but she was mixed race and had this genetic issue where any scratch she got could create these big scars that would expand to 100x the size of the injury. Any child I'd have with her would have that as well as the fact she had a nose job before I met her so the kid might have a monster nose. You should think about these genetic issues if you are going to have kids. It's not like you got her pregnant already so you can think in a sober objective way whether she is a good pick.

In the end you are looking for either high quality DNA to mate with OR wild times with random sluts.

You need to figure out what you want.

Entropy-7 · 2017-07-04T18:42:23+00:00

There is submissive in the BDSM sense and then submissive in the domestic sense and then submissive in the sort of rudderless doormat sort of sense. I have had a hockey sock full of type I, a few that were type II and perhaps one that was type III but that got old quickly.

Hikage-best-knaifu · 2017-07-05T12:13:51+00:00

Holy shit I want to have your problems

Entropy-7 · 2017-07-04T18:27:11+00:00

I recall talking with a friend about a similar phenomena. His comment, which stands out, was: "For the purposes of this discussion, there are only two types of girls - stable and interesting."

BluepillProfessor · 2017-07-05T21:33:25+00:00

You sound like a used up player.

The low mileage, truly nice, sweet girls are sort of boring and dependent. The girls who have spent time on the cock carousel are more fun but ultimately poisonous. Both are exhausting in their own ways.

Yes they are. Good summary of 1/2 the species.

Like the slut who can't value a good man when she has one

You may be on to something.

Scurvemuch · 2017-07-05T21:41:01+00:00

yes. you are that slut.

change the game for yourself. What do you want? You want her to be more independent? Change the rules.

AncientWiseman88 · 2017-07-06T18:50:39+00:00

Just broke up with my own version of your low mileage sweetheart. Killed me to do it, destroyed her emotionally, but I knew I wanted someone a little more up tempo.

Toxic_Fem · 2017-07-10T14:29:11+00:00

Please break up with her. Not because she's too submissive but because she seems like a genuinely sweet girl and she deserves better. I'm not trying to hate on you, but people deserve to be with someone who appreciates them and really wants to be with them.

-IIIII--------IIIII- · 2017-07-04T17:53:31+00:00

There's no such thing as too submissive. Stop being whiny.

kkri3 · 2017-07-04T05:21:02+00:00

I totally get you. I had a short-lived relationship with a girl just like that. One time when I wanted to sex her, she seemed like she was in pain so I asked her what's the matter. It turned out that she fell down the stairs at her workplace, and her back was hurting, yet she didn't say anything. Shortly after this I decided to break up with her.

If you want to make your relationship more interesting, try to push your girlfriend to her limits, like fucking in public, threesomes, and whatever messed up stuff you would like to try out.

anon2777 · 2017-07-04T17:44:45+00:00

marry that bitch, there's worse things than being bored. don't feel sorry for yourself, you won. gg

maxrp · 2017-07-05T09:49:13+00:00

You sound like a man who doesn't know what he wants when just about all a man needs is right in front of you.

psycrabbit · 2017-07-04T13:08:08+00:00

Shit, you should live near me, it's all ball busting strong independent women here. I'd kill for a sub girl I can get to work on.

EPArt · 2017-07-04T17:13:39+00:00

If your that bored of her and your her master just release her to the wild and catch and train another Pokemon. Or trade with someone.

red_reality · 2017-07-04T20:24:34+00:00

She is just more needy than you. That gets annoying fast imo. Yes, she won't cheat on you, but she'll probably drive you nuts sooner or later.

G_Petronius · 2017-07-04T21:01:45+00:00

Now I'm seeing all the practical downsides. She looks to me for everything.

You let her saddle you with being in charge of her life. it's one of the simplest pitfalls with submissive women, especially when you can easily see what they should do and telling them seems easy and harmless. But it always leads to problems down the line.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2017-07-04T22:52:33+00:00

Why are you in a monogamous relationship in the first place?

Xoramung · 2017-07-05T00:51:51+00:00

Part of me thinks: she's great, but find a better girl.

Men don't have hamsters, do they?

[deleted] · 2017-07-05T16:48:14+00:00

If this was my situation, I would keep her and see where it goes and do whatever I wanted and make her do it with me. I would also request space because I am "getting attached and still feeling free spirited" and cheat with CC riders in the meantime.

This would keep me from getting one-itis, keep my game sharp, and I could also keep the relationship going to see what it might yield.

wtf_is_taken · 2017-07-05T20:45:55+00:00

I dunno man, I'd be in heaven. Good luck.

TheBloodEagleX · 2017-07-05T21:10:58+00:00

I think if you dump her, if she is a unicorn, she won't be one after and will swiftly end up like the rest.

caP1taL1sm · 2017-07-06T02:06:38+00:00

God this is me right now too.

I think I'm leaning with, find a better girl.

RPDrogan · 2017-07-07T08:27:18+00:00

Been in a similar situation mate. Ultimately I dumped her. It destroyed her and she would desperately hit me up whenever I was in town. Pretty much saying and willing to do whatever to get back together. Of course I turned the offer down.

I'm just not built for monogamy. No matter how few flaws the girl may have, I will always eventually get bored

Primary__Account · 2017-07-04T11:44:01+00:00

I'm pretty much in the same position as you but put in some work man. It's not hard unless you make it hard. Now if this is too much work for you and it's boring, next her.

midgetpooooo · 2017-07-04T06:29:07+00:00

Had an exactly similar situation. Loved her a lot of course, but she was so boring. Completely submissive to me to the point I could do anything I wanted to her. Had her eat my ass at every occasion just because of how degrading it made her look to me. Then I moved away and her hamster went spinning about how she needed to move on from me yada yada. So after I visited for a short while, I met up with her, told her how her behavior to me while I was away (talking on the phone) was unacceptable. Hooked up and then ended it there. Still friends though because why not.

billmartin3491 · 2017-07-04T07:31:58+00:00

I can relate to this. My current girlfriend is very similar and the one before that was even more submissive - it does get boring especially when they leave all of the decisions to you and you can predict their behaviour down to a T.

I think it all comes down to sexual polarity which I first heard about in a talk given by the daygame, Nick Krauser. The Thesis is that the more masculine men find women that are equally feminine. So if your 7 on the masculine scale, you will find a woman that is 7 on the feminine scale. If you leave her then it wouldn't surprise me if the next one you got with is the same.

AnAltofMine · 2017-07-05T00:29:20+00:00

You fucking nerd get off TRP and do something more with your life. You are fucking set relationship wise and you should have another goal besides women. You need to stop striving for women because you have a catch.

Title	When a girl is too submissive
Author	tryinreddit
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Date	July 4, 2017 3:46 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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