Why do guys always come on strong, texting every day then suddenly they pull away?

oscine23 · 2021-03-05T14:49:50+00:00

Because you're not making it easy for them. Or they have other women in rotation. They're not serious. They're an asshole. Or all of the above.

LittleWinn · 2021-03-05T14:28:31+00:00

If you haven’t met up for a date yet, end this. This kind of behavior doesn’t improve, especially if this is how he behaves after two weeks! This is him losing interest. Acknowledge it’s ok that your interest doesn’t align, and block and delete. Put your crown back on. 👑

nom-de-plume_12 · 2021-03-05T15:33:11+00:00

This is a very common tactic the LVM use. It can be due to two concrete reasons:

1) He is scrotating, as in he as couple of chicks at a backburner, so that he can pass his time getting attention from them while the main chick who he really is interested in isn’t responding to his advances or giving him time of the day. When the main chick does respond, he drops the other like hot bricks hence, the ghosting or less communication. Block and delete is the way to go forward you aren’t any LVM’s option.

2) He is pulling this tactic where he talks to you 24/7, making you emotionally dependent on him so that when he pulls a slow fade or completely ghosts you, he will expect you to chase after him because he knows you will question yourself or what you have done wrong. You haven’t done anything wrong. Do not chase the scrote. No double texting no initiating texts. If you want to teach him the same lesson, leave his message on seen when or if he messages you. If he then double texts you leave that message on seen also or don’t even acknowledge or see it. Keep doing this and he will wonder how’s she not responding to these fboy tactics. He will start questioning himself. He will be so pissed because you hit a bullseye when it comes to his fragile masculinity. Usually I don’t recommend playing with them like this. Block and delete works here like wonders too because any guy who pulls these stupid tricks isn’t worth the time of the day.

Now I say these are concrete reasons because I absolutely do not want you to give him or them benefit of the doubt ever. Nobody is ever that busy if you are what they want because in that case if they get super busy they give you a heads-up before itself so you don’t keep second guessing or questioning yourself. You are beautiful, you are amazing. Your beauty or image should not ever depend on how much effort men put to pursue you because 90% of them are pulling same tricks on beautiful and smart women out there. They just want to knock your confidence down and make you put them on a pedestal and cater to their every whim and take any chance to please them while they do the bare minimum.

VulperaBae · 2021-03-05T14:12:01+00:00

He probably a male coquette.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2021-03-05T18:41:14+00:00

I can't help but think that I'm just not very attractive

It wouldn't matter even if you were Aphrodite, the novelty of Aphrodite would wear off eventually if they take her as just another woman/face to look at.

It may be helpful to you to think of your own attractiveness as what piques men's attention at first, but it won't be why they stay. This isn't to say that your personality then is what's the problem, most guys on OLD never get to the stay phase, they are not looking to genuinely like someone, fall in love and form a relationship. There is no need to feel like you're in competition with other pretty girls for such insubstantial attention, even if you were the worst looking woman on OLD.

Previous-Focus-2013 · 2021-03-05T18:15:21+00:00

An infinite amount of reasons. Usually, because they were never interested enough or started talking to someone else.

Last year, just out of interest, I've entertained a couple of these dudes and it was the most disappointing experience in my dating life. The interest was slipping and I could tell the conversation was getting fragmented, they didn't remember things we talked about prior, it began feeling so forced I literally stopped responding. They STILL randomly texted me once in a while and the moment I replied we had a quick surface-level convo and it became fragmented again. I mean, it was crystal clear they were NOT interested anymore just getting validation probably or out of boredom. If it feels like it's a waste of time - trust your gut.

Cityshy · 2021-03-05T20:45:13+00:00

He's messaging lots of other girls the same thing at same time and losing interest in each of them after a few days to a couple of weeks. He = LVM. Nothing to do with you. Don't let these LV tactics make you doubt yourself.

penelopekitty · 2021-03-05T17:31:54+00:00

If you meet someone online and they don't ask you on a proper date within 48 hours, un-match block/delete. This will weed out timewasters and prevent you from becoming emotionally invested.

Villanelloh · 2021-03-05T21:42:25+00:00

Stop spamming this sub with the same questions. The answer is the same every time - block and delete

souredskittles · 2021-03-05T22:45:40+00:00

They are talking to another woman. This was always the case for me. I recommend you start doing the same, sounds like you are hung up on him already even if he’s putting minimum effort

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-03-06T03:27:11+00:00

Love bombing.

Because it works on women

Don’t fall for it, ghost his ass for playing games

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-03-08T00:40:55+00:00

They're talking to multiple women and/or don't know how to keep up even minimal effort in a consistent way.

ordinarilynightmare · 2021-04-01T20:15:49+00:00

Before FDS I was so desperate I would have freaked out over something like this but unfortunately the reality is like what everyone says... they are talking to other girls. Of course they never say that but that’s exactly what they’re doing.

Title	Why do guys always come on strong, texting every day then suddenly they pull away?
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Date	March 5, 2021 1:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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