Been a TRP follower for a few years now, and thought for several years there was no way I was going to get married given all the negatives and risks, and how few benefits there are for men.

However, after recently hitting 35 and doing well in my career and, I'll admit, seeing so many of friends and colleagues get engaged/married and start having kids in the last couple of years, I started to reconsider if the risks of marriage and kids may still be worth it, as long as they considered and accepted/mitigated up front. I come from a South Asian background, so it's definitely possible to find a virgin or at most n=1 type girl to import.

I fully recognize that marriage is TRP on hard mode, and that many people who get married and have kids regret it later on. However I've started feeling like I'm ready to have children and bring up the next generation, as fucked up as this world is.

At 35 I feel like I'm at a crossroads, where my SMV is near its peak in terms of youth, physical fitness, career, etc. - all things considered together. I could go down the traditional route (except the part about becoming lazy and fat - no way in hell I'll stop lifting), or just stay single and spin plates for a few more years.

Curious if anyone else went through this 'crossroads' - what did you decide to do and how did you think about it?